Can you be friends with your ex?
My and my ex were best friends for nearly two years before we had a nine month relationship. We agreed to split up following a tricky period and while he appeared to move on fairly quickly I’m still having trouble letting go. He still tells me he loves me and says he’s mad about me. We’ve kissed regularly since breaking up and I thought the spark was definitely still there. Earlier tonight I asked him if he wanted to get back together but he said he didn’t want to have a relationship since he loves flirting too much and just wants to do stuff with me without commitment.
Is there a way we can move on from this and be friends again, or is the only way for me to move on just to let him go and move on with my life?
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You need to set some rules. It’s be with me and only me or here is the door.
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it changes everythingggggggggggggggg
its kinda weird tho.. just being friends
He doesn’t sound capable of being your friend. It sounds like he wants to get physical things from you without having to give you attention.
Move on.
This guy isn’t even a good friend let alone a good boyfriend.
I don’t think your guys can be friends right now because it sounds like you still have hopes of getting back together. Besides he allready told you that he just wants to hit it without having a committment to you so no, i think you should move on with your life and find someone who truly loves you and wants to be with you. I don’t think the friendship thing is going to work out. If you are friends with him and he starts to tell you about all the hot girls he’s dating how would you feel?
Let it go and move on.
friends draw the line …………well you know where….
It would be best if you moved on with your life and then you would be able to be friends with him. Right now, you are needy and he is available. This is not a good basis for a relationship. When he sees you in a relationship, he may decide that he is interested in you.
Well, if you’re going to be friends, you need to stay just that. No more kissing, flirting, hooking up, etc. Besides, a guy who says he "just wants to do stuff with you without commitment" is a tool.
Nope. Not for you hunny. Not until that spark you feel is gone. Friends can become lovers, but lovers can never really go back to being best friends. It is possible SOMETIMES, but the only way to ensure this is to cut him out of ur life completely and move on, no more hooking up, no kissing. nothing. no talking. etc. and then when/if you feel you have no more feelings left for him, get in contact with him and see what happens.
It’s going to be very hard and take ALOT of time. I don’t think it’ll ever stop being akward but if the friendship is strong enough it can last. It will never be the kind of friendship it was before tho.
yes many people does that if their relationship did not work out
Honestly, I think you should just tell him that if he wants to kiss you there needs to be commitment. Chances are the reason he wont commit himself to you is because you arn’t the only one he’s fooling around with.
He has told you that he wants to have sex with you, and also with other women. He says he does not want to commit to you. He appeared to move on fairly quickly. Your words.
He is using you. You deserve better. Don’t be friends with him. I suggest keeping yourself busy with a project for a couple of weeks till your heart has healed.
i broke up with my girlfriend and she says i’m the only one she wants to have sex with.
personally…i say you should cut it off. give it TIME, and THEN be friends. It’s to soon to hang out and having sex would probably have a negative effect on the process. who knows though, sex is so fun
No, it sounds like you are still really into him, and you will give in every time he wants to do something in hopes it will make him want to be with you. Don’t waste the pretty sweetheart he moved on and so should you. Its sucks to lose the friendship but its never going to be the same.
I wouldn’t call a man who wants to take advantage of you by "doing stuff with you" while maintaining his freedom a "friend". If you’re honest with yourself, I’m sure you wouldn’t either. You’re just having trouble letting go. LOOK at what you’re pining over: A man who would take advantage of people for his own physical pleasure. I wouldn’t touch this guy with a ten-foot pole. Do yourself a favor and move on.
Since you still have feelings for him, this will make being friends pretty hard. I’ve tried it a number of times in my life, and I’ve found that you can be friends after taking some time apart to get grounded again. I suggest you don’t talk to him much for a couple of months and then determine if you want to try to maintain the friendship. I wish you the best, the world is full of different people to get to know.
you can–but you have to set bounderies–if friends is all it is going to be–you need to stop the kissing completely and distance yourself where aren’t so readily available to talk–if you examine your feelings and decide you don’t want just friendship then you need to move on and stay away from him completely–there cannot be a half-measure–he’s keeping you hanging on as a back-up because he knows you want more—the decision is yours and it won’t be easy if you decide to try to be friends only
this exact same thing happened to me…i tell u no lie…me nd my ex went out for 8 months…we talked for like a year…but after a while he was trying to move on without me and be with other girls and i wasnt trying to have that…it was hell and i caused every mintue of if because i didnt think it was fair that he was so quick to jump into it with someone else…so w/e..then he got the idea that hu ever he was going to try to be with i was goin to ruin it and he stopped…we talked for a few more months…u kno had sex…bla bla bla…and then one day he got a girlfriend without telling me…i didnt know what to do…i had no choice but to be friends with him…i mean every other day i was telling him how much i hated him and stuff but that was just my way of getting over him…some ppl have different methods…thats just an idea…it is absolutely fine to be friends with him tho…why not?…but i said all of that to say this…if he is serious about not going back with u then maybe u should find someone to replace him…not litterally but physically u kno…someone to talk to at night…someone to hang out with…just to prove that u can make it without him u kno…it may hurt but in due time the pain will heal…i did that and now im with my present boyfriend and he’s definitely sent from heaven…good luck girl!!
this is a difficult question. some people can actually just be friends after a break up…it is possible,but then there are those people that still deep down have feelings for the other. i think u should sit down with them and tell them that u only want to be friends..no benefits…if he can really accept this then be friends…if not move on
you can’t be friends if you still have feelings for him, unless of course "pain and heartache turns you on". What else do you expect, anyone to say who wants "extra helpings of cake and to eat it too", exept that he loves you, is mad about you. If there was a hint of truth to it, you wouldn’t be an ex, in fact, you’d probably be married.
Be on your way, find another man, if you hang around you’ll only get used, hurt, each time he finds a new girl, sooner or later he may fall fast and hard. And you’ll end up shattered and humiliated.
Find a life without him, but remember, it would be very normal for him to be a bit jealous, if you found another, so don’t make the mistake of running back.