How to deal with the fact that he lied to me about being single and he cheated on his wife with me!?
I had a sex with a guy two years ago who was one of my close friends. He did not tell me he was getting married with his long-distance girlfriend in Africa in a few months. Next year when I visited he told me he was currently dating someone in the USA and he tried to make a move on me again. We kissed and started making out because I had strong feelings toward him (he initiated). I denied him sex and left his appartment very soon because I felt it was wrong what we were doing. I respect myself too much to be taken advantage of. He still tried to contact me for a few times although I live far away. Yesterday he told me his wife is coming over to live with him and that he wants to be friends. It bothers me he is still trying to talk to me and that he kept cheating on his wife for years. When I confronted him about it he said guys cannot go without sex for more than a year and that he still loves his wife and that there is nothing wrong with him cheating. The questions is how do I recognize players like him and how do I avoid being used like this? Do you think I should stop all of the contact with him? I feel angry, hurt, shameful and right now I don’t know how to trust any guy. For more info please look at my old post- Regretful first sex and moving on emotionally?
For more info please look at my old post ”Regretful first sex and moving on emotionally?”
Blocked this guy on facebook;-)
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You definitely should never contact this guy again.
I am hesitant to use this term, but the guy appears to be a serious scum bag. Do you really want to be around a guy who is such an unrepentant liar? If he treats his wife (who he claims to love) like this, how do you think he’ll treat you? How many other girls do you think he his stringing along, feeding lies, along with you?
The worst part is not just that he is a liar and a user, but that he tries to rationalize the behavior by claiming that there is nothing wrong with it since men need sex. That is plain, grade-A BS. it is such a laughable excuse the guy should be ashamed!
In my experience, the worst kind of people are not just those who do bad things, but those who try and convince you that the bad things they do are not really bad at all. Any guy who tries to rationalize cheating on his wife as "nothing wrong" is a loser on an epic scale.
Never, ever speak to this idiot again. Find a man who will treat you decently and honestly.
sometimes you dont it comes with the territory but dont let it ruin your faith in men there are still some good ones
You should wait at least 6 months before having sex.
Cut off all contact and consider this a painful learning experience.