How do I make my husband my best friend?
My husband and I are currently separated, but I still have hope that we will get back together. I screwed up and cheated on him. I regret it all and am working on changing to become a better person overall. I am waiting for him. He has a girlfriend right now, but I’m not sure how happy he is with her. He still lives with me and we still get intimate. He says that all he can be for me right now is a friend, so I figure if I make him by best friend we will get closer and hopefully fall in love all over again. What can I do to get closer to him? What can I do for him to want to get closer to me?
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He should have been your best friend when you got married. If you want to reconcile, he needs to lose the girlfriend and you need to go to marriage counselling.
This is a bad situation, now you are sharing him with some other girl? Why don’t you two get divorced?
Well, I think we have a bonafied Jerry Springer episode here.
So basically, you cheated on him, you guys seperated but you’re still living together??? He’s now got a serious GF but he’s tapping you on the side and your plotting how to get him back on the Down Low.
You know what… you guys really need to get back together, you’re perfect for each other.
Why would you even want to be friends with someone like that?
little late to become best friends, he now has a new best friend
he lives with you? sleeps with you? and has a girl friend?
Wake up honey, he is using you. Why would want him back? You still have him and he has someone else too!
Move on.
just put yourself in close situations…take an interest (not beign that obvious) in things that he likes…ask if he wants to watch a movie with you. Just be easy going and don’t presure him into anything…let him think your taking the friend route (men only look at what’s occuring not any further). Be really non-chalant about everything like "wanna watch a movie" he might say "no" then just say "ok" and leave it at that, shrug your shoulders and move on and watch the movie. He’ll think that your just asking him to be poilte and friendly.
so you cheated on him now he has a gf and he’s cheating on her? thats not healthy! you two both need to go to a counslor and work through it
you can be best friends and possible fall in love again but either take a break from eachother (one move out) or he needs to get rid of the gf
you shouldnt have to make him your best friend, if you are truly soulmates it will come naturally. dont push push your husband dont forfet you were probably already his best friend and you betrayed and hurt him. just be there for him to talk to and let things happen naturally show him what he is missing in a discreet way letting him get intimate with you knowng that he has a girlfriend isnt really showing him you are reliable and trustworty let him fall for your womanly wyles without dropping your frillies
OK – if I understand this – your living with a husband who you cheated on and he has girlfriend,but you are still sleeping with him in the hopes of reconcilliation? Hello? Is there no respect for self or others in this scenerio? First of all,you made a huge mistake – deal with it – cheating on a spouse is something they will never get over even if they decide to stay with you – trust is earned back and you never get another 100% – NEVER! Secondly – stop pineing over a man that is obviously making you pay for your mistake. He has found someone else & using your guilt to get laid! Explain to him that while you made the error, you’ll cope and move on – either you move out or tell him he must. If he says he wants to try and work on the marriage,okay – 1st you’ve acheived what you set out, 2nd – you must both be serious about it – that means no extra persons & counseling! If not – then get a life of your own somehow,someway and NEVER do this again!
Wow…I’m seperated too. and we have the problem of not being friends..We try to talk more..go out on dates, get to know eachother all over again..Be interested when he talks, hang out…just hangout no love making or cuddling..Hopefully it will work for you,
You really love this man? Then let him go so he can really be happy even if it’s with someone else. Yeah, you can be his friend, even his best friend. BUT, as far as your marriage, forget it. One of you has to move out unless you both agree to be just roommates. No sex here kid. That should have been over long ago. "Friends don’t boink each other!" Go get tested please!! You dont know what this new girl has. Even though you strayed, its still a two way street. Get those papers signed! Better to have loved and lost, than to never love at all. Let him go and love him as your friend, not as your bed buddy! He’s not waiting for you anymore like he did before. He has moved on. Time to stop hurting each other…life is too short. Kudos for your revelation. Go find a hunk AFTER you sign those papers.
You can’t get closer the way your doing it right now. You certainly won’t fall back in love.
You have no clue what marriage even is if you think you could have separated because you cheated on him. Now, your separated, but you still live with him and you still have sex with him, but he has a girlfriend?
Please, you people have no respect for marriage and absolutely no respect for eachother. A stupid move like cheating has caused you to ruin this so-called marriage, so now you approve of him cheating on you, so he could ruin it even more.
Wow, your working very hard to save your marriage.
You can work it out if you just file for divorce, because you are not in love with eachother and you need love to have a great marriage. If you want to be married to your best friend, go marry your best friend. I hope there are no children involved.
Relationships take work to begin with, when a 3rd party becomes involved (ie cheating) trust goes out the window.
Friendship is based on trust.
The only way to develop trust is absolute honesty.
Don’t expect him to feel he can trust you anytime soon.
Truthfully "intimacy" is not sex, "intimacy" is one heck of a lot more then that. Anyone can have sex without being intimate. It is an act copulation.
Back off, work on the issues that lead "you" to cheat. See a counselor. Develop habits to not repeat the mistakes with the next person or potential husband.
I was on the receiving end of a cheating spouse, we got back together, I’ve forgiven but will not forget. The relationship’s trust is still something we work on daily.. We are committed to staying together, things do improve with time, but trust still requires effort to communication and honesty.
Communicate your feelings to him. If you have common interests talk about them. There is obviously something still there if you’re intimate. Work on the things that made you separate in the first place. Tell him you want to get back together. If he wants it too it will happen.
Girl, you messed up big time. If he can’t trust you as a wife, how will he be able to trust you as a friend. Friendship takes time. Wait til he is unable to forgive you. Being best friends will not guarantee is love connection. Looks like he has moved on maybe its time for you to move on.