Will no contact with my ex boyfriend make him come back to me or push him away?
Does no contact when you want your boyfriend back work? He broke up with me last Saturday because I confessed a lie to him and he said that once he fixed himself up we could try again but I am starting to not believe that. We went no contact until I called him Tuesday to check on me and he never called back. I just told myself that it is over and I didn’t try to call or email again. I am accepting the break up and the possibility that we may never get back together again. Does he miss me? Am I doing the right thing by moving on? We talked at least 4 hours a day and were on the computer instant messaging all through the day while we worked. I can still see his status on face book and it still says in a relationship and his instant message program still shows our picture together. Does he just need time to regroup? Will he come back out of his man cave? Am I doing the right thing by preparing for the inevitable future without him?
People make mistakes and I made a huge one. I am not perfect and I came to him with the truth. He didn’t find out from anyone else or have an inclination that I lied to him. I wanted to be mature and fix the situation between us and if he can’t forgive me or doesn’t want to be with me through the tough parts and the thick and thin, then maybe he wasn’t the one for me. I should be able to come to my partner and tell my partner the good, bad and ugly about me and he has the choice of accepting me or not. The partner that accepts me for who I am with all of my flaws is the partner for me.
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The best advice here is to prepare to move on, grieve if you must and leave him alone.
If he really does truly love you, he’ll eventually get lonely enough and miss you enough to come back.
As far as his facebook or what have you. People rely too heavily on the internet to gather facts. If you really MUST know what he’s up to then call him or do a F2F with him.
The internet is a wonderful place but its not the best way to deal with breaking up with someone, like sending a text or email saying "We’re done. Stick a fork in it."
I think he’s just fuming and simmering. If he loves you more than his pride or ego, he will come back.
May I make a suggestion to you? Maybe the two of you should spend more time trying to work out things and not lie to each other. If you are emotionally intimate with each other you should be able to say anything to each other without judgment or fear of condemnation. In other words, you may not like what you hear, but its better to address things and change your behaviors for each other, than pining away in a half-baked relationship.
You want your relationship to thrive and not shrivel so to do that you have to work on it every day. No relationship maintains itself. It takes both of you, some commitment, devotion and time on a daily basis. Just a little bit every day helps.
Think of yourselves as partners in everything you do. By including each other in the deal, you’re both stuck together like glue and that helps you keep things happy and rolling along.
All the best of course.
Yes, prepare mentally to move on. You lied, ugh, that’s my pet peeve so I can’t blame him for being upset. Just move on, find someone else b/c he has basically given you permission to do so. If he wants you, he will let you know. He already knows you want him, I am sure you were very apologetic after getting busted and he knows this so nothing more needs to be said.
Every man is different. I can’t tell you which decision he’ll take because he could take either one!
I admire the fact that YOU have accepted the breakup and can move on your ownterms. Both of you might be playing the hard headed game. If you tell him you’re willing to make it work and he doesn’t come back, then you have to accept the fact that he won’t be anytime soon.
Write him your feelings, and leave it at that. Be honest, direct, and specific about how you feel. If he wants to reciprocate he will. Try to lose any expectations, for you may be let down.
Sorry, good luck
well if you two broke up then you need to put that into your head and see that you two broke up if he does not call you or e-mails your or even texts you then he is done with you, you never should lie if you are in a relationship that is how cheaters start and no trust comes into play in a relationship so next time don’t lie about anything you don’t have to tell them(guys) everything you did just if he asks don’t lie about it eventually if comes back to bit you in the as* just like it did for you on Saturday. anyway its over get over him that is why its called an EX your done…
I would say just wait. If he really wanted to move on from you he wouldn’t still say "in a relationship" or have your picture together. He obviously needs time to think about stuff and relax. Yes prepare but don’t take action. You don’t want to start getting interested in another guy if he comes back and you’re stuck between the two. Just wait a while and he’ll tell you himself =] But be prepared for him saying ye won’t get back together as well just in case. Don’t get your hopes up too high but don’t get rid of them either =]