Should I break up with him or stick in out?
We have been dating for two years. I would like to make the commitment to move in together. I have four kids, he has never married in his life and has no kids. He’s 44, I’m 40. He says how much he loves me, whenever I bring up putting our lives together, he fusses and whines that he never wants to sell his house and that his only goal in life before he met me was to fix up his amazing garage so he could work on cars there and possibly turn it into a business. My house is too small for him and his house is too small for my whole family. And he is really anal about his house, so we don’t go over there too often. His girlfriend before me he was living with (but not in this house) however, sadly, she died. He told me he wants to go on just like we are, dating, with him sleeping over all the time, but always maintaining our separate residences, separate lives. I want the commitment, planning our future together, not just the living arrangements, but everything. Is 2 yrs too soon?
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It will be up to him to change his goals. If his house is his castle, you will have many problems. You should either think seriously of breaking it off or just live with it. If you nag him, it will cause the relationship to degrade or change to where he is more willing to work it out. If he truly values you and your children, he will find a way to make it better for all of you. You are at a point for a very serious and truthful discussion that will force the relationship one-way or the other. Be prepared for both and pray for the best. 2 years is not too soon. Your children are counting on stability.
brake up with him all men are losers.
It sounds as if he has been very honest about what he wants from the relationship. It’s time that you make some decisions about whether you want to maintain things the way they are, or move on to look for someone who wants more of a traditional family life with you and your children.
I think his girlfriend passing has given him some committment issues. He may be afraid to "love" again. Ladies, let’s remember that when a man is upfront and honest about what he wants for himself, u have got to respect it. U may not like it, but respect it. Don’t push the issue, it only causes problems. If u don’t think u can go on like that, move on. Don’t make him miserable, and definitely don’t be miserable.
i got married after 1 month and hes gone now. (went to another country, good riddance!!!). if after 2 years he still does not want to get married, he most likely will not change his mind. so you could do one of two things. break up with him, and find someone who may be willing to commit. or keep with him, knowing that he will not change, or want to get married. in the end, its your decision. how much do you love him?
It sounds like he may be scared to make that commitment and move in together. I don’t think you should break up with him, but you should definetely talk to him about what you see for your future and where he sees both of you in the next five years. Since he doesn’t have children of his own, he may just be scared about being a father figure to your children and helping you take care of them. Two years is not too soon to move in together, as long as you both are ready to make that commitment.
No, 2 years isn’t too soon. Action speaks louder than words. If he wanted more from you, he would show it. I don’t think you should pursue more with someone that isn’t pursuing more from you and your kids. Maybe it’s time you consider if this relationship is right for you and your kids.
Well if you feel as though you have grown to this point where your ready for a serious committment he should understand that if he feels the same as you do. You guys need to have a good conversation about this and let out your feelings. Tell him how you feel let him know what going on in your heart and if he can’t relate you guys are better off just friends.
wow, that’s pretty tough. i definetly don’t think that two years is too soon. you should talk to him and tell him that you don’t like things they way they are right now and either the two of you can work some sort of compromise or quit wasting each others’ time. what’s the point of dating for so long in your not going to make anymore progress. find some one who will be more willing to help make things work with you as well.
its clear yall have different goals , stop letting him sleep over, if its to small tell him to go home so you and the kids can have yall space
Move on. You don’t have to dump him in the next 24 hours but he is terrified of commitment and he seems to cherish this house more than you or your kids. So let him have his house. Maybe it will make love to him and keep him company later on in life. You deserve better. Someone who prizes you, takes a real interest in your children and does not fear commitment.
let him go! your future plans differ too greatly to sacrifice the way u want to live. he sounds as if he is a bit afraid to go ‘balls to the wall’ and share his ‘life’ w/ u. therefore, you need to dismiss him now and find a man who shares ur ideals. sorry… ur mr right is still out there looking for u- dismiss this one so he can find u unattached and free to explore life w/ him and ur kids.
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