2 years later, ex boyfriend still trying to get me back! help me make the right decision?

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1. Ed says:

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   WOW – you really have a tough decision. To be honest, from my perspective, it is not a tough one but it is for you for a variety of reasons.

   Keep in mind that past performance is your best indicator of future performance. Your ex is pretty immature and fancies himself as a ladies man I think. To be honest, he also seems to be pretty manipulative in the way he visits without first checking if you are there. He is using your mother to get these messages to you and it all appears pretty sincere – but I do not believe it is.

   I can explain my reason further if you are interested
2. collegegirl90 says:

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   I think u need to leave him alone and stay w/ ur boyfriend. I wouldn’t risk it if I was you. he could just cheat on you again. those people dont’ change.
3. Genesis says:

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   Don’t risk it… lol don’t
4. kncs says:

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   Well I’m kinda in same situation. Most likely he will do it again, maybe not right? I would just tell ya do what your heart tells ya. That’s not gonna make it the right decision, but whatever decision you make you are gonna have to live with it.
5. cindlurvarchie says:

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   I think you should choose your bf.Your ex doesn’t seem like a guy you can trust.
6. caraohara says:

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   Your ex will do the same thing again…he is already doing it to the gf he is with now….this should tell you something about his character.
7. Dark Angel says:

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   Your ex apparently has no respect for your current relationship, nor for his. Think about the fact that he is attempting to cheat on the girlfriend he has, and is highly likely to do so with anyone he dates. Take a bit of advice from my mom, "Never make the same mistake twice." If you are confused over your current relationship, don’t use your ex as an excuse to dump him.
8. LORI says:

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   Honestly it sounds like he’s some sort of stalker or something? This is really weird behavior after 2 years, it doesn’t seem normal to me at all.
   If he has a girlfriend now it is also really incredibly inappropriate behavior. If he isn’t a stalker he’s at least a really terrible boyfriend, I don’t think you should even consider getting back together with him. He cheated on you and he’s not doing the right thing in his current relationship either so he just sounds like a bad and untrustworthy person to be with overall.

   Personally I think you should have your mom tell him to stop coming over and not to contact you/your family anymore. If he doesn’t listen, I’d probably call the cops, this is really just kind of creepy IMO.
9. midnyghtcloud says:

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   i am STILL dealing with a guy like that, so i SO know what you mean! it is confusing as hell!
   but, honestly dont go back to this guy
   he will probably do it again, cmon he is still with a girl hes been with all this time but he is going behind HER back to say all this for you and to look for you… so obviously he did the same behind YOUR back… my ex did the EXACT SAME to me, and he was "in love" with being "in love" if that makes any sense. over six years ago and he is still trying to get me back…
   i decided not to go back to him, and i think it was a smart choice because i knew deep down i could not trust him
   if its meant to happen, it will
10. Kaio j says:

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    I’m going to be honest – I didn’t read that.

    But if I did, my advice would probably be to fake a pregnancy, learn Hungarian, sell off all your possessions and flee the country.
11. Amber M says:

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    never break up with your current boyfriend for an ex who hasnt rilly been in ur life for long.. if you and your current dont work out you can try going back to your ex .

    if he hurt you b4 hes sure to hurt you now …

    trust me i’ve did that (went after an ex who wanted me back and broke up with my boyfriend for him) and it didnt work out at all i just ended up getting hurt
12. jex t says:

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    If you really want him away then you may have to get a little mean like threatening to call the cops if he shows up again. You probably don’t want to much drama but you could tell his gf that he keeps coming around and i bet your bf doesn’t like him very much but before all that just tell him nicely to "please leave you alone" and next time you won’t ask so nice.
13. david says:

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    Hun, Remember, "once a cheater, always a cheater"
    Do you really want to go back to a cheater, who hurt you, and didnt really care much about you feelling in the first place?

    I suggest you get over him and stay with your current boyfriend.
    At least, he hasnt cheated on you, nor hurt you!.

    If, I where you, I would honestly stay with my current lover and ignore/avoid or better yet, tell your ex-boyfriend to back the hell away from you or tell you current boyfriend to tell him that.

    But, if you do go back to you ex-boyfriend, have fun breaking up with him again or getting cheated on again and being hurt.

    I am just being honest, and sorry, I am rude about this.
14. monkzor says:

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    The logical thing for you to do is to stay with your current companion because in my eyes 2 years > 5 months. The fact that he is with someone else and still longing for you is just unfair to his current girlfriend, don’t you think?

    The other point that you probably will consider more than the first is leaving your current boyfriend for your him. All because you dream about him, your "heart" feels for him, and not your current hubby?

    The problem with your situation is that there is no answer, only a decision like you said. It’s neither right nor wrong because you, yourself, made that decision and there is no excuse should anything "bad" happen.

    Just a thought, love is mutual compromise. You probably don’t agree, but just think.

    E
15. jacobfan_bythemax says:

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    I’d move far away for a while. stay with your boyfriend though, he sounds faithful to you. time will forget hopefully.