I love him he doesn't love me yet how do I cope?
I asked this earlier but all I got were joke answers. Long story short, im in a committed relationship with a man who treats me amazingly and is always looking out for my best interest. he says he sees a future with us and he is very committed to the relationship. a few months ago i told him i loved him and didnt get the same back. fast forward a few months and it still stings alot. i know he cares very much and it just takes him longer to develop those feelings but how can i deal with it better? "enjoying what we have now" isnt exactly as easy as it sounds because sometimes it hurts ALOT. any advice from people who have been through the same would be great. suggesting hes cheating is ridiculous, we work in the same office and im with him nearly every single night, he doesnt even have the time for something like that.
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i hate to say it, but waiting for someone to love you back doesnt work. you should be with someone who loves you no matter what. someone who wants to be with you and wants to say i love you.
but also maybe he has a past with that phrase? maybe he got hurt before? there could be many reasons why he wont say it.
but you need to have a sit down talk with him, tell him how you feel, and how even tho u chose to say i love you it still hurt that he didnt say it back. find out why he chose not to. find out if maybe he had been hurt before. you cant make him say it, but u can reassure him that u do love him, and that ull be there for him when he decides to say it.
and if he doesnt seem like he cares or wants to say it or even feels like he loves u, then move on. but im guessing he might have been hurt in the past.
well the sad thing is, you can’t wait for someone to love you, its either there or its not.
you said a few months ago, it’s weird…about his ex?
Well you’re a FOOL to believe that! There is ALWAYS time for a fling! My girlfriend said the same thing til he left her to go be with the skank he got pregnant! How can he see a future with you if he doesn’t love you? Did you ask what kind of future he meant? A future with you could mean he sees himself still dating you in the future! If everything is so great, why are YOU in such a rush? If everything is so great, why can’t you be happy with what you have? How long you gonna hang around and wait to SEE if he EVER loves you back? WHY would you have said that first before you knew how he felt?
Fortunately Hun, There are some guys out there who do care about our feelings. I am in the same exact predicament with my boyfriend. We have been together a year and he doesnt say I love you. All good things take time. If he is spendning time with you and seems to be enjoying your company then give it time. There are way too many men out there who just say it to say the word and really dont care. There are also too many people out there like the ones above who resort to cheating right away (which I also know is not an option)or say if they dont love you back they never will.. What the heck?? How can you know you love someone weeks or months after meeting them.. love comes with time and Sometimes time is the only way a guy can fall in love with you.. guys dont have feelings like we do. Its really hard for me too because I also feel it. Most people arent willing to stick around and be loyal, most girls just go cheat or find someone else, but the truth is hun, you and I have some good men who dont want to break our hearts. My guy told me, I wont say that until I know marriage is there with you. Thats okay, its only words. So many times guys have said those words and broke my heart, so why even say it? Im thankful he cares enough to not hurt me. Good Luck and Hang in there!