married but wife has lost so much love..?
Ok … I have been married for over 20 years and we have 2 boys a home and so much more but my wife has fallen out of love with me and there is no sex for over 1/ 2 years. I would like to know what i can do to help her fall back again so she will want to have sex again. She may have sex is i pressure her but she would not love me back or go through the motions. I know women or emeotional and they need to fill good and love there man to want to have sex. Its not just a chore for her just because we are married. I want her to love me again. She loves are kids so much that i dont think shhe has any room for her husband. She never wants to do anything together or go out on a date or a getaway with out the kids . Only if the kids are with us. So there is not much i can do to spend time with her. I help at home and all the chores and i give her back rubs and foot messages and i tell her she is attractive all the time. She is a good cook and a great mom and all is good. There are things she complains about and i do listen but i just dont wish to change so much that i am not the same as i have always been. How can i regain her love again.??? She is 43 and i am 50….
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try this….have you heard of the movie fireproof? GO RENT IT
watch it alone, do what it says….guarantee shell fall back in love, it take effort and a little time though
good luck
Tell her what you need and if she loves you she will help you out.
You say "I just dont wish to change so much that i am not the same as I havve always been."
There’s the whole problem. She isn’t happy with how you are, and I’m guessing she’s been telling you for a LONG time what she would like for you to work on…but you "don’t wish" to change THAT much.
You keep doing the same thing and you’ll keep getting what you’ve always been getting. Plain and simple.
read The Proper care an Feeding of Marriage
Go to marriage counseling. If she refuses to go, go yourself. This is a difficult position to be in. Good luck.
Dan – clearly she has told you why she doesn’t love you. And just as clearly you say "I just don’t wish to change so much that I am not the same…."
I doubt you can fix this. I think she is going to let you keep supporting her and giving her massages and giving her money until you die of a heart attack caused by the stress of NEVER HAVING SEX.
Sounds like you’re doing everything right and the problem lies with her. My opinion is that it’s cruel and inhumane to deprive your spouse of sex without good reason like an illness and everybody deserves to feel wanted and loved by their spouse. Please talk this over with her and find out what’s going on … life is too short to live in a sexless/loveless marriage. I wish you luck with this =)