how do you get over soon to be ex-wife that cheated on you that your still inlove with and have children with?
i still have to comunicate with her because we have kids together.
everytime i see her i want her back but all the pain keeps coming back and she is still seeing that other a**hole. it hurts
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been down this kind of road your walking on now, the pain will never be gone completely, as time goes on the pain will ease up and you will regain your self back. learn from this with the understanding that not all women do this to their husbands. and people do make mistakes with some being devastating to the ones left holding their harts after it being ripped from their chest.
getting her back is what you want for you want your life to return to the way it was prior to any cheating, getting her back isn’t what you need right now, you’ll have trust issues with her that will drive you both apart and working out problems in a relationship will take two people that want it to work, truly want it to work. at this time i don’t see this being on her list of things to do.
it’s all about you and your kids right now, try as hard as you can not to think that your going to get her back in time. if and when this ever does come around and the opportunity presents it’s self to you then and only then should you leap to the chance. it’s going to be a upward walk everyday for some time now, and you must keep you mind on what will be the best for you and your kids, her watching this will in time show that you are the stronger parent and she might have made the most devastating mistake of her life.
if and when she does want to return to being a family again you need to now that it will never be as it was, no amount of work can change your memory and that memory will have issures with her and the choises she made. untill you have walked this road and feel the pain it has to offer you, people have their own words to offer you and I too had told many people that i would do this and that, and the day my ears heard the word from the love of my life, i pray others will never have the pleasure of hearing them in their life.
i would tell every one dealing with this pain not try reconnecting with their partner till the pain has passed and your ready to try woking on the real problems in hand, most people never wake up one morning and head out the door to cheat on their partner, most is the aftermath of a problem at home or with their partner, finding out what the real problem is and how to overcome it is where you need to start working up to the cheating, and working it in this order will let you know why she felt the way she did.
time will heal the pain and learning from the past is the only way we can improve our furture, take your time and good luck with the path your walking down, remembering that your not walking it alone for thats why it’s a path, many have walked it and many more will.
My friend, I’m sorry. You will get over it, but it will take time, patience, determination, and forgiveness. And yes, it hurts.
Unfortunately , only time will heal the pain. Keep busy , doing things you enjoy, and even if you are not interested in having a relationship right now, go out with a group of friends. Believe me it will help
thats something you will never get over. you have children with this person which will always be a reminder
Listen, you be a good father to those kids and don’t let her hurt you this bad. Let her see that other son of a **tch, but you stay happy and then while she sees this she will come to understand that hey I messed up let me go back to be with him and by then it will be too late. By then I hope you will find a really good woman that can understand where your coming from so don’t worry, people like your ex-wife will always come out on bottom almost always so don’ tworry, just be happy with your kids and love them, make sure you don’t take out on them because of your wife’s actions.. Good Luck!
i feel your pain. i guess with time and how you use that time to heal. the pain may never all the way go away, but it will lessen depending how you treat yourself during this ruff uncomfortable time. The good thing ( i guess) is that she is not telling you to forgive her and keeping him a secret while working on you. At least she has made her choice loud and clear. be grateful for that. the kids will still have a dad and a mom even under such unfortunate circumstances.
it will get better just use your healing time wisley.
sorry to hear this ….but it will take time to get over her. even though she did you wrong. have you started dating yet? because this too will help you to heal somewhat. and get your mind off of her so much , if you have someone new to think of. good luck
what comes around goes around – the man has no honor, who to say that he won’t cheat on her with someone else?
all the strength to you during this rough time
My friend,it’s not the end of the world!The kids will always be yours and the women come and go.Take advantage of this situation and learn.She did you a favor!There are so many wonderful women out there that don’t cheat.I know it hurts now, but use those feelings to get ahead of the game.Concentrate on finding a women that looks better than her.That alone will hurt her!You can do so much better.I know because I have been there.At first my X was just so hard to get over but now she’s a big fat chick with 4 kids and my wife now is Hot.She hates it, but so what! LoL
Dear Davedidd,
Why do this??? You are better than this. The kids will always be yours, but do not see her and just tell yourself that you have to do this for the kids. You want seconds??? come on. you are better!!!!!
Time will eventually heal the heart. It doesn’t go away overnight. Though, it would make our lives less painful if it did.
Time will heal these wounds. I’ve been down this road, and I wondered the same thing. My ex-wife cheated on me, and we had a daughter who was two years old at the time (she’ll be five next month). My daughter lives with the ex, but I see her three to five days a week, depending on work and/or school schedules. It took a little getting used to, but things were cool after a while.
The best way for me to get over it was just to keep on doing the things I normally did and going about my everyday life. It helps to have a friend or family member you can talk to. Even if they haven’t gone through the same thing, it’s just good to have someone who will listen, because it can be a lonely time. Just don’t feel sorry for yourself. The way I looked at it was, she was the one who cheated, and she’s going to have to live with that. Stay strong. It will get better. Just be yourself.
I feel for you, I don’t have kids but I just found out my wife cheated on me twice maybe 3 times while I was on my last deployment to Iraq. She still won’t admit to it but all the pins line up. Too many people, too many stories and they all match up. Also she confessed to cheating on me with 2 women during time apart as well. I have now filed for divorce and am waiting for the courts to finalize it. It is the hardest thing I’ve ever done and that will probably never change. I wanted to believe that it wasn’t true and believe my wife but sometimes things are so obvious Ray Charles could see them and you just have to accept the facts no matter how bad they may hurt you. I hope for our sake that everyone’s advice is right. I’ve joined a new gym and enrolled back in school to finish my degree. Like they said…trying to keep busy. Good luck man.