Comments on: I don't want to hold him back from his dream..but?

By: Haide at long beach electrician

Haide at long beach electrician — Sat, 29 Jan 2011 01:38:27 +0000

If you love him dearly then you will support his decision. what ever happen you must trust him. instead of confusing your self why don’t you be happy for him. just think positive that everything will go out just fine.

By: Lost in love

Lost in love — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 07:40:38 +0000

Military life is hard. It stresses the very foundation of a relationship and forces two people to really decide if they are meant to be together. It can certainly make or break a relationship. That being said, when you got married, you swore to honor and support him through any and all things. That includes supporting his dream of being in the Army.

If he wants to go into the Army, then support him. But lay the groundwork and explain how it makes you feel: your fears, etc. Be completely honest with him. In the end, he may not way to risk the unhappiness the army may cause you.

Serving his country is such an admirable thing, standing in the way of that kind of dedication isn’t fair to him. Especially when marriage means sacrificing for the greater good of your future. Military life has so many future benefits, I can’t even begin to describe all the perks. Great housing, wonderful schools for your children, health insurance that is cheap but with great coverage…the list goes on and on.

You are assuming you will be unhappy, but you really won’t know for sure until you give it a chance. Closing yourself off to an opportunity to let your relationship flourish in a new environment isn’t fair to the relationship and isn’t fair to your husband. Support him and give it a shot. But tell him how you feel and make sure he understands where you are coming from with your concerns.

You can never go wrong standing by your man…

Hope this helps!

By: Vanessa83

Vanessa83 — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 07:40:38 +0000

His happiness SHOULD be your happiness. If he has a dream, you should support it. Love is not selfish.

Unfortunately, this is what happens when you get married so young. You’re just not mature enough to handle moderately difficult situations.

By: prem

prem — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 07:40:38 +0000

yu have no other way except to accept his happiness and wait for him till he comes back to yu.have some patience and trust in him and very soon yu will be the winner.

By: hopeful

hopeful — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 07:40:38 +0000

First you need to understand that you can stay where you are……more than likely unless he requests on base housing that is what will happen….you will stay there and he will be shipped places. As far as worrying about him…..things could happen to him even in your house so why would you hold him back from what he wants to do? I understand what your saying but honestly……you need to understand that he could be hurt just taking a shower at home.