My wife cheated on me, left me to be with the other guy. Will she ever come back?
My wife and I were together for 5 years (married for 4 years). This summer she went to visit her family for summer vacation (she is a teacher, we lived in Florida and her family lives in Illinois). During the summer she would not answer my calls as frequently, and her behavior was suspicious. I confronted her over the phone and she said that she has been sleeping and seeing this other guy the whole summer. She has met his entire family and he has met her entire family as well. She even told me that she has been playing house with this guy the entire time. She came back after a month and a half to get her stuff and left. When she came back to get her stuff she slept with me once again. I will not accept her even if she wants to come back. However, I would like to know if she would come ever back again? We both loved each other very much. But I guess she was not in love with me anymore. We 2 were both educated successful couple. Now she is with this dude who is 4 years younger than her (we both are 29 years old). He is 25. The guy has no career or future and barely surviving. My wife, however, can get a nice job eventually may be 6-10 months down the road or may be sooner. I provided a great deal of emotional support for her and never let any problems come up to her at all. The whole thing happened because our passion died out. She is very impatient with everything and never even tried to work out anything with me. Do you still think she would try to come back to me? If she wants to come back how long will it be? If she wanted me back then should I trust her again? I need some answers from women who has been through similar situation. Please help!
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I am sorry to hear your about your relationship.
But it is time to move and sever the ties.
She has moved on and I do not think she will be back.
Now it is time you moved on as well.
Get some help from your parents or a Priest for guidance and support while you go through this rough time. You need help from some one else, not her. She is not worried about you, sleeping with you was a mean thing to do after you had separated.
Goos luck
not sure why you want to be with someone you CANT trust
I don’t think she’ll ever be back. File for divorce and move on.
I dont know, is this guy Cuban?
IF he is, I doubt she’ll even remember your name.
Move on.
You don’t want her back. You should be hoping her and the new boy-toy starve to death!
never been there or done that.. but i’m sure she’ll be back once she’s tired of babying some grown a$$ man..
get your life on track and be with someone who loves you
Wow.. Im so sorry to hear that. That must be so heartbreaking. Well truth of the matter is, WE DON’T KNOW YOUR WIFE. We cannot determine if or when she will come back. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don’t. Usually, if you know you treated her like royalty and you were so kind and tender to her and 110% faithful to her, she will one day realize what she lost and she might just come back! It really depends! The guy she left you for probably treats her better than you did…I DON’T KNOW? He probably pleases her more in bed…There could be many reasons! hes probably very wealthy! But keep your head up man! I suggest you never give up on your marriage. If you really want it to work…you need to win her back! Its all on you dude!
It truly sounds like your wife has fallen out of love with you and has totally moved on. As much as it hurts, you need to do that same. She’s not coming back.
I think your wife will be back when reality hit’s.
Then you get the pleasure of refusing to let her back into your life!
DIVORCE HER WITHOUT HESITATION, AND I BET THAT WILL GET HER CRAWLING BACK!
I am not a woman but I am smart. Your has been deciding for a long time should stay or go. Her morals are very high she met the guy and jump in the bed. Why would even think about asking back. When she came to get her stuff she cheated on you and she cheated on him with you. Have no fear she will cheat on him before long
The important question is do u want her bk?? Can you forgive?? Its one thing to just have some form of relations with someone but when they play house together is another. I know what its like, my husband wanted to spend some time apart, so i stayed with my parents and while i was there he had his g/f move in here with my daughter. Its hard, I’ve come home since then and we are trying to work on it. Honestly she’ll come bk, she wants to feel young, wants something new to make her feel sexy and wanted, (thats what i was told) Bottom line is you gotta do whats right for u. If you want to wait for her go ahead but you hurt yourself. Honestly move on, its hard and its painful, she left you remember that, your not her shoulder to cry on, U need to make it clear that, your not going to save her. I know you love her being with someone for that long does things, take some time for u then date, things will get better, its just takes time.
I’m not a female, but I can give some advice. Doesn’t matter why she left (not in love, lost spark, he showered her with attention,etc.). They are all excuses. She not only cheated on you, but did so ALL SUMMER LONG. I’m guessing this might have been planned, as who leaves their spouse for a whole summer, just to vacation? Not one who is happy. By the way, the sleeping with you thing before she left with her stuff . . . .sympathy/guilt sex. She only will come back to you when/if she gets dumped by this guy or realizes he’s not as great as she thought. She’ll tell you everything you want to hear about how she’s changed and realized how great she had it before . . blah, blah. And that will last until she finds the next guy that fancies her. Don’t let it happen. Consider this a 4-5 year mistake/learning experience and move on. Don’t let it turn into a longer one by taking her back out of fear of not being able to find someone else. Trust me, you will.
Why would you want her back. She did the ultimate disrepectful thing and you want her back?? Sweety let me tell you, I don’t think that cheating is ok or justified by anything. If you are able to cheat you simply have lost love and respect for your marriage. I know it is hard, but I would move on. If she was so easy to cheat, what makes you think she wouldn’t if you got back together. You deserve better and I think you know this. Live right and good things will happen in your life. Good luck sweety.
Chances are that she’ll be back when she discovers that the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence. And I can tell by what you wrote that you will take her back. The truth is there is no guarantee that she will come back and even if she does she will have gotten her fill of playing the field by then. If I were a man, I wouldn’t touch her with someone else’s ____. Too, she’ll probably leave again because she’ll know she can play you. If she loved you at all she couldn’t have done this to you. Move on and give yourself a chance to be happy again with someone deserving, that won’t run out on you.
You shouldn’t care if she would. Get a lawyer, file for divorce and change the locks to your house so she can get in if she ever comes back. Let her be with her new boy toy and move on. What if she did come back? Could you trust her knowing what she has done? Eventually she’ll realize she left you for a summer fling and regret her decision. Make sure she spend the rest of her life regretting it. Don’t ever take her back. Get divorced!
You need to move on. There is no telling if she would come back or not, but I can say that if she does she shouldnt be trusted. Once you destroy that trust it can be near impossible to get it back. Especially they way she did it. Let her go. Find someone that is willing to put the work into a marriage and be happy.
She will only come back to you only if her lover is really good for nothing and if she still have some more feelings for you. My advice is move on…. things will never be the same again. trust me
This is your wife. And she introduced him to her family? Your in-laws? I wouldn’t worry about her coming back…she probably did you the best favor by leaving. You deserve better.
She may come crawling back to you when the lust wears off. The winter is a lot colder up there than down here. Summers are nice in Illinois but winter isn’t so great. The reason I say lust is that this dude doesn’t seem to have much else going for him if he is unemployed. Can she teach there with a Florida license? That may be the kicker. Don’t take her back. She is a tramp to do what she did.
If she cheated on you she is done. It wasnt a one nighter, it was a summer! You need to wrap your head around this and forget about here. I know its hard and it hurts but he has broken her vows. You need to pick yourself up, dust off and start focusing on you. Work on your career, your home and car. Never forget what happend, make sure you watch for any odd signs in your next relationship.
Why did she go for someone that is the oppisite of you. Women sometimes want something that needs to be fixed. If your giving her all the answers and never need to lean on her then she feels less needed or desired. Not your fault at all! Ive had women tell me Im to secure, selfreliant and confident. They want someone that they can fix.
Im truelly sorry, but one thing cut all ties with her. Get the divorce, close all joint accounts and credit cards and get her name off everything. When money gets hard to come by shes going to come back to you. Just remeber your not suporting or helping her your paying him to have sex with your wife! Get a good divorce lawyer, since you were married for more than 3 yrs many states will now try to divide everything, even things you brought to the relationship on your own. I CANT SAY THIS ENOUGH, NEVER HAVE SEX OR TALK ABOUT SEX WITH HER AGAIN!!!
She isnt doing it because she still loves you, she is doing it to see if she can walk all over you even after something like this. You viewed as her doormat. She just slept with a guy for a summer, cleaned his house, spent your money on him and left you…. and you still "made love to her and are asking if she’ll come back?" Please go talk to a pastor or shrink. You need someone to give you some solid advice, not yahoo answers. I did take a psych class in college but not enough to help you with whats going on her. Also go get yourself checked, 25 year old guys arent the most responsible, dont need an STD from your cheating wife… especially when you knew. Most people findout when it burns or smells when they pee.
Im truelly sorry and some of this seems harsh, but its honest!
you sound like a very rational person, and your just got burned.. sorry to hear that. anyway..
"Do you still think she would try to come back to me?"
its possible, you fulfilled her role as a provider, and there might be a little security with you, but she obviously wanted some fun and adventure and is fulfilling this fantasy. she might regret it when the rose tented glasses fade.
"If she wants to come back how long will it be?"
hard to say, but theres no point waiting. if not after 3-6 months i wouldnt expect it unless she has some sort of emotional crisis
"If she wanted me back then should I trust her again?"
amm no, i dont think you could ever really trust her in that way again. even if she comes back crying asking forgiveness you never really can trust her again.
i know its probably not what you want to here, but go out for yourself and have some fun, rediscover it for your self aswell. that way if she does come back. both of ye had some fun. but i really think you should try to start moving on. for yourself
hope i helped domebit. best of luck
after some time relationship may be differ.
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If she is back that will be for a while until she find another guy, trust me when she cheat once it will never stop