What is wrong with me? I just remarried about 6 weeks ago and I find that I want my ex-husband back.?
I left my ex-husband for another man 6 years ago and I’ve been doing really bad stuff to hurt him. My ex is dating an attorney who adores our daughter. She is a wonderful person. I’m trying to like her but I don’t. What’s wrong with me?
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we want what we can’t have..
I want a MacBook LOL. =]
your messed up….
Green eyed devil……want whats not yours anymore
We want what we cant have. I suggest you start working at making your current marriage work!
oh the games people play…..what right did you have or do you have to continue to mess up other people’s lives????? your ex husband got over you and moved on….you messed up your daughter’s life and now you are remarried and think you have any right to mess up your ex’s life again; your new husband’s life and your daughter’s life again; not to mention the ex’s new girlfriend…..you are a selfish piece of work!
You want your cake and eat it too. You don’t want your husband, but u don’t want to see him with anyone else ..especially a successful women. I think your jealous that she loves your husband in a way you couldn’t, ad that make you jealous.
You want what you can’t have. You’re jealous that she’s a good person that cares about your child and it makes you angry because you caused this. You can’t find anything wrong with the new wife because she’s a good person. So instead of being angry about all of it, welcome it. Be thankful he married a GOOD woman that loves your daughter. Focus on the man you married and why you married him. Your marriage with your ex husband is over. It was over when you cheated and left him for another man. I can assure you of this!
You need to accept things for what they are and move on with your life. Move in the right direction or your child could really suffer from this!!
Grass always looks greener on the other side. I think you need therapy. You need to think about what caused you to cheat in the first place and remedy the situation accordingly.
u just cant stand to see that he is doing ok or now u realize what a good thing u had and left.. u left him probley for lust..
Envy is a bitch… sorry sista. Might I suggest telling your current husband that you are evil…
selfish, egotistical, and risky.
its sounds as though the situation of being married is bringing back memories of old times, the problem with that is your only gonna remember the good things because you’ve probably repressed the bad times. think real hard about your current husband you married him for a reason and this will improve if you let go and be fully committed, and as far as your husband goes its unfair to him if your lusting in your heart for another many from the past. so just think about it and you’ll realize you made the right decision
you are a bitch, not only have you hurt your husband you also dont want him and your daughter to be happy
Hmm… a few things are your problem. Multiple choice:
a. Now that your ex is dating somebody, you’re suddenly wanting him now that you can’t have him.
b. You feel guilty for doing things to hurt him all along
c. You feel threatened that this new lady might have a good relationship with your daughter
d. You forgot about your NEW HUSBAND who you ditched this guy for.
e. All of the above
You also have a pattern of self-defeating behaviors. Whether you realize it or not, you tend to sabotage your own life. See a therapist.
Oh yeah, and you jump from guy to guy to find fulfillment in your life. You need to work on yourself rather than finding new guys. See a therapist.
First, I don’t think you had dealt with the issues in your relationship with your ex or your own issues. If you had, you would be happy with your new husband.
Second, if you are anything like me, you don’t want to share your daughter with another woman. I could care less about the ex husband, it was the idea of another woman that my daughter would or could love as a mother that bugged me. Luckily, my daughter was adopted by my second husband as my first didn’t care about her.
Good I am glad. I hope you never get him back. Just enjoy your new husband. Your just like my ex its all about YOU.
You are obviously just jealous and everything you thought you did to him to hurt him back fired. Retaliation only makes your feelings sore. When you focus on someone intentionally just to make their life miserable, you only hurt yourself. This man is not thinking about you. He has found a mature women that makes you look like crap. She thinks you are crappy because of the immature things you have done. If you ever wanted him back, I doubt that you could ever get him back. You are immature and childish. Shame on you trying to make someone else hurt cause you are hurting or miserable. Now be a WOMEN and grow up. Your relationship with him is over. Sorry to sound so harsh! The more you try to hurt your ex, the closer him and that attorney will get. You will reap what you sow and trust, your ex gets a kick out of you spending so much time focusing on his life. He knows you ain’t happy.
Your just jealous of this new woman in his life. It kills you to see her taking over your daughter and your old life. It’s your fault because you broke up the family so I hope this new women is better of a mother figure for your daughter. At least teaches her not to bail when things get rough like you did.
well lisa sound like the old saying you don’t miss your water until the well run dry.what it sounds like is that you are still not over him yet and now that he has another person in his life you can’t stand it. as long as he were by himself you was content.so now its time for you to move on and start your life with your new man in your life. we all makes mistakes let’s learn from them
Sorry to put it this way but you f’ed it up. Sounds like hes happy and living on, but youre unhappy and want that back.. Karma is all i have to say…
you always want what you can’t have, get your priorities straight, your not messed up, just confused.
I’m curious to know how old you are? Unless you had a really bad situation with your ex I can’t imagine a mature, grown woman leaving her family for another man…
Thats childish on several levels because while you were out cheating I’m sure you were focusing on how much better things were with the other guy compared to your husband. You can’t enter into a another relationship with such baggage as so. It just clouds your judgement. You may have really made a mistake by committing to this new guy. You may still love your ex and now want him back because there’s a challenge now.
It sounds like you guys were together for awhile, had a kid, and your married life got boring. So in turn your started seeing another guy instead of doing things to spice up your marriage. I don’t know what kind of guy your ex is but unless he really loved you I don’t think he would ever consider taking you back, not after the cheating, breaking apart the family, and the vindictive things you did. Btw, was leaving him for another man not enough? You had to do “really bad stuff to hurt him”…
I don’t understand why u had to twist the knife. I think you left some valuable information out of your post that maybe would’ve prevented all the harsh feedback you got. I’m confused on why you were so hateful towards him. Either way, I know what it feels like to get walked out on for someone else. It happened to me and I love the guy with all my heart, but despite him not pulling through with it, it still has been a difficult battle for me for 3 years now knowing that he betrayed me.
I understand how hard it is seeing an ex with the “new girl,” but after what you did to him did you really expect him not to move on, eventually? (6 years!) He needs happiness too. And it sounds like this woman is good for him and the child. Don’t worry, your daughter will not choose her over you. You will always be her mom, it doesn’t matter if she has 3 mother figures, blood takes precedence.
It’s just a shame for you that your now realizing that what you wanted was there all along. Unfortunately you will never have it back so work on your existing marriage because if you betray this guy then you will really be going to the deepest depths of hell. (Read Dante Alighieri The Inferno and you’ll know what I mean)
Good luck to you and your new husband.
A lot of people have been pretty rough on you here, and that is understandable. I can relate to you, though, and can only tell you that nothing is wrong with you – it is good that you are asking yourself these questions and examining your feelings. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to ‘fix’ things or make you feel better about the situation. I know I don’t have to say it but you know the old ‘accepting the consequences’ speech. Well you are living it. I am too. Find a way to forgive yourself, find your happiness with your new husband, and then you will be ready to embrace your ex as a friend and try to be happy for him. Show your daughter the example of maturity, forgiveness, acceptance and sacrifice. It is your turn to sacrifice. Good luck friend.