im 19 years old, had huge break up with 2 year gf, my first love, does love ever die? can i love again?
i made a question earlier about how my 2 year gf left me, when she moved to uni, and got with another boyfriend just 2 weeks later. i was so mad and felt so betrayed, i posted pics on facebook of her naked, that just made me feel worse,
she left me a month ago, she made no effort to contact me and is very clear she doesnt love me anymore.
how ever, everyday i still wake up and she is the first thing i think about, when i was with her, i really did stop thinking about other girls completely.
my whole life i only ever wanted one girl, just one a perfect girl, i really thought she was the one.
problem now is, i have 2 mates who never do anythink, no contacts, no way of meeting new people, im scared i will never find anyone special again,and worse is it posible to truly love again? does love ever die?
will i always be afraid to open my heart to some one again, will i always fear love. will i always live in fear of it happening again?
does it ever get easy?
how can love be so painful?
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First off… sorry to hear about the break up. Those are always tough.
Secondly… if you haven’t already done it… you need to remove those pictures. That is not something a good guy would do. Doing something like that makes you look like a total jerk (and I’m being nice) and loser. Taking pictures is already bad. Posting them is worse… I mean that’s pretty low… and you should feel bad.
You will get over the break up but it takes time. Put away any pictures or gifts or anything that reminds you of her. Then just stay busy. Hang out with friends and family and go have fun.
Sometimes girls and guys will go into a "rebound" relationship. It just kind of helps them cope with the break up. I’m not sure what happened as far as your break up. But your actions of posting pictures up is NOT cool at all (very immature among other things).
When you’re ready to get back out there… try something new. Maybe there’s something you would like to learn or try out. Join a sports club or co-ed sports league. Learn martial arts, take a dance class, take a cooking class. Go back to university or college and take a course.
By doing that you’ll meet people with similar interests as you. You’ll make friends (guys and girls) and have more exposure. Maybe the guy friends might have a sister or cousin that they set you up with. Or maybe there might be a girl you’ll become interested in.
When ever you fall in love… you risk getting hurt. It is very painful to get your heart broken. You won’t always be afraid of getting hurt. Love is worth the risk because when you find the perfect girl… I can’t even put it into words. : )
Posting naked pictures is/was an immature thing to do. Yes she broke your heart, but you could RUIN her life with those.
It sucks to have your heart broken, but it is part of life. I have had my heart broken numerous times. It takes time, but you get over it eventually.
The odds of you being with one person your whole life are slim to none. It is the exception, not the rule.
Now take down those pictures because that makes you a jerk. And start doing something that will take your mind off of her.
It will eventually in time, first love is hard to forget cause they’re special but if keep your mind busy with other things to occupy you wont even think about it.
Life is too short, invest your kindness to others who needs a really friend right now. By the way, posing your ex naked pics on facebook is very immature and lacking in self esteem. Its not a good way to get even. Yeah, your ex has a reason to be mad at you.
Anyways, best of luck to you bud. Dont worry take this as a life learning experience you will know the next time around how to treat a lady with common respect and courtesy. Stop looking for her and let her find you.
move on she has there is some one better and if it was mint to be then she will come back
im a very sorry:( in your life theres gonna be a lot of girls that will break your heart. it took me 6 months to get over my first love. i know it sucks. just try to keep your selfbusy. exercise or get another job. you’re gonna love again its just gonna take a while. just for now try to have fun. u only live once right? just dont go out looking for love it will come to u. i promise. goodluck:)
simaller thing happened to me last year mate (didnt post pics of her anywhere or anythin tho! That will never make u feel better) but i know how it feels. Id been with the girl for 5years though!
You will feel terrible for a while, but eventually youll get over it, meet someone else, love again and be happy! I havent met anyone myself yet but im over her, and a lot happier.
As for socialising i also know what you mean, as id lost contact with some friends, others were loved up with girlfriends still, and some just wont go out! I got myself invited to parties, went out drinking on my own sometimes(your never alone for long if u make new friends!). Also tried a dating site, which meant at least i could take women out sometimes!
You could join a club thats for something your interested in.
I also used my time to sort my own life out and make it better, learnt guitar, things like that. Keep occupied to take your mind off missing her and feeling sorry for yourself!
Losing love hurts more than anything, and seeing your ex with a new partner so soon is like an extra kick in the balls, i know! But you will get over this in your own time, maybe quicker than u think! Hang in there mate, good luck