how do i get him running back for good! so sad!!!?
I know this is long, but please bear with me! lol i needed to explain all of it so you get the whole picture! ok so, Billy and i have been together on and off (but mostly on) for the past year. hes 36 years old (I am 24), he has a good job but hes living in his parents basement right now. he has a 4 year old son and just went through a nasty divorce. it had nothing to do with me! we got together after the fact. i love him so much, we share soo much in common. his son loves me to death and we are very close. things with Bill got really good for a while, he wanted me to commit but i wanted to make sure things were going to stay good before i completely jumped in with both feet. but he adores me, told me i am "stunningly beautiful" and that he feels soo lucky to have such a catch and that he cant believe that he didnt see all my great qualities before, when things were rocky! i felt so good and excited. ive gotten into modeling and have been independent for over 5 years. but to my dismay, he started acting really distant out of nowhere about 2 weeks ago. he wasnt really saying i love you and just didnt seem as into me. he randomly started giving me this BS that he didnt want to be committed, and wanted to be able to see other people! ouch! it devatstated me, how do you just change that fast!!? i went to go visit my mom in florida last week. i was only there for 6 days! he didnt even call me once while i was away and didnt even return the 3 calls i made to him. it ruined my trip cuz i was so upset and confused. he did come to pick me up from the airport this saturday with his son, he ended up telling me after i asked what was going on and he told me he met someone else. and that its not serious with her and he doesnt want to be committed to her (or anyone) he said he doesnt know what he wants right now. i cried but i didnt beg or freak out and i havent called or seen him since he carried my suitcase upstairs to my place and said im sorry, gave me a long hug (that i didnt return) and said be strong please! then he left. since then no word!! its killing me!! but i will NOT call him and be rejected and look pathetic and desperate. i dont want to push him away further! but i want him to realize what a huge mistake this is and come back to me like he was before. what should i do!? will he come back with his tail between his legs? i dont want to totally give up either! 
thanks guys!
17 hours ago – 3 days left to answer.
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Look, you may be stunning and all, but you can’t make someone feel what they don’t feel. Personally, I think he meet this person before you went to florida and his distance was his guilt. So who knows what he’s been telling this other woman. And he’s 36 yrs old, he should at this point have learn to be honourable and straight about his intentions. You are so right. Do not contact him? Stay busy and that means do not stay a home waiting for him to call. Go out with your friends, go on some dates etc. You have only been with this man for a year, to me not enough time really be on a firm foundation. Unfortunately, guess what, you are the rebound girl that helped him to pick up the pieces of his failure. Personally, he should not have brought you into his son’s life either, that was not fair to this kid and you and himself. You are going to have to face the fact that he is not in your life, may not come back,so live your life as if he is not. Do play any games to get him back. He is not worth it, remember he is someone else’s ex for a reason. Do not give up some much of yourself for a on/off relationship, only for someone who is sure of himself. You’re young, way younger then him and he may have found that you both are not on the same page and for a 12 year difference you just may not had been. Cry your eyes out, say a prayer and then get moving on your life. Throw yourself into your modeling, move away from him if you have to because when you do so, if an ex comes back, you may find that HE is not the one on the same page as you are anymore and walking away makes the sun feel warmer and your mindset brighter.
yeah… you sould totally give up
hate to say it but you were the rebound girl, the girl that helped him get over his divorce.
ugh im sorry try to just let him go
Though it’s tough, leave things alone for awhile. Focus on yourself and spending time with your friends and family. If it’s meant to be, he will realize down the road that he made a mistake; and if it’s meant to be, you will still be available. But don’t waste your time pining after him or hoping he will change his mind. There are so many men out there who know how to treat a woman right. Don’t make yourself suffer!
Just have fun, and know that everything will work out for the best in the end.
Good luck, and keep your chin up.
"told me i am "stunningly beautiful" and that he feels soo lucky to have such a catch and that he cant believe that he didnt see all my great qualities before, when things were rocky!"
You know what that is? that is desperation on his part. His heart is still hurting so he said something that he normally wouldn’t say. I’ve had a guy do that too, you were a rebound, hun. Find someone closer to your age with less baggage.
I Agree with sunshine. sorry
Be strong and kick it to the curb. He doesn’t sound like the type to be falling in love with as he has cold feet and would probably repeat the same behavior. If he does come crawling back tell him he needs to concentrate on raising his son and that you have moved on. Don’t even say you are sorry! Best of luck to you.
Wow such human drama and the kid likes you it seems better than the can’t make up his mind dad. There are choices and both of them are depended on his action. He has to s*** or get off the pot. One is to just chalk it up and the pain (I can read to between the lines isn’t one happy woman) isn’t good. The other option is wait as throwing in the towel has to be definite like a referees call on a NBA basketball game. No body can turn it back and it’s final. Well it takes a guy to answer this question with heart ♥ and not just leave you wishy washy. Bear him out after you explain the clock is ticking on him and the options are slim pickens with you waiting him too long. A sense of what the h*** happened to us? I need something to know ;if there is a future with you? The silence is deafening. One comment of not being committed is not what a woman wants to hear, if there is one story then switched to another, makes this guy something to wonder why he can’t hoof forward towards a catch like you. He has to tell you that’s it and no more BS……..
sorry, you just became the victim of his past.. you don’t need him. he used you just to get over his past.. i had a friend with a similar situation.. he ended up leaving her for another girl..so move on. you don’t need him..