A MUST READ:::EX BOYFRIEND. NOW MARRIED W/ ISSUES. NOW WANTS ME BACK. ?
Ok, so i was dating this guy 7 years ago. I was young at the time and really didn’t want to settle with anyone. I was moving back and forth from nj to fl at the time too.
Ok, so because of myspace he found me after all these years. He had spent over 0 looking for me.
He was telling me that he loves me and misses me and wants me back.
ok, so I said so hows your wife and child. He was shocked I knew. I said to him, " you know me and your sister is best friends. we talk about everything." He said that we are having problems and she is crazy.
Ok, so the girl he married has been around for years and years and she really is crazy.
Ok so he said the only reason he married her was he was ready to settle down and she was the only girl there at the time.
we have been talking on the phone for the last few weeks and he even talked to me in the same room as his wife and she dont care.
So, my question is what should I do. I love him still too. I could of been got him back but I wasn’t ready. I have him now but he is married. He wants to get a divorce and move here with me.
What should I do should I wait for him? Should I tell him to work it out with his wife because of his little girl? HELP!!!! please
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Thats exactly what you should do… WAIT…. wait until he does get divorced then we’ll see if he comes to you. Chances are…… he wont. but you never know!! thats why I say wait. if you love him and he’s worth waiting for then do it…. but I wouldnt suggest waiting more then 6 mos for him. Thats more then enough time to file for divorce so…. like I said, WAIT and see…..DO NOT make him cheat on his wife!!
Do your own thing and tell him he needs to do his own thing. That might mean he leaves his wife, it might not. Whatever you do, don’t wait around for him to do so. Excuses, excuses. He married her and has a kid with her – why do women always believe the "she’s a crazy psycho" story?
You are so morally challanged. You cannot be in love with him because no sensible person would be in love with a person that would dump their wife and kid for a new/old piece of ass. Go masterbate and see if the urge goes away. If not get the thing plugged before you ruin a whole bunch of peoples lives.
I can really relate to you. My married ex ( I am married too) contacted me last summer. I knew I had feelings for him, but I still let my friend give him my number and allowed him to call. He called,and we had a nice twenty minute conversation. I could tell he regretted letting me go, and I sure as hell regret not trying hard enough to change his mind. He told me he was not loosing contact with me and I kept his number in my contact list. A few days later, because he was away at a conference, he began to text me. He asked to see me and after a few months, we finally caught up with each other. It was then that he told me he was married (I knew). We still communicated by text at times and had planned to see each other (just talk) one night. His wife found the text. He told me not to call that phone, but a few months later, after my friend saw him somewhere, he gave her his work number for me to call him.
He does not call me, if I call him, I leave a message to let him know I wsa thinking of him. However, he has stopped me in passing several times. The last time (two months ago), he hugged me so long I thought he didn’t want to let me go. I didn’t want to let him go either. Whenever we see each other we are all smiles. I think it is safe to say that we still feel the same. His wife is “crazy” too, (I heard from a reliable source) and I also heard he is not happy, but he is sticking in there for his kids.
I say this to make this point. You and he will always love each other. Yes, you two probably should have been married, but you are not. If he leaves his wife, and things do not work out with you, he will go back to her. It has taken a year for me to realize that although I feel my ex’s love and affection for me, I know that he belongs with his family and me with mine.
I feel as though one day we will be together, but by causes that do not call for us to hurt our spouses to be together. I would rather he be with me because of other issues that has nothing to do with me, and me the same.
Wait for him to leave his wife…..do not keep constant communication with him. If he has a child, there will be some major financial responsibilities he will have to take on and there is nothing you can do or say about it. If his wife does not want the break up, she will make your life hell.You don’t want to hurt yourself, and you will be hurt if you let him have cake and eat it too. Let him and his wife fall apart without you being the hammer. I know it is tempting, but it will not turn out good if it is done shady. I have a hard time staying away, but I try to avoind runnng into him now. I did callhim on his birthday a few months ago and left a message, but that is as far as I can let it go.
Last thought:
People are going to tell you that you are wromg, that he is a dog, that you are trifling…whatever. I don’t care, because you can NEVER say what you would or would not do. I was like that at one time, until I connected with my ex again. Tune those people out. When you love someone, you do for a lifetime no matter who you marry or who they marry, that is just human nature.