Want my husband back!!!!?
My husband and I split a year ago on my terms. Being apart from him for the last year made me realize that I love him and want to be with him and that I miss him. He waited for me for awhile to come back home then decided to date one of my friends who is also my brothers ex whom she has a child with. HE broke up with her because he said she was using him for money. He is now dating someone else and I told him how I felt and that I think about him everyday and wish I could turn back time and change things. He told me he catches himself thinking about me to but other people are involved now. His new gf and her two kids live with him now. But he was talking to me on the phone and we talked about the fun things we use to do together and little things like that. It brought a smile to my face talking to him and I was happy as I use to be. He was talking to me for 3 days in a row and I called him one night and he was very short with me & hung up. I called him back the next day while he was at work and asked what the problem was. He told me that it is causing problems with his gf talking to me. I told him I am not trying to start problems. It sounded to me like he wanted to talk to me just as much as I wanted to talk to him. He will only talk to me when hes on work time and not when hes around her or at home. We have not even taken care of any divorce paper work or anything and to tell you the truth I don’t want to move on. I want him back with me and I am not sure if he would want that to but he now has people involved. I don’t know what to think. Any suggestions?
Ok! I am going to move forward now. I will no longer initiate contact with him until he contacts me to move forward with the divorce. Although, he has kept all my things from me. Before we were married he made me sign a pre-nuptual agreement stating that I will never get any part of his home. Which, I was ok with signing because I did not marry him for his home. But….that gave him no right to keep my car, all my furniture that my grandparents gave me, I even had a hard time getting my clothes from him. I had to leave with no where to go and with nothing. I had to go and get a new car and a place to live on little income. But, since he has moved on now with this new girlfriend, then why does he feel the need to keep all my things that belong to me?? I wonder if that bothers his new girlfriend that he kept all my things. But then again, maybe not as she was also going through a divorce when she met him. But no matter what I do still care about him and want him to be happy.♥
Oh yea…and she is not pregnant. She is 40 and has two teenage kids and has her tubes tied. Her kids are 17 & 19 whom all three live with him. He is 36 & I am 28, big difference and big change in life-style for him. He wanted to have babies and we had tried for 5 years but It never happened. I went to the dr. and they said that I was fine but he did not want to go get checked out.
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He has a new life. Get your divorce and move on.
move on.. you chose to leave, so do it.. quit screwing up his life with another woman let him be happy .. you made your bed now lay in it
You made a choice. Move on.
No divorce papers and he is shaggin a new chica- who is moved in with him ummm it may be beneficial for you to stop all contact for now. Date around yourself and find out you may just be able to move on, it sure sounds like he has.
I think you should leave him alone and if he wants you back then he will let you know. He is trying to move on with his life but you haven’t found somebody else so you want him back now. It doesn’t work that way.
Sounds like you screwed up. But if he really wants to get on with his life he needs to get on with a divorce. If he feels like he wants to continue the marriage with you, then he can do so. But whos to say that you just won’t split up with him the next time you feel like it.
You are so trying to start problems, despite your protests – and you know it!
Leave him be. He’s with someone else now.
If he was such a great guy why did you split from him in the first place. If hes happy leave him alone, otherwise you will get him back and dump him again, and the poor guy will have to start over again.
Wow! You really are a piece of work.YOu break up with a wonderful man thinking the grass is greener then after you realize how good you had it you go bulldozing back into his life that he has spent a year rebuilding after you broke his heart. Now you want to break up a new family? You are just about one of th most selfish self centered person I have ever heard. Maybe you should occupy yourself with helping other people less fortunate than you. Have you ever thought about anyone besides yourself. It might change your life if you did.
You have let the man know how you feel back off and let him make his choice
He seems to still have feelings for you if he is talking to you. However, how can he trust you now. Sounds like the initial break was your idea. He has been hurt. Now I assume he is confused. He doesnt know whether to continue with his new girl, or to give you another chance. You let him know how you felt, so now the ball is in his court. If you havent moved on yet, then give him some space. He will come to a conclusion about what he wants. You did not say how long you were together or married for. If you have a great history with this man, then maybe he will return. I would not interfere now that he knows your feelings. Be patient, if it was meant to be, then he will return. Try and enjoy your life in the meantime. If he ever does come back, maybe you will appreciate him more. Good luck.
He was yours to begin with, you wanted to split, now hes with someone else, and now you want him back. Do you realise how crazy you are? But keep chasing him to the ends of the earth. Sooner or later you’ll see what we already know; he seriously doesn’t want you back and my guess is, the gf is pregnant.
Sorry to say this but you sealed your own fate on this one! Move on.
well, why did you break if off in the first place… dont lose sight of that. Okay… so you broke it off, for reasons that you felt were serious enough to say "goodbye" so he waits for how long.. cant be too long if he has went through two women in the last year and is now living with one of them. so.. he waits for like what a month or so…. then he starts dating your brothers ex with whom he has a kid with.. he started dating your niece or nephews ( you didnt say boy or girl) mother…. now what is that? Not a guy who has changed by any means… then he breaks it off with her because he doesnt think she likes him for who he is, just his money….. and meet someone who has two kids and is now living with her….. all in a year. This is not a man who has thought long and hard about what he did or contributed to a broken down marriage… this is a co-dependent man who hasnt changed at all… has found himself someone to be co-dependent with and will most likely always be the man you wanted to leave. The ONLY reason you are doing this to yourself is because he has someone and you dont…. you know him, its familiar and you want what you cant have…. if your ex was pining away for you for the last year… you would not be interested…… you wouldnt even be writing this…. but the guy has stayed the same, got himself a woman to live with and a ready made family….. you dont need that crap….. move one like you initially planned….. even if he came back, you wouldnt want him after six months… trust me. Go get the papers drawn up and find yourself a new and exciting guy, one that doesnt NEED someone in his life….. he chooses to have someone.
good luck
you wrote: My husband and I split a year ago on my terms. (so you left him got it ) Being apart from him for the last year made me realize that I love him and want to be with him and that I miss him. He waited for me for awhile to come back home then now dating your friend now dating someone else he found now you wish you could change thing back.
I called him one night and he was very short with me & hung up.. (ok so he’s setting boundries cause you hurt him before)
He told me that it is causing problems with his gf talking to me. (ok so now its not just his feelings involved its his g/f too which he cares about)
I told him I am not trying to start problems. It sounded to me like he wanted to talk to me just as much as I wanted to talk to him. He will only talk to me when hes on work time ( ok so shes having a problem with you calling and now he’s hiding it)
and not when hes around her or at home. We have not even taken care of any divorce paper work or anything and to tell you the truth I don’t want to move on. ( ok but does he)
I want him back with me and I am not sure if he would want that to
but he now has people involved.( you moved on which caused these others to now be involved)
I don’t know what to think. Any suggestions? my suggestion is to respect his needs this time. really look at this situation your blaming him for what? not waiting longer? after you choose to leave? so he is supposed to just come running back now? and drop his new life? thats abit selfish eh? honestly i’d respect his space and if he’s really yours he will return but do you want to cause him heartache? doesn’t seem fair you caused the spilt remember?
good luck all the best:}
this so sounds similar to my friends problem but she is the g/f with two kids, don’t happen to be from Cavan do you..lol.. well if he wanted to be with you he would be right now instead he refuse to speak to you unless in work where you doing the contacting first and no doubt he’s planning family functions with his g/f, shares her bed and planning a future with her, like my friend, they are looking at houses to buy, booked a holiday and are now engaged trying for a baby of their own, yet he has the ex ringing him and being too respectful on people feelings he entertains the ex but gets him in trouble with his fiancee only to be apologising and making it up to her, spilling the beans and shown the e-mails, texts and passing his phones to her on return from work so she can trust him that its the ex who do not know how to move on! Your ex has moved on, he’s with his g/f being part of her family, she is his partner now and if he thought of you in that way he would be back with you long go, time to stop this madness your destroying this other woman and her life too, you need to move on from him and let him go fully as your missing out on the other men around you, bet somebody wants you and because of this obsessing you wouldn’t see it. I see what the other side is, how my friend hurts and there is kids involve too, she wishes this woman would move on for herself to let her enjoy her man that SHE LOVES DEARLY with all her heart and she will fight for him all the way. He staying put as HE wants to stay, HE wants his G/F and wants this new found family now, he is not going to go back so stop ruining her lives and her 2 kids lives, his new found life and family, as he didn’t return to you as HE does not want to be going back otherwise would being back long go instead only get to chat when hes at work, while you sit around waiting for him in your own home, hes off enjoying his life with her., your left alone and with no life sitting wondering of him but at night who does curl up to in bed, who does come home too, who is he playing good role model too, who has him, its not you its her so get over him and move on before become an obsessed person your not over thinking about him and wanting him, you left him go its too late now live with these actions and try find somebody else instead as he ain’t coming back otherwise be there already!
good luck
I personally think you should tell his new gf that you guys have been talking and he has been leading you on. I think that will let you know for sure what will become of your future. Either you all will end up together or you will split up.
I want to chimed in with everyone else here, but the truth of the matter is, he’s not committed to this other woman either. This is a perfect example of why you shouldn’t date while you’re still married, or get involve with someone who is separated, situations can change and perceptions can be altered and it was not fair of your husband to GET OTHER PEOPLE INVOLVE, as he put it, or to move anyone in with him with or w/o children. That was stupid of him and stupid of the woman who got herself involve. But we’re willing to sell ourselves to the devil for a piece of crap. First of all, you and your husband need to sit down and talk. Find a place to talk this over and come to some decisions. If he tells you that it over, its time to go forward with the divorce and stop fooling your self into thinking that things will change. Secondly, you let too much time go by, you have to learn that your husband feelings and emotions may now be engage elsewhere, it was the risk you took for not stepping in and finding other ways of dealing with whatever situation there was in the marriage like going to marriage counseling before throwing him out of his home. And lastly, do not call again…either at work or at home, it is no longer your place to do so, unless its to talk over what you both will do next. Not to reminisce about old times, you’re playing games, you think if you get him to remember the memories, he would want to make more with you. Well, those memories are now being overturn by new memories, so stop it. YOU created this situation, you forfeit your play. You are no longer in the game and the terms you THINK you created a year ago are null and void. Now its time to pay the piper and your husband is holding all the cards. Now he has to decide how he wants to play this. He now knows how you feel, the ball is essentially in his court.