Why do we still love the people who have hurted us most? And what is the best way to forget about him?
Ok I met this guy when we i was 14 and he was 15 at that time. He gave me letters and even created a comic character based on how I looked way back in high school. When I went to college, he visited me in our house and we just hanged out together with our friends. On my 3rd year, I agreed to have a relationship with him but since I was his first, he did not have a clue on how to handle our relationship so i broke up with him after a month Dec 24 (was the date). After I graduated, I worked and I asked him to take me back and he did which lasted for 2 years. Last July he broke up with me without telling me the reason behind. A month after, he is already ina new relationship with a girl (whom her mother refer as someone like me). I ask him to tell me the truth but i do not think hes ready to talk. Now a friend of ours called me last month and he told me that hes bragging about his new gf, that he was he first to have sex with her and that he got revenge from what i have done before.
I know that Ive given a lot more in our relationship. Now my family is planning to migrate in the US next year and i know it to be the best way to move on but as of right now, I cant help myself from thinking about him. I dont want another bf just to get over him but i cant picture myself being with him anymore not even as friends. I am now 22 and he is 23. I am already working and he is still a student. I know he was so insecure about it but i just think it was unfair that he just dumped me without even fighting for what he had. Weve known each other for 8 years and he dumped me for a girl who is also a student. Logically, I know what to do…just move on..and think he is a loser for dumping me…but it is easier said than done. Can someone give me a more logical explanation and help me in moving on? And if it is healthy to see him as a friend next year because eventually our friend will come home and wanted to see us?
Im sorry if its long..this is just a gist.
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The only way to really get over him is with time. You need to stop thinking about him (which is beyond hard) and you need to not talk about him … to your friends or his or anyone. Only way is to get him out of your life.
I am sorry to say but he sounds like a jerk from what you put here and you do not need someone like that in your life. It will take a little time but trust me you will get over him.
Give up wondering why he left because you will never get an answer and the not knowing and constant wondering why will make you crazy. By thinking of him or speaking of or about him to people you are giving him the power …. and you have to take that power back. Also you need to let yourself heal … and get to the point where you can finally understand that these things happen and he is the one that is losing out … not you.
You will find the right one some day when you are ready and you will wonder why you spent so much time wasted on thoughts of this guy!
to get over them u just need to distance urself from them ….. move on and find someone else who will like u for who u are and who will make u happier than that other person will ever make u. i went through sort of the same thing and once i finally let it all go and found someone new then i was much happier and realized that the guy i used to love sucked and was never really nice to me anyways. im much happier now that i let it go and found someone new and believe me u will too
this is a very hard situation…obviously if he’s out to get revenge on you he doesn’t really care about you. Also, i don’t think he really loves this girl..he’s just using her to get back at you. but don’t let it get you down..go out with your friends…meet some new people. You have to let this guy go..it’ll take some time but you’ll be able to do it.
Find happiness some where else. Lots of people feel they can’t live life without that person in their lives. Not true! someone else is out there for you. You will never find him until you move on from this mess. You deserve better and he hasn’t mature since he is in and out of you life will having someone else.
I was in a relationship for 7 years off and on. Was suppose to get married this month but broke it off in may. Why we still love the people who hurt us I really wish I could ask that for you. But the best way to forget about him is cold turkey. Don’t call your friends to see how he is doing. As for the person who told you that he was braggin there person maybe isn’t really a friend because a true friend wouldn’t come back and tell you things that they know could potentially hurt you. You have to treat him as if he was a drug that you were hooked on. Cold turkey is the way that I did it and I couldn’t be happier now. If only there was a rehab for love
DO WHAT EVER YOU HAVE TO DO 2 FORGET ABOUT THEM GO OUT HAVE FUN START DATING WHEN U SEE THEM JUST ACT LIKE U NEVER KNEW THEM HIDE YOUR PAIN.