I want my husband back… Help! What do I do??????
I am married and have a 2 yr old. I have been married for 4 years.We decided to separate in Nov. I cheated on him. I was unhappy and he had a very bad anger problem. I felt so low. He found out and wanted to resolve things and I insisted we separate. I started dating this guy pretty soon after. I found out I am pregnant. My lease where I live is ending April 1st and I have to move. Well the plan was to move with the new BF to an apt and have the baby.. But I think I am making a big mistake! I dont love him it was all fun but I want my husband. I love him and my daughter misses him so much! I made an appt for abortion on Sat. I dunno i have two options. Get the abortion and leave the bf or or move in with him and risk it but I would only be forcing myself and pretending. I am only 22. I called my husband and he said he will help me out only if I break up with the bf and stay single, he doesnt know im preggo. I want him back but he says he can’t trust me.Do I wait or take a chance????
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Your depending on TOO many people to run your life!
I would if you want your husband back dismiss this BF , and get the ABORTION ( no child needs to be born in a situation like yours ) and work on yourself in regards to ultimately getting your husband back!
Your marriage is over.
Your relationship with BF is over.
Do you want to have a kid with just you against the world?
Go to your appointment and get your head put on straight while you’re at it.
He obviously can’t trust you. You messed up, BIG! It probably isn’t fixable, you need to move on with your life!
save yourself the heartache and resolve the pregnancy to terminate, go back to your husband and work it out. you have a child together, please think about what you really have instead of this parallel life that is fiction.
you still have a chance to get your life back, do it quickly!
I would break up with the bf, if you don’t love him. Have the abortion if you can make that decision (a brave one). If you can’t abort, have the baby. Either way, take time to be on your own (with or without baby) to be sure of what you want. You had the affair, which indicates you didn’t really love your ex as much as you think. Maybe you want him back to feel safe. On your own you’ll give your ex (and your bf) the opportunity to show their character. Maybe you’ll be more confident then to make a cool, calm decision on your future. Maybe a third man will come along. All the best.
hmm i agree with the first guy
but you are young and so confused and you cant’make such a hasty decision right now on anything because you are so confused and there a many factors here.
first of all do you want the baby or not. it sounds like a no
second do you want the boyfriend or not? it sounds like a no.
third do you want to try with you husband again, it sounds like a yes, but this IS not a passionate thing, you have to face this SO seriously.
You need to gain his trust as he maturely stated, and not just with the motivation and your own reasons of getting him back and insecurities about being alone, but because you care about him and want whats best for him. That is true love. If you think he deserves much better than you right now, then you need to change yourself and raise yourself more… if you know what i mean. Be honest, be open, be upfront, give him time and not think this is instant, step back and realise this is going to need you to reasses many things and if your serious I would get councilling aswell.
Love is whats best for him, even if it means letting him go as they say. So figure out what your motivations are first.
Can you move back home or somewhere else now? Because moving from one guys arms to another is not makes you look confused but it totally stops you from really fixing this problem on all fronts clearly and from a good position. It compromises the outcome and the relationship wontlast if you dont sort everything out before you jump in.
but hey… it’s your call. I hope it works out
If you both wanna try it again got for it but make think before you do stuff next time the baby your carrying didn’t ask for any of this and that’s what you need to think about it’s not right to just get an abortion because you made a mistake think adoption. Don’t just eliminate something that can make you happy.
Make it work for your 2 year old because she needs a stable family life to grow up in.
In 1980 my wife left me for a married man who got her pregnant and moved her to near where him and "his wife" lived. I had been hoping and praying for 8mos that she would come back. One day, I finally got the call I had so much hoped for. She told me that she hadn’t heard or seen her boyfriend in 8wks. She wanted to know if we could "try it again?" I told her NO!!! I refused to be her "fallback plan" if her relationship with her boyfriend didn’t work out. I think your husband is a smart man for losing you. You apparently only want him back as part of your "fallback plan." Kudos to him and good luck to you…
You should just forget about getting back with your husband. You made the ultimate trust violation. Don’t abort your baby based on which man will take care of you. Take care of yourself and don’t rely on someone else to take care of you. A lot of women have made it by taking care of themselves in similar situations. Base your choices on what you want and don’t base it on what the men in your life want.
You cheated on him and there’s no trust. Without trust there’s no point in having a relationship. The good thing, you guys can still be friends. Don’t abortion the baby, that’s just wrong! You took the responsiblities of not using any protection.
OK, IF YOU DECIDE TO AVE AN ABORTION ARE YOU GOING TO TELL YOUR HUSBAND ABOUT IT? IF YOU ARE NOT YOU STILL LYING AND IF HE FIND OUT, ( WHICH SOON OR LATER HE WILL) HE STILL WONT TRUST YOU OR EVEN HATE YOU FOR SOMETHING LIKE THIS, COVERING SOMETHING WRONG BY DOING SOMETHING EVEN WORST WONT GET YOU ANYWHERE..YOU NEED TO BE TRUE TO YOURSELF FIRST AND THEN CONFESS EVERYTHING LET IT OUT, IF HE STILL WANTS TO WORK OUT SOMETHING WITH YOU GREAT IF NOT ,,, LEARN FROM YOUR BIG MISTAKE,,,YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT THE FUTURE WILL HOLD FOR YOU,,,, IF YOU DONT WANT YOUR BABY THINK ABOUT OPEN ADOPTION, MANY PEOPLE OUT THERE WILL DO ANYTHING TO HAVE A CHILD, AND SINCE ADOPTION IS SOO EXPENSIVE OPEN ADOPTION IS THE BEST WAY TO GO FOR MANY COUPLES, AND THEY WILL HELP YOU EVEN FINANCIALLY….SOO PLSSS DONT ABORT JUST BECAUSE YOU GOT PREGNANT AT WRONG TIME, OR BY THE WRONG GUY.
DO NOT DEPEND ON SOMEBODY ELSE TO TAKE CARE OF YOU,, JUST THE SAME WAY YOU CHEATED ON HIM, WHAT MAKE YOU THINK HE WILL NOT DO IT TO YOU,,, OR EVEN HE FINDS SOMEBODY ELSE AND DECIDE TO LEAVE YOU,,,THEN WHAT WILL YOU DO?
If you can make it work with your husband, then you should try, but do not go back to him if you plan on putting him through this hell again. As far as those telling her not to have an abortion, and that it is wrong to have an abortion…get over yourselves. It’s her body and her choice.
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