If I change my schedule and work on a parenting day, will my ex get the kids?
I have my kids on my days off but want to change my schedule.
I work nights and if I change the days of the week and it means where I have to go in to work one afternoon that I have them and I don’t get off work until the next day in the a.m., will I have to give up that day to my ex? This day backs right up to his parenting time, so he could fill in and take the kids, without it being a jumping back and forth kind of thing, but this is on my parenting time.
Can i have my cousin watch my kids that day from when they get out of school, and he (my cousin) can also be there and put them to bed since I won’t get home until the next day off work?
Is that my parenting time to do with what I please (have my cousin watch them) even if I won’t ever be with the kids on that day Or should/would dad get that time?
Can I just not tell my ex about the change?
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What I want to know is…if your ex wants to keep the kids while you’re at work, why are you against that? Is it a principle thing or something? Do you just not want him to have them, or is there some rational reason for it?
I’m a little baffled. Your cousin doesn’t have custody. The logical thing would be to have the kids be with whichever parent is available. If you’re not, your ex is. If your ex is not, than you are. Its not a game. It’s your kids. Grow up and stop thinking of it as a competition.
Who do you think your kids would rather spend time with?
Yes, you can have someone watch them while you are working just like many parents hire nannies or put their kids in daycare. You could also try to work out a new visitation schedule that works better for your work schedule if your ex will not fight you too much on it. As long as you are providing adequate child care, then it is your time to do with what you please, but your kids might benefit more from seeing you on days you have off than seeing you for a few hours before their dad picks them up.
All things considered you may be best to try and change the day you have your kids. They would probably rather see you as opposed to your cousin. No offense I hope! But your kids probably really look forward to spending what time they can with you.
I have a close friend who has his kids every second weekend. His ex is a nightmare to work with. She is not flexible in the slightest!
The other thing I thought I would mention is that you should let your ex know far better coming from you than the kids!
Good luck
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Kelly
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