I’ve been dating/talking to this guy for about a month and a half (though I met him a month prior). He’s…wonderful. I know he cares, he doesn’t have his mind on one thing and he really does adore me. I appreciate so many things he does for me & according to him he feels he "should be doing more b/c it’s not enough". Things are goin surprisingly well and since day 1, we’ve always been super comfortable w. each other.

Sooner or later, the "sex" talk was going to be brought up. (I’m actually surprised that he didn’t ask me right away). Thing is, I’m nearing my mid 20′s and i’m still a virgin. I’m not ugly w. a nice personality, nor weird…i’m very protective and picky…it just didn’t happen…didn’t feel right during those times. I’ve done other things BUT "that". I’ve only cared for 3 guys in my life. First boyfriend, i loved him but wasn’t "in love" and there was no chemistry; 2nd guy had too many STD’s and the 3rd…wasn’t "real love"…I just don’t wanna let it go so easily. I’m not ashamed at all yet past experiences have made me be a bit more conscious about it. My virginity was a deal breaker for some guys I’ve dated and as much as i’m "better off", it still kinda hurts. I’ve also dealt w. numerous guys that have only wanted 1 thing but I never let him succeed. With this guy, he’s not like other guys i’ve dated…i actually care about him…alot. So I was very hesistant/nervous/scared/anxious in telling him. So when I did, I got the typcal reaction, "geuninely shocked" and asked if i was really joking/lying "b/c there’s no way a pretty girl like you, would still be a virgin." (as I get fr. alot of guys i’ve dated). I got sensitive to it and just cried. And after he soaked it all in said, "babe, even if you stayed a virgin ’til the day you die, it doesn’t matter…and its okay, don’t worry. I’m not here for that. I want you and that love you give me b/c i’m happy…" The reason I get insecure is b/c guys can say how much they "respect" it and their gone or create their escape plans…i actually care about this guy. He then said, if it was a problem to him, the rest of the conversation would be awkward and we still stayed on the phone for another 2 hrs. He’s still normal around me and to make me feel better, he suggested to stop w. the "sex talk" and if I feel okay to talk it out, then we would another time. He admitted that for him as a guy, his # of women (who he slept w.) is considered "low" for a guy. I asked if he was relived hearing about me and he said, "a bit but it really doesn’t matter". Anyhoo, things are fine but I can’t helpt but feel insecure…

I’m not pressured to do anything w. him….but opening up that virgin confeeision made me get insecure. How can I rebound back and stop being insecure about it?
He’s a "shy guy" type btw…if that helps…and the # of girls he’s slept w? you can count in one hand and it’s been w. his serious, long term gf’s…i’ve got a good guy


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