I love him he doesn’t love me yet how do I cope?
I asked this earlier but all I got were joke answers. Long story short, i’m in a committed relationship with a man who treats me amazingly and is always looking out for my best interest. He says he sees a future with us and he is very committed to the relationship. a few months ago i told him i loved him and didn’t get the same back. Fast forward a few months and it still stings a lot.
I know he cares very much and it just takes him longer to develop those feelings but how can i deal with it better? “enjoying what we have now” isn’t exactly as easy as it sounds because sometimes it hurts A LOT.
Any advice from people who have been through the same would be great. suggesting hes cheating is ridiculous, we work in the same office and I’m with him nearly every single night, he doesn’t even have the time for something like that.
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i hate to say it, but waiting for someone to love you back doesnt work. you should be with someone who loves you no matter what. someone who wants to be with you and wants to say i love you.
but also maybe he has a past with that phrase? maybe he got hurt before? there could be many reasons why he wont say it.
but you need to have a sit down talk with him, tell him how you feel, and how even tho u chose to say i love you it still hurt that he didnt say it back. find out why he chose not to. find out if maybe he had been hurt before. you cant make him say it, but u can reassure him that u do love him, and that ull be there for him when he decides to say it.
and if he doesnt seem like he cares or wants to say it or even feels like he loves u, then move on. but im guessing he might have been hurt in the past.
well the sad thing is, you can’t wait for someone to love you, its either there or its not.
you said a few months ago, it’s weird…about his ex?
Well you’re a FOOL to believe that! There is ALWAYS time for a fling! My girlfriend said the same thing til he left her to go be with the skank he got pregnant! How can he see a future with you if he doesn’t love you? Did you ask what kind of future he meant? A future with you could mean he sees himself still dating you in the future! If everything is so great, why are YOU in such a rush? If everything is so great, why can’t you be happy with what you have? How long you gonna hang around and wait to SEE if he EVER loves you back? WHY would you have said that first before you knew how he felt?
Fortunately Hun, There are some guys out there who do care about our feelings. I am in the same exact predicament with my boyfriend. We have been together a year and he doesnt say I love you. All good things take time. If he is spendning time with you and seems to be enjoying your company then give it time. There are way too many men out there who just say it to say the word and really dont care. There are also too many people out there like the ones above who resort to cheating right away (which I also know is not an option)or say if they dont love you back they never will.. What the heck?? How can you know you love someone weeks or months after meeting them.. love comes with time and Sometimes time is the only way a guy can fall in love with you.. guys dont have feelings like we do. Its really hard for me too because I also feel it. Most people arent willing to stick around and be loyal, most girls just go cheat or find someone else, but the truth is hun, you and I have some good men who dont want to break our hearts. My guy told me, I wont say that until I know marriage is there with you. Thats okay, its only words. So many times guys have said those words and broke my heart, so why even say it? Im thankful he cares enough to not hurt me. Good Luck and Hang in there!
Rachel- what you said really helped me out. Im in your shoes right now, me and my man have been together over a year now. we waited to say I love you till we meant it, maybe 5 months ago. last night i tild him i really loved him, that i was in love with him. he didnt understand why it hurt so bad when he didnt say it back, and why it hurts that he wont say it first. but he is worth the wait… any guy who wants to wait to say it till he truely means it is worth the wait. hang in there girls, not all men are snakes.
HI,
please help me i dont know what to do now, i try not to call him 2 days now, but in my heart and mind i really like to contack with him i miss him so much 
me and my boyfriend we stay together for almost 3 years now, in our first year i feel that he loves me so much, he is very caring and whatever ive done wrong to him he always forgive me, he never let me to stay outside during night and he is very excited to see me everytime before, he always kiss me in my lips, and i feel so inlove him in that way, in another year of our relation, he become cold at me, he never become nice and he started to look another girl, i get so hurt everytime we go out because he show me that he wants another girls, thats why we fight when we go home, he start to hit me everytime he got angry with me, he never kiss me and he never say that he loves me anymore, oneday i ask him why? he say to me very gently that he dont want me anymore, he want space and he want finish with me, he dont love me anymore and that words it gets me so hurt, i kept fighting with him , because i cant accept that he can do this things to me, i call him so many times everyday and he cannot use his mobile, i cried to him and said, he cannot live me alone, oneday we go to a bar and im drunk, when i ask him he push me away from him because he saw another girl, and we start to fight infront of a lot of people, after that time he dont want to answer my call my sms, he is very angry with me, but i love him so much, my friend keep saying just let him go, but its very hard for me, i want him to comeback with me
And wake up cuffed to a hospital bed if lucky.