My ex freaked me out last night?
I’m going freakin crazy with this situation. I don’t know what to do. I feel so numb right now. Please help. This will be long most likely. I just…full detailed on what’s going on. I’ll try and keep it to the point. 
Just…I need help. Anything.
Me and my ex have been together for about a year. It would have been a year and a month today. I do love him. I do. It’s just…it’s been different for the last month or two of our relationship. We haven’t been connecting as much and he’s been just such an angry person. And he’s not one to show emotions..until…the past month or two. We broke up two weeks ago. Because we were talking and at first we were both fine with breaking up and think it would be best because things didn’t feel right anymore.
But suddenly he turned around and was like "No, I’m not letting you leave me." But the thing is..for the past month or two he told me he was thinking about breaking up with me. Because he said he was loosing feelings for me. Well it turns out he was just saying that because he was mad that I wanted to know what was wrong with our relationship.
This was of coarse before we broke up. Well anyways, two days later he confirmed we should breakup because he figured I would be happier. but he didn’t tell me the last part. Well we started talking that day and I was just like saying I felt like we weren’t right for each other right now and I think he should figure things out first. He doesn’t have a job. Which he thinks is the main problem. But I told him the economy is horrible and I understood.Which I really do. But he might be giving up in college because he thinks he can’t do it anymore. He hasn’t been doign so well because of his sleeping disorder and then he thinks there’s no point in finishing the class or whatever so he ends up failing.
Anyways, yesterday we were hanging out. ((Again I should add only 35% of the time he said he loved me without something being wrong. Anytime else he only said it when something was wrong. and he was sometimes a jerk but I still…loved him.)) I…told him I was dating someone right now. Just to see. He was my first boyfriend and we always told he each other if there was a chance of a second chance we would do it just to test things out. But no guarantees. I share more stuff in common with him. I do only like him.But I can see myself with someone like him. He shares the same values and goals I do and what not. He’s like one of my best friends. I was starting to date him two days ago. he flipped out. And he scared me a bit a to be honest. He was so mad. ((I introduced them to each other a few months ago and they became friends. they hung out about three or four times with me.)) But my ex..freaked out and I actually got scared. He was so angry. Stormed out of the car and was yelling at me and how I should burn in hell with his dad. and…how he should kill my current boyfriend right now. And then he was laughing a bit and said "Your lucky I don’t have my knife on you. for a few seconds there I felt like slitting your throat." and then…he broke down and cried a bit.
And then like after all the yelling and anger and what not we talked more and he kept on saying I was only the icing to his problems and basically destroyed him now. And he was back to the guy I fell in love with. I drove him home that night. and he really wanted me to get back with him and wanted me happy. He said he only said those things because he was angry. and did not really mean them…..and that I should understand that he was just angry at me and my current boyfriend now.
He has never really threatened me like that before.
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Your ex-boyfriend seems to have many issues going on. His frustration, his strike of such anger. Not trying to change subjects, but perhaps it has something to do with his dad? Since he mentioned that he wanted you to burn in hell with him, it seems as though he holds a deep rancor for him. Perhaps, that was a trigger to his anger issue.
I guess you can see why he was angry. It has only been two weeks, which is a very short time. But the other reasons you have told us suggests that he does have some anger problems, and he may be keeping a lot inside. It doesn’t look like a simple case, and maybe the cause of the " fade away part in the last month or two" is because of this. His true self was showing, or he was having difficulties establishing what kind of things he should and shouldn’t do.
What we say, there is no right or wrong in this situation. it’s simply your tolerance, and how you feel. You should have a good think about who you want to be. If you do choose your ex-boyfriend, know that you must have a lot of patience and you have to work on the problem why you broke up in the first place. He’ll need to settle down better with his search for a job, and he needs to work on his anger management. Either way, just take a long think about who you think is the one for you. Good luck
I definitely think that you should cut your ties with this guy, I do understand that you have been together for awhile but that doesnt matter in the long run. Since he said that to you is the main reason to end all contact with him. His emotions might have changed but there is not reason for him to threaten your life joking mad or not. If he can say it then more than likely he has been thinking about it. If you really want to give him another chance, which i think you should not, then make him go to a doctor and see what is going on because in the long run you are going to be the thing he takes his frustrations out on.
Oh my goodness, are you serious? No one could be that angry to pull a knife on his gf, but seriously you should keep your distance from him. What if another incident like this took place, what would actually be the outcome? Has he said anything like this before, if not maybe he was being a bit insensitive to your feelings at that point…be careful
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Wow, he might be obsess with you. Be careful with that guy. things do not seem so good from my perspective. I would say he is a loser but no offense. He does not work, he is failing his classes and worse of all he is giving you a hard time. On the other hand, you said that your current date shares your goals and values.
If i were you, i would stick with that guy.