The girl I love is dating another guy. We started off dating, then stopped for a stupid reason — at least it was stupid to me — but we became really great friends (though we were always a little more than friends) and eventually I fell in love with her. I believe without a doubt that, if such a thing exists, she’s my soulmate, and she’s admitted as much to me. I never understood why she didn’t want to pursue a serious relationship with me if she felt that way, but she just felt that we wouldn’t work out. Anyway, when I found out she was dating this other guy I kind of lost it. I felt really hurt, a little jealous, and very confused. She wanted to remain friends with me, but I told her we couldn’t. I moved about 2 weeks after we had that conversation, but I decided to make up with her before I left. I asked her to get a drink with me, told her that maybe it would be easier to be friends since I was moving, and we kind of left it at that.

That was over 2 months ago and we haven’t spoken since. I think she’s waiting for me to make the first contact, since that would basically mean that I’m okay with being friends (hope that makes sense). Well I’m not okay with just being friends. I want more, and there’s no doubt in my mind that we could make things work. Admittedly, being in a different town does make it somewhat easier to be friends (since there’s not really a way for us to date right now), but it doesn’t change my feelings for her.

I’ve been going back and forth over what I’m going to do. I know what I want — us to be together — but that’s not really an option right now. BUT I don’t want her to think that I’m okay with being friends. I don’t think that’s fair to her, especially since we’ve already been through a ‘friendship breakup’ a few months ago.
I’ve been writing a letter that basically tells her exactly how I feel and that I want us to be together. It’s a pretty good letter if I may say so myself. The letter really leaves only two options: either she comes running to me or I never hear from her again. My other option is calling/texting her and being her friend and just hope that things could work out from there.

She’s told me that she wants me in her life for as long as we’re alive, so I know she’d love hearing from me. But I don’t want to hurt her by leaving her again if things don’t work out like I hope they would. I don’t mind having my heart broken again, so either option is okay with me. The thought of never hearing from her again scares me, but I want more than just being her friend.

Hope this made sense. Any advice will be appreciated.


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