can you take your ex to court because she didnt change back to her maiden name?
My exhusband told me in his last email….(didnt ask anything about the kids) that he is going to take legal actions against me just because I have not changed back to my maiden name. First of all, I have decided to keep the last name due to our kids carrying the same name….I feel that if I remarry again, that will be the only way I will change my name…of course. The problem I have here is that I have written emails to him about calling the kids and he chickens out and says that I push the kids to try and want to talk to him on the phone too much and he feels that I should not force them to do this….so if they do not want to talk to him…why should he call? My ex does live in Germany now with his wife and four kids…he hardly has anytime to spend time with his own family, let alone call to talk to our kids here in the states…I can imagain how it is…he is in the military. This I understand but you would think that he can at least spend five min of his time to try and find time to talk to the kids. I may be pushing it too much in this aspect but I do not know much of what is really going on over there. So I have stopped the emails. Heck, I can not even call either because his wife answers the phone. He is not home…or so it seems.
I also have reason to believe that he may be contacting his friends and other family members but not wanting to try and talk to his own kids…so I posted an blog on myspace about that and because of this last blog he got upset and wrote me this email about "taking legal actions" on me so that I can no longer use his families name….I just laughed really because I never have heard anything like it before….so I want to know for certain if this can happen though.
(You see to me…it has always been about the kids in the emails and to him…I don’t even think he really cares to know how his kids are doing…..it is now, that I will see what the kids think of him sometime later down the road..)
I think also, that since he married another woman with my first and middle name…he thinks that I should change it because of that too….his wife even told me once that he actually wanted her to keep her former married name due to me keeping my married name….he lothes me that much, I guess.
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He must be kidding. Ignore him and don’t post any blogs that might offend him, even though he is your ex, don’t forget that he is the father of your children.
Lol….. no but why would you want his last name wheather your kids have it or not or whatever the situation??
No he can’t. You legally chnaged your name when you got married. Tell him to go get a life and leave you alone.
I don’t think he can. You have a very good reason for keeping his name. You two had children TOGETHER. I would also want the same name as my children. Good luck hun. Hope it works out for the best!
He is on to much crack, no he can’t do that.
No he can’t make you change your name.
As far as the kids, I would stop trying to get him to talk with them. This is only going to make him resentful and it will be the kids that suffer for this. He may not call and talk to him much. But as they get older the calls will probably be much more frequent.
You can have ANY last name you like . Your ex husband can try to sue you if he finds a lawyer dumb enough to take the case … but YOU WILL WIN.
Look in the papers you got from the court and see if it was required of you to change your name back. If it doesn’t say you had to change it back, then you have no worries.
If he is in another country and too busy to even care about his own children, I doubt he will have the guts or the time to even take that legal action he was talking about.
I can understand you wanting to keep it because of the children. I changed my name back and I am not even divorced yet, but I do not have any kids.
No, there is no law requiring you to go back to your maiden name. I go by my first married name (for my kids) hyphenated with my second married name. My last 2 kids I had after I got divorced but before I got remarried also go by my first married name. Confusing I know…My ex-husband hardly ever calls or sees our 2 sons either., He’s too busy with his most recent wife and their 3 kids. We only live one state away from each other.
No he can’t. Unlike you though, I decided to return to my maiden name because no matter my name I will always be my daughters mother and also because we were the only two with the same last name where we work (we wear our names on our uniform’s) and I was sick of having people think I was still his wife. Anyways, it is YOUR choice, not his.
they will tell you should have taken care of this when you were at your divorce preceding or brought it up in your reasoning
Nope, he can’t. You can keep it forever. You can even still call yourself "Mrs. HisName" if you want!
PS. I have a feeling his new wife is the one who really wants you to change your name!
He can try, but he’ll just be wasting his time and money. If he does try to take you to court, make sure you ask the court that he pay your legal fees for filing a frivolous law suit.
if you wanted to change your name & you stated he was your ex husband,it is in your final divorce decree that states you can use your maiden name ordered . Ignore him become your own person
Save every email that idiot sends you. Always be calm in your replies. If he gets rude or bullying, tell him you are going to file a complaint with the police and notify his commanding officer of his abusive behavior.
Tell him that you have no intention of changing your LEGAL NAME, and if he doesn’t like that, too bad, that you suggest he change HIS NAME if it bothers him so much.
See, he GAVE YOU THAT NAME. He can’t take it back.
Also, if he’s in the miilitary, tell him that if he contacts you again demanding such foolishness about the name, that you are going to send copies of all of his threatening emails to the JUDGE ADVOCATE GENERAL and his commanding officer at the base where he works in Germany because his threats are meaningless and petty and what he is doing in harassing you is bringing discredit upon the military.
Tell him you’re not playing, either–that you MEAN IT.
I hope he is supporting his kids. If not, you need to notify his commanding officer–they can make him do that.
As for you, stop blogging about this guy. Stop living your life on the damn internet. You’re finished with him. You are divorced, put all that crap behind you. Concentrate on your family. MOVE ON.
What you might want to do is get a VONAGE phone (internet phone==VOIP, a phone that attaches to the computer) so your kids can call their father via the computer and it’s pretty cheap–only about twenty five bucks a month. There are even cheaper ways to do it, too–cheap-o phone cards, and so forth. But leave that up to your kids–if he wants to be a bad father, that’s on HIM.
If he doesn’t want to talk to his kids, he’s a jerk. There is nothing you can do. Just make sure he pays the child support.
Once you married him, your last name was legally changed to his last name. The name belongs to you, until you decide you want to legally change it to something else. He can complain all he wants, but there is nothing he can do.
When it comes to your children. I can understand you wanting your children to have a relationship with their father. But…you can’t force a man to want to be in his children’s lives. You need to let this go. Don’t contact him unless one of the children are sick or it’s an emergency. Don’t ask him to call or visit his children. Let him decide if he wants to or not. Don’t force the children on him.
what a loser. too busy for his kids that he made with you… too busy for his current kids now. well, he made babies with you but now he’s too good for em?! then why should you care and dwell your life away over him. you need to move on. and why are you making it so easy for him -handling him the opportunity to speak to your children so easily. why should he get to enjoy the company of your children when he makes no effort to even contact them. obviously he’s not that type of man to step up to the plate. so leave that lil loser alone and go collect your baby mama money. his last name, he’s just being a winny baby. I’d keep it just to stick it to him! but seriously- maybe you are still attatched to him. you dont need his last name, yet you keep it. in this day and age no one will judge you for having different last name from your children. you should drop it, it will help you move on from him. dont take pride i someone who does not have pride in you.
NO. You have a legal right at the time of divorce to take your maiden name or your married name. It is not his choice.
He can try, but he’ll just waste his money on court costs and the case will be thrown out. Your name was legally changed, and there’s nothing in the law that requires divorcees to change their name back.
Secondly, changing your name back would cost some money. Does he care to share? Idiot, so glad you aren’t married to him.
You do not have to change your name.
I would stop posting your personal business on Myspace. I understand that you are upset that he is not more of a father to your kids but purposely trying to piss him off isn’t making it better.
get real……. when you got married… you legally changed your name
when you get divorced…. you do not have to change it back.
nor can you be forced to change it.
She needs to change her last name , and all yall EX B***S there do the same
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If u have a right to leagally change your name cuz u legally goit married then u should legally change it back to your maiden name when u are no longer legally married to this person ..Why do woman keep doing this…for godsake have some pride what’s the big deal … Yous are no longer married why keep the name ..mand don’t use your kids as a pawn cuz hello they know your divorced too…