Taking a week long break from our relationship– A new beginning, or the beginning of the end?
My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years. Planning on getting married. He has always had trust issues, however said I was the only girl he ever trusted. Well, a few weeks ago, after I had just recovered from a Staph infection and hadn’t seen him for a week, he told me he was going to fix his car. He didn’t come home until 1am, had gone to a friends all night. The next morning I called and he didn’t seem to think this was a big deal at all. I was SO frustrated because I had previously explained to him how it hurts me when he just goes off without letting me know, I get worried. So I did the same, I went and disregarded his feelings like he had done mine and hung out with a few old guy friends that he HATES! Well I told him about it, he almost broke up with me… we made up. He found out more of the situation I didn’t tell him about, he agreed our love was strong enough to get through, but wants a week long break, still talking but not seeing each other because he was hurt by this.
I am really unsure whether this break will just give him time to get over me, or will really strengthen our relationship? He says that maybe a week long break will help us appreciate each other, but I told him I don’t understand how we can work on our relationship if we aren’t even around each other. Not to mention, we have already spent a week apart and that didn’t make him appreciate me at all, that is how the whole thing started. I apologized and admitted I was VERY immature about the whole thing, I had just reached a breaking point. I love him so much, I am just scared that this break is going to turn into a break up. He assures me that it won’t, but I just have a feeling….
I realize I was being very immature, but I was so upset and made an irrational decision. I know perfectly well that two wrongs don’t make a right. However, he had gone out all night after an entire week of him just dissapearing and not letting me know what was going on, saying he would call me at a certain time and calling me 5-6 hours after that. I have anxiety issues and get really worried about him when I can’t contact him and he said he was going to the store 5 hours ago and still hasn’t come home yet. I had told him daily about how it made me feel and why, I was sitting at home with a Staph infection and would wait for his call and he would just disregard the fact that he said he would come home and call me. Then, the day after I can start seeing him again, after a week of not seeing me, he leaves the entire day when we were supposed to chill and just never let me know. I was very worried and it made me mad because he knew I would be worried and upset and did it anyways.
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You’re acting immature. Sure it was rude of him not to tell you where he went, but it’s nothing to flip out over, you’re the one with no trust issues correct? So relax already, he did something, he didn’t tell you exactly where he was going, no need to flip out.
and why the revenge by hanging out with a guy you know your boyfriend doesn’t like. I’m all for hanging out with whom you please, but doing it JUST to p.iss your boyfriend off is ridiculous and immature.
Learn to TALK out your issues, not going around and getting each other back.
Two wrongs DO NOT make one right.
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Quite honestly, I read your new stuff you added, he doesn’t seem like that awesome of a guy. You have issues yourself, the whole anxiety thing, but it’s him who doesn’t seem so sympathetic to them. I’m cutting you a break here, because this guy seems like someone you shouldn’t marry.
Both of you have communication issues here, he doesn’t want to put the effort in to talk about any of it, so you get frustrated and try to get back at him.
Is this really worth the pain? Don’t you think you could move on from this relationship, learn some important lessons and find a guy who will put in the same about of effort as you? 50/50.
You’re meant to grow from these experiences, missy!
well he didnt go hang out with a whole bunch of girls you hate….so that was very hurtful of u that you did to him..and guys dont think like girls do, and no one is perfect…
if a relationship has to go to a weekly break, it prob is not worth saving…
Sounds childish to me …. I mean .. you hurt his feelings, so even though "your love is strong enough to get through it" you’ve been a bad girl so to punish you, he won’t see you for a week??? C’mon … I mean really … are you in a relationship, or is he in control?
Oh please, break up with that fool. Now imagine if you two get married you dont want a husband that is always playing games. Taking a week long long "break" from a relationship is a weak excuse for doing whatever you want because you are on a "break". I think that you should not get married to this guy. You want someone that you can trust that trusts you also. He may also be messing around with another female. And you guys are also not right for one another because just because he did something it does not make it right for you to do the same thing. If you two really loved each other to the point of marriage you would have worked it out minus the "break"
Good Luck,
He’s Mr. Wrong