How would you feel if he met his ex the same way he met you? (Kinda long, so only click if you will read)?
Almost two weeks ago I met this guy on Facebook, ridiculous I know, and even worse it was on one of those stupid apps like Are You Interested. I thought the whole thing was stupid, but this guy and I hit it off. We added each other, and message back and forth, and from the day after we found each other, we have chatted every night.
I didn’t expect to like him at first, honestly, but he honestly has left me stunned. He is pretty much everything I have ever looked for in a guy, we have experienced a lot of the same things in our lives, and seems genuinely interested in getting to know ME. We have asked each other countless questions, and simply love learning about each other. Things have been simply…wonderful. Honestly things have just fallen into place, and while I know I am most definitely infatuated, i truly believe I am falling for him. He is sweet, genuine, adventurous, and better yet when he says something like "how are you?"/"are you okay?"/"How was your day?" he REALLY is interested in the answer unlike so many who say it as a formality.
Things seemed perfect, and on day nine when were talking about our fears and concerns I mentioned how sometimes I worry I will end up alone, and without a family and he said "If you want a family!!.. That is the least of your problems, You are absolutely beautiful inside and out, and anyone who wouldn’t want a family with you is out of their mind!!!.. Not to mention you will always have two for sure people who wouldn’t think twice about it! Ok I’m just basing this on what i know so far, and not saying i’m in love with you.. but i’m getting there(please dont get the wrong impression, i’m just trying to help you out) And your Crazy Ex Boyfriend lol. You won’t end up alone. That’s a guarantee." (The crazy ex thing comes from the fact the guy I was engaged to and dumped nearly four months ago is having trouble accepting that we’re over, and leaving me alone).
He went on to explain that the reason that he added his disclaimer to his "falling for you" statement is that he didn’t want me to think he was a creep stalker type for feeling that way so soon. I feel the same way, so it was fine. Then I found out that he met his last girlfriend the same way that he met me. That bothered me at first, but then I kinda let it go, because I did go out with a guy I met this way before (he wasn’t a stranger, exactly since it turns out we had friends in common). This guy has mentioned a couple things he would like me to do with him, like learn how to dirtbike. Well, he told me to check out a couple of his Notes on his page, and one one was a comment from his ex (he broke up with her around the same time I broke up with my ex) saying how she remembered him teaching her out to dirtbike, and stuff just as he said he wanted to do with me.
I was bothered by that as well, and then I realized that if he came to where I live, I would likely want to take him to a couple of places (my town is pretty awesome) that I took the last I guy I went out with (the one I met the same way as this guy)…Yet how would you feel if this was your situation? I don’t want to let something petty ruin what seems to be the best chance I’ve ever had at being truly happy with someone.
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I think it’s actually kinda cute how you two met, and beats a lot of the cliche (i.e. very boring) "how did you meet?" stories I’ve heard.
Anyway, from the sounds of it, you both feel like you have found something special but only time will tell. It’s been two weeks. Don’t fret too much yet, and as for the fact he met his ex the same way he met you, that could be nothing. Only he can tell you. Woul you feel differently if he met you both at the same park, football game, or concert? Several of my friends, or interests I’ve met similarly–class, online through friends, concerts, parties. It shouldn’t matter. What matters is that you have a connection with someone. Don’t cheat yourself of that.
If he was just a player using the app for hook-ups, I highly doubt he would be so interested in knowing every little detail about you. He would want the surface info, enough to make you think he’s interested, and would be pressuring you to meet up quickly. He wouldn’t care about your day, your likes, dislikes, loves, hates, life. So just take your time, see where it goes, and ask him about it if it would make you feel better.