How do I get him back after a breakup months ago?
I know I’ve asked a question about this before, but I want new answers. I really like this guy who broke up with me months ago. He’s four years older than me, while I’m in 8th grade. He told me he loved me, and I know he meant it. He broke up with me because he doesn’t want to hurt me. He’s probably afraid that he’s going to want more from me if he really starts to like me (you know what I mean). He knows I’m not ready for something like that, especially considering my age. But, I trust him, and I love him more than anything. I haven’t gotten over him, though I’ve tried to by looking at other guys, but I can’t get him out of my head. I haven’t gone a single day without thinking about him since I met him last summer. We are friends right now, but I want to be with him again. I’m afraid if I say anything I’ll lose him as a friend if he says no. Whenever I see him, he flirts with me A LOT! I told my mom how he acts, and she says he probably still likes me. I trust what she says, because she’s been through the life of a teenage girl herself once. He acts just like he did the first time I met him. I miss him, I love him, and I want him back, but I don’t know how to get him back. And in case this helps, this boy was my first boyfriend, and my first kiss. We kissed the night of the day we met. He asked for a goodnight kiss because I had to leave the party, and I said yes.
Please help. I love him. I want him back.
I would appreciate serious answers.
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The problem is that he is 4 years older than you. You’re in the 8th grade, about to be a freshman in high school, he’s as senior about to be a freshman in college. Now if you were 18 and he was 22, no one would care, but right now, him hanging out with you presents a small problem to him. He may want to do things with you right now, but he can’t because you’re still a minor and he’s now (legally speaking) an adult.
Now as for getting him back. the first thing you have to realize is that he has more options to him right now than you do. He can drive a car, you can’t. He can get into a club, you can’t. He probably has more money than you and can go buy whatever he wants. Long story short, the way to win his heart isn’t going to be with money or abilities. It’s going to be with your heart. You are about to have the hardest fight of your life. You are going to have to show him that you are the girl of his dreams and that he is missing out on the one who truly loves him. The question becomes how to do this. The answer is not sex. I know he wants this and you may want to give it to him, but trust me, save it for later. Save it for when you know for certain that he loves you back and truly wants to be with you. Save it for when you know he’s yours.
You are going to have to show him how you love him with acts of kindness, patience, and love. Depending on how long it has been since you’ve seen him, either send him a little card or just walk up to him and talk to him. If you send him a card, then enclose a letter telling him how you feel, scent it with your favorite perfume, and seal it with a kiss. (literally) Do that and he’ll get the message. Then it’s up to him as to how he responds. If you see him in person, then find some place where you two can be alone together and tell him how you feel. Kiss him the way that you want to be kissed by him. Then wait for the response. How he feels is every bit as important as how you feel. If he’s being cautious because of the age difference, be patient with him. I still to this day love a girl who was 4 years younger than me, but that’s a story for another day. Have an interest in the things that he does, and realize that for now at least, you must be patient because there are going to be a lot of things that you are going to want to do with him but can’t. The best thing you can do is keep the lines of communication open. Keep talking to him, keep learning new things, and keep yourself interesting to him. Take a lesson from Cleopatra: she could seduce a man clear across an entire continent with the power of her mind. She made herself alluring and desirable by being educated and relevant, and she did it without showing an once of flesh. Reference Mark Antony and Cleopatra. The best thing you can do is just keep talking to him, be it in person, over the phone, or by letter/email. Letter is more romantic though. Fix him dinner, go to the movies with him, go for walks with him, play games with him, just remember to keep talking to him and keep the lines of communication open. That is the way to his heart. Keep him interested in you.
get on your knees…
you’re too young for him. he’ll be either 17 or 18 next year that’s why he’s backing up on you, it’s illegal.
wait till you’re 18, he’ll only be 22 and if you’re still great friends I can bet anything he’ll be back.
well when i lose a guy and i ant him back i would hag out with him as a friend then slowly he will like you plz don’t take this method to fast because it will start to get award and he will try to distance him self and try your best to read his body language it helps a lot and this might help you get him back in your hands hope i helped
if i were u, i catch him back. I tell my feeling to him… discuss is the best solution u can do for both of u. wish u all the best.
it may be that he wants to be intimate and not necessarily that he doesn’t want to be with you. i would suggest telling him honestly and openly your feelings and find out how he feels he may be willing to wait if he has genuine feelings for you. but to be honest i think a young man of his age he would be looking for something more than he can have with you at the moment,so for now you may just be setting yourself up for more heartache. goodluck