Feel so low and out of my depth?
Like many others, I see myself as a victim of the world economic downturn. 6 months ago, I left my baby, my wife, my mother and my sister (we have a small family) behind in the UK to go abroad and help us out financially. We have achieved financial stability (for the short term) as a result. I am fortunate that I stay with relatives who although I don’t get on with but do enough to get by every day. This has meant that I do not have to worry about rent etc. My only cost is a lease car which I pay for every month.
I work in one of the Gulf States and was accepted a job on whim out here which meant that I was able to double my salary. I now send 90% of what I earn back to the UK to help cover the mortgage and bills back home. I also left the UK with debts of around 6000 pounds because I was earning less than what I was paying out every month. I would always end up being overdrawn every month. I save very little here although I am making progress in repaying my debts. Before I left the UK, I was stuck in a dead end job which I worked really hard at but was stitched up by the management who treated me very badly when I decided to apply for numerous internal job openings. I worked for this company for two years and got nothing out of it.
I do not like living here. It is a complete culture shock. 6 months in, I am feeling angry, frustrated, lonely, home sick and I feel quite ill on a mental level. I am due to fly out to visit my family in June but do not know how I will be able to cope when I return back to the Gulf. I feel very insecure about myself and my family feels the same way.
Add to that, our fixed term mortgage is going to end in October so we need to find a new affordable mortgage. I am worried that it may be more expensive than what we are paying at the moment. Our main challenge in the UK was that we (wife and I) earned less than what we were spending. We did not even have a lavish lifestyle and only went out once a month but our bills were through the roof.
Now as I wait to fly out in two weeks, I am both happy that I will be seeing my baby for the first time since she was born 6 months ago and my small family who are the world to me, but sad because we may have to endure more emotional pain. I don’t honesty know how I will be able to cope if the worse happens and we were to live separately for longer. The worse fear is that our marriage may be put under strain which I dread because me and my wife have a beautiful relationship. I am sorry if I have rambled on for a long time but I am sitting here in the office in front of the computer totally lost and drained under the stresses of my mind.
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you shouldn’t think of negative things.. instead.. why don’t you be a little optimistic.. don’t be down in the dumps.. if you continue to think like that.. you’ll go permanently gray.. it all takes a little faith, prayer, and hard work.. that’s my advice..
Hey there Im really sorry that things haven’t been going so well for you.
But No matter how long you may have been standing,
don’t give up! Im not too sure if you believe in Jesus. But he wants you and your family to be happy
Your season is coming. Your harvest of blessing
is on its way. It might be today, it might be tomorrow, it might be
next week, next month or next year, but remember, at the right time
you will experience your breakthrough. Be encouraged today because God is faithful and His promises are true. Keep standing, keep hoping,
Keep believing. Keep doing good. Keep declaring the promises of God
over your life. Choose to be around people who are going to encourage
you and fill your heart and mind with God’s Word. Let a song of
praise come out of your mouth. As you continue to press on in faith
and keep an attitude of victory, you will see your harvest of blessing
And live as an overcome in every area of your life.
God is working behind the scenes in your life, today. No matter what
you may be facing, no matter what trial your may be going through, God has a plan to turn things around in your favor. Right now, He is
working out a plan for your good. Right now, He is orchestrating the
right people to come across your path. He is orchestrating the right
opportunities to open up to you. You may not see it in the natural,
but look with your eyes of faith today. Keep standing. Keep believing.
Keep hoping. Keep following His Word. Focus on His goodness in your
life, knowing that He rewards the people who seek after Him. As you
meditate on the faithfulness of God and show your love for Him by
following His Word, you will see His plan come to pass. You’ll
experience His peace and joy, and you will live in victory all the
days of your life!
Just have faith
God wants you to be happy and he hasn’t forgotten about you.
Just believe in him and take day by day and Just pray and have faith in God…there is nothing too hard for Almighty
God!!!! And he can give you the desires of your heart
Also ask yourself this
What are you expecting today? Are you expecting to rise higher in life? Are you expecting good breaks? Are you expecting goodness to follow you everywhere you go? If you are expecting to get the short end of the stick, your own wrong thinking will keep you in mediocrity. Remember, God will meet you at the level of your expectations. Pay attention to what you are thinking about and make the choice to believe God for good things. Every day, imagine there are blessings,favor, increase, and promotion in your path. They already have your name on it! It’s just a matter of time before you come across them. Start confessing everyday "Something good is going to happen to me today." Stand strong when trouble comes, knowing
that your best days are ahead. Believe that God’s blessings will overtake you! Expect goodness and mercy to chase you down. If
you’ll learn to raise your level of expectancy, God will pour out His blessings and favor on you. You’ll rise to new levels and live the life of victory He has in store.
But you have to fellow him and believe in Him
.God cares so much about you today. Not only does He love and care About you, He cares about the things that concern you as well. If you Have concerns, worry or anxiety about something in your life today; Finances, relationships, your job or anything else, know that your Heavenly Father already has a plan to take care of those things for You. It’s a good plan, and He wants to show Himself strong on
Your behalf. The scripture reminds us that the lilies of the field and The birds of the air are cared for, how much more will your Heavenly Father take care of you? Make the decision today to cast all of your Anxiety on Him by choosing to trust that He is going to take Care of you. Refuse to dwell on your problems and don’t allow Them to steal your peace and joy any longer. Instead, choose to meditate on His Word and confess God’s promises over your Life. As you cast your cares on Him, you’ll experience His peace
And joy and you will live the life of blessing He has in store for you. Many times, people can miss Gods best simply because they give up before They see their due season come. Don’t let that be you! Be encouraged today, your answer is Closer than you think. If it seem like things are getting more difficult, remember, when the intensity heats up, that means you are closer to your victory. It always seems darkest just before the dawn arrives. You serve a faithful God, and He’s working behind the scenes on your behalf. Don’t cast away your confidence today because your reward is coming. And just like a new mother forgets about her labor pain when she is finally holding her newborn, you’ll forget about your struggle when you are holding on to your promise. While you are waiting, keep an attitude of faith and expectancy. Wake up every morning and say out loud, I’ve come too far to give up now. My due season is coming. I will reap my harvest. Stay in faith and look for His hand
of blessing because He has promised you victory and its closer than you think!
Good luck and God Bless you