how can i enjoy having sex with a man that bullied me at the begining of our relationship?
my last relationship i lost any desire to have sex. and we broke up. the relationship i am in now has had a lot of problem since the begining almost a year and a half ago. he put me down alot and compared me to x girlfriends, and i was always made not good enough. to the point whether i have not recovered from these comments and just cannot enjoy having sex with me at all. i have no confidence what so ever. i never start anything. i am always thinking am i doing it right, some time i even have images of his x’s in my head whilst trying to do it. it is always in my head. he gave me a comment once saying i would need plastic surgery all over my face to be anything like as good as them. and how beautiful they all were, and they were models etc. all with attitude, and like clubbing and dancing. me being very shy. completly diferent to them. my confidence wasnt really high in the begining, but its now nothing. i walk around town and think everyone is better than me. im pregnant too. and he has tryed to make some of it better. but i dont believe him when he says your pretty, your beautiful i was an arse hole coz of my own insecurities. i didnt mean it. but even now he still says something that will go back to that time. i dont no how to fix myself. i just dont see unless i see his perception of women and beauty change how i can ever believe him, or feel relaxed and enjoy having sex with him, i always feel like im infront of judges.
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Come on darling,RUN FOR UR LIFE!
why are you dating someone that bullied you??? as soon as that happened, you should have dumped the chump… find someone better…
just plain weird
1) Break up with him
2) Get therapy
3) Give the kid up for adoption.
He’s abusive and a horrible person. You shouldn’t EVER have thought that was ok and stayed with him.
The fact that you did stay with him says a lot about you. You have issues, you for some reason didn’t have the self-respect to get out of the situation on your own. So get therapy, find out what it was and fix it.
Don’t get an abortion. That will mess you up so much, especially when you already have so many other issues. You also screwed up and shouldn’t get out of suffering by killing your child. Don’t keep the kid, and don’t tell the boyfriend you are pregnant. You aren’t in any sort of mental state to raise a healthy child. And if your boyfriend knew he might make you have an abortion, or try and get custody, and you don’t need an emotionally abusive man trying to raise a kid. At least with adoption the child has a chance at a healthy life.
The most important part here is that you GET THERAPY
FIX yourself? Why would you want to do that? Who doesn’t have insecurities? Every one lives through life with a facade of some sort to compensate or conceal his/her faults. It’s only lying when you deny you have any to cover up. This guy preys on your natural weaknesses. Most people are aware of each others weaknesses, but they simply choose not to deliver those low blows because of the severity of the damage that can be caused. You wouldn’t tell an unattractive looking person that he/she is ugly would you? Some people would, but we consider those people to be heartless a**holes. Your boyfriend is an a**hole. No one, woman or man, deserves to take low blows.
Your self esteem is at an all time low & even though you are pregnant, staying with him is a mistake.
I know being pregnant makes it harder to leave but i really feel that when the baby is born he will only get worse & you will be having to cope with a newborn baby & his degrading of you.
You definitely need some type of counseling to help build yourself back up where you belong & the sooner you start the better because the way you are feeling now about yourself will end up rubbing off on your child unless you get some help. If you’re not sure how to go about counseling then ask your doctor to point you in the right direction.
Do yourself a huge favor & totally focus on yourself & your baby & get away from him because the longer you are with him the worse you will get & you deserve so much better & so does your child.
As for not wanting sex………….who can blame you not wanting it after what you’ve been through & are still going through!
why the hell are you ina relationship get the hell out there are plenty of fish in the sea and your special someone can’t get to you if your in a tormented relationship. he is an idiot get out and pick yourself up. for the minute you do you’ll turn around and poof Mr. Right will come along. go girlfriend you deserve the best don’t let anyone talk you down again