I want to be in love with my husband again. How do I get it bacK?
When we first met, I couldn’t spend enough time with the man. We would sit for hours, and be really cheesy. We both were completely in love, and giddy about it. It seems silly, but everything changed when we got married. I know that responsibility and maturity sank in, but it seems like it sucked the fun right out of both of us. We know that we are right for eachother, but we miss who we used to be to eachother. I would walk in the room, and he would smile. I would lay on him, and he wouldn’t complain about being hot. Just silly things, that made us sparkle. I don’t feel the sparkle anymore, and I know that he misses it too. Any advice to put a fire back to a cold stove??
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Don’t be predictable! Most relationships get boring becuase it’s a daily routine! Try being spontaneous. Also, try something I like to call mystery. Mystery in yourself will cause curiosity in him, so don’t tell him everything you do all the time. Keep some stuff to your self, It might come in handy in the next few days when he is intrigued with curiosity with you. Curiosity will bring more of that giddy fealling back into your relationship. And remmember be spontaneous!
talk to him about sex
go out and do fun things again! go bowling or miniature golfing, go out to a movie, etc. im sure that will put you in teh mood again.
idk if this could help but.
try to just go out on like a romantic dinner and maybe get each other gifts.
ur such a bad wife..
‘Acting as if’ and really focusing on what you want seems to help.
You guys should try to show each other some form of affection everyday, that aren’t the same. For example, sending him text messages while he’s at work wishing him a good day, or even sending him a kinky text message but without you expecting a response from him. Just keep doing fun surprises like that, and trying to go out more together and i’m sure things will slowly get more exciting. Good luck hun
You should do something spontaneous, if that doesn’t help maybe you should see a counselor or something.
well all you have to do is.. start back all over.. go back to the place where everything began for you.. do the things which u did before getting in relationship with the person.. take things slowly.. go for a vacation.. to some cold place… where u can stay close to each other.. or some beach. where u can walk on the sand hand-in-hand..
Make it a point to spend one hour daily just the two of you, no kids, no tv just the two of you talking and sharing thoughts, whatever you do do not start with "what is wrong"
I know exactly what you’re going through.
Sit down and talk to him and tell him how you feel. Then, YOU start doing things that make him feel special and hopefully, he will pick up on the hint and do the same for you.
If that doesn’t work, try and plan a vacation together, maybe a cruise and just be spontaneous.
If you have children, that can be tough because you are both exhausted by the end of the day and don’t feel like being romantic anymore.
I’m still trying to figure out a way to get our spark back here too! Just remember what made you fall in love with him in the first place and try to get back to that.
Good luck!
LOL yeah I know the feeling. My fiance claims he is hot too when I am cuddly feeling. Honestly, all that newness does wear off but the good news is that it is replaced with someone who is there through thick and thin and though it is not as exciting anymore, sometimes just having someone who truly loves you is good enough. If you want to gain back some of the good times, spend more time on private dates or vacations and relax. The stress of everyday life can get anyones head screwed up and stressed out.
According to Chapman in his book "Five Languages of Love" each person has his/her own language of love and that language must be spoken to us by our partner to fill our love tank. It seems that your love language is having a quality time with your husband. Try telling it to him and in return try discovering the love language of your husband: it can be words of affirmation of your love to him, touch, quality time, service, and giving gifts. When you found that out, try speaking his language and make his love tank full.
You might start by looking at your lives and seeing if there some outside influence sucking the fun out. Money problems, working different schedules that keep you from being together, not eating correctly – the list is endless, but that is where I would start.
Talk to your husband about it and see if he can think of anything. This could to take a while. Just looking at what is going on should give you the opportunity to find things that will put the spark back in. It can remind you both of why you liked each other in the first place.
question for you how long have you been together and married to each other? that has a lot to do with the type of answer you will get from people. If you have been married for a while then try go out to dinner once a month or to the movies try do the thing you use to do when you first met each other. I kinda understand my husband and I have been married 20 yrs and we feel like that sometimes it will come and go thoughtout your marriage you just have to work at it
wow, as i was reading this i thought about how lucky i am.. my hubby & i are exactly like you & yours used to be…
*so thanks for making me realize how awesome we have it*
Now, what changed? Did something drastic happen? new job? new house? anything life changing?
Have you sat down and told your hubby exactly what you wrote up there? If not, I would do it.
Try taking a Vacation, even if its just for a weekend. A new, unexpected place would do you some good!
I really hope you get things heated back up! And i think its awesome that you are one of those couples who will WORK on their marriage instead of giving up!
BEING COLD DOESN’T MEAN YOU’RE NOT INLOVE ANYMORE. I PASSED THAT STAGE TOO. BEING MARRIED IS STRESSY SOMETIMES AND MANY TIMES SPECIALLY ATTENDING THE KIDS.
JUST COMMUNICATE WITH HUBBY AND GIVE LITTLE SURPRISES SOMETIMES. THINGS THAT YOU DON’T USUALLY DO BUT HE LIKES IT WILL KEEP THE STOVE BURNING.
Sleep together on the same bed!!!!!!! Cuddle up together!!! Snuggle up together!!!