My husband and I have been married for 7 months and about 3 months ago he left, over some jealousy issues and his family was encouraging the leave. I was helping my sister with the youth group at our church and some of the kids started texting me. The one that the problem was over was a 17 year old male. He said ‘love you’ a couple times, but in my church we say that. I’m not justifying it because it was wrong, but nothing to leave over. We were together for 5 years, before we got married. My husband left that day (in August). Right after the leave, he told me he wanted to work things out and get counseling. Then about two weeks later, he filed for divorce. He changed his phone number so for about a month, I couldn’t call him only email, but he would never respond. I called a couple times to his parent’s house for him and his father said "stop calling here, WE got rid of you"! By the way, since 8th grade and dated, his parents never liked me, and didn’t approve of us dating. Didn’t even approve of us getting married.
In October, his work moved him to Chicago for about a month, and before he left he came by, we looked through wedding and honeymoon pictures, we had sex, and he left. He stopped talking to me for about a month, while he was in Chicago. I drove up to Chicago to surprise him without him knowing, and he made me leave, and it was a 4 hour drive. He started saying things like I don’t love you anymore. I don’t miss you. We’re going through a divorce.
In November, all month, he was texting me, calling me, coming to our house, being a little more kind, and saying he’s contemplating things. He came by one night and said he misses me and wants to work things out. Then after working 3rd shift, he texts me and said that what he said was a mistake. But he kept texting me and coming home. Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t for sex. We did have sex but not every time. He comes home after work from time to time and we talk. I ask him if he wants counseling and he says no, I ask him if he loves me and he says no. But he will never look me in the eye. One night he came over to stay the night, we watched a movie and went to sleep, and I asked him “Do you want out or you want out because it would be easier and he shook his head yes. He left at 5:30am because his parents were getting off a 6am and would know where he was at. But he breaks plans with me still, like stands me up. Its like he won’t come when I ask.
He asks me questions like why was I at the church when there wasn’t service, and why do you have people over at our house, etc.
In December, it’s gotten better. We’re talking more, he’s coming over more, and sometimes just stops by before work to talk. But he will talk to me, and then go a couple days without talking to me and won’t answer my calls. My lawyer called me asking what is going on, because there has been no word about the divorce at all. Like, he’s not pursuing it to his lawyer. Please help me figure out what is going on? What is he thinking and feeling?
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Also, he made a facebook when he left and won’t add me. He told me Sunday night, that there is nothing to worry about. Also, about two months ago, I was checking his voicemail and there was a voicemail from his ex in high school Saying "If you don’t want to talk to me anymore just tell me"!!

No. He left her for me. Since that day, they never spoke. And that was 7 years ago. I have no idea how she got his number, probably from his parents.

His parents do not like his ex. They have never liked a single girl he dated. No one was good enough. He didn’t leave me for someone, if he did he would being too busy with them than for me.
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