I don't want to hold him back from his dream..but?
My hubby just told me last night that he wants to be in the Army. We discussed this before we got married and i told him i didn’t want him to be in it. I don’t want to move and be sooo far away from my family and I’m going to always be worried about him being it’s dangerous!! He’s 20 so i don’t want to control him and know that I can’t literally stop him. But, it’s his happiness or my happiness? I know that i wont be happy if he does this. I mean, yeah going to hawaii would be fun if he so happned to get to go there. He was telling me this man he works with lived on the beach up there! It’s just that i would worry so much about him and be so far away from my family, but i don’t want to hold him back. What should I do? Tell him he has my approval even though I’m gonna be unhappy? I lose either way because I DON’T want to hold him back from his dream of being a hero. Help?
It makes me sooo sad and scared to think about him possibly going to Iraq, like you don’t even know. His friend was telling him how he got stabbed and torched up there and shot like 3 times!! I’m so scared but i dont wanna hold him back 
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I know I don’t have to but I don’t want to be without him for so long and i’m not being selfish!! I’m trying to save my husbands life!! I don’t want him to get killed!!
He wants to be an electrician in it, so does that mean i can see him alot?
we both agreed he wouldn’t and now he changed his mind!
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National Guard, It’s the best of both worlds.
I mean, yes, he’ll get deployed, just as likely as if he’d joined active, but he gets to be home all the time, too.
you dont have to move in with him if he goes in the army. of corse you will be worried about him , but this is about him , not you. you should be supportive, going into the army is a big deal and he will see some very bad things. i very much doubt he will live by the beach, he will be sent to iraq.
you say, his happiness or my happiness? lol, that is bad, your only thinking of yourself. try to show him that your pleased he’s following his dream, even if your not, your ment to be his wife, not his mother.
goodluck to your hubby.
If he wants to be in the Army, then I think that you should encourage him to do so. Serving in the military is a selfless act and I’m sure he has his reasons for wanting to do so. It doesn’t mean that he will be deployed right away and there are different positions you can hold, not just going out into combat. I know a guy who is in the NAVY with a desk job, he makes good money and gets to see his wife just about every day.
It will be hard for you to be without him, but I think that knowing that someone who means the world to you is able to fulfill their dream will be enough to keep you happy.
I would sit down and make a list of the positive and negative sides to this issue. Have him do the same then sit down and discuss it. This will effect both of your lives so you need to discuss it before you give your final answer.Communication is the key to a good marriage.
When things are "discussed" prior to marriage it’s to avoid things exactly like this!Sure you told him that you didn’t want him to join but what did he say?Did he say he wanted to anyway but you thought in time he would change his mind instead of realizing you should’ve parted ways them or did you both agree he wouldn’t and now he’s changed his mind?
If you feel that strongly about this it should’ve been a marriage deal breaker IF he didn’t specifically say he wouldn’t join.