If your wife is not letting you see your son FOR NO REASON; can you get back your child support??? look inside?
If your wife is not letting you see your son FOR NO REASON; can you get back your child support??? look inside; my son is 12 years old almost 13 i have never missed a child support payment; my son lives 100 miles away; i still see him every 2 weeks; i am flexible; but about 8 months ago; my busisess tanked; i was paying 3-4 times child support; and now she is only getting what it says and she wont let me see my son; i still send child support; dont i have the right by law to get my money back and cant i see my son even if she doesnt want me to see my son and she is saying my son doesnt want to see me; in 12 years i have had like 2 arguments in my life with him; its been great; she is just mad because she had 2 more kids and had to go back to work instead of living off me and now wants me to give up my son and let her husband adopt him; are you kidding me; can i get my money back those 8 months; what should i do;
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No. You were the one who willingly paid more than you were required to pay, and that was your own fault. However, you can take her to court to a. get the existing support lowered if you are out of work, and b. get a visitation agreement established. If you already have an established agreement, then by not allowing you to see your son, she is in violation of that agreement. Talk with an attorney!!
Get back…
…NO!
Stop paying…
….possibly. But you need to talk to an attorney about this, not us.
stupid women hey? they always do that to their ex’s.
its cuz they can and women are retarded and all of them should be blown up.
You can’t get child support back because you aren’t seeing your son.
If there is a court ordered visitation, then you have to hold her in contempt.
No…Child support is not a payment you send in order to see your child. You can’t get it back, or stop paying because you’re not seeing your son.
In the same respect- she can’t take away your visitation because she isn’t getting as much as she wants. That is illegal.
You can take her back to court on contempt charges and request custody.
Good luck! Make sure she knows that by denying you visitation that you are entitled to, she is in contempt of court…that might change her attitude a little.
If she is preventing you from seeing your son, she is in contempt and you can take her to court. You cannot get any child support back and you have to keep paying until there is another court order to have it stopped or your son graduates from high school.
get back no.. get credit for paying extra? maybe if you have proof .
take it to your lawyer and the courts. if it is in your divorce papers regarding visitation how often etc and if she is breaking that
agreement then take her to court.
No you can’t get you rmoney back..You need to talk to your lawyer and take her butt back to court. She can not keep him from you unless you are in some kind of trouble; if you were in trouble and were not able to see your child..You would still have to pay your child support unless you sign your rights over.
Are you still getting him on your scheduled weekends? If not, go to get him and if she won’t let him go..Take your divorce decree with you and go to the police station and they can help you.
good luck
If you love your son then don’t try to get it back, not going to happen. Don’t stop paying, quick way to go to jail. Do not allow someone else to adopt your son if you are actively involved in his life. You should be able to get the courts to force her to allow you to see your son. Keep a log of the conversations when you’re trying to see him.
if your finances have changes, get the support lowered
and FIGHT for the visitation you deserve
Child support and visitation are completly separate issues. Your child does not stop eating or using up resources. If you let her husband adopt your child you also may still have to pay support. There are loop holes. Call a fathers’ right adovocate in your area for help. If u want to see your son, file a petition with the court. If you don’t, you can’t complain.
I read your question as you asking if you can get back your "overpayment’s" that you made in the past, not just stop paying child support.
If that is the case you are lucky that she has not taken you back to court to up your child support. Just as in marriage you have afforded her a certain accommodation in her expectations. She has now gotten used to the "extra" money and some courts feel that if you can afford to make the extra payment then it should be mandated.
My suggestion os to back off thinking you can get money back and just go back to court to make her uphold her end of the deal that you get to see your son.
Furthermore, if you wish to pay more than you owe then I suggest you set up a separate account just for your son so that he may draw off of it in the future.
Child support is NOT a payment you make to see your son… it is to help with the expenses of raising him. It doesn’t matter if you dont see him you still are legally bound to pay support. She should not be keeping him from you and to handle that you will need to take her back to court to ensure someone makes her comply with the visitation order.
No you cant hold back child support. If there is an existing court order that allows you visitation of your son and she refuses you can have her arrested for violation of a court order or take her back to court and let judge know what is going on. It is always best to write down the day, time, etc… and keep it safe guarded just in case you went back to court so you can show judge all the dates and what times you were there when she refused to let you see your son. Good luck!!
My understanding is by law you are obligated to pay child support towards the financial support of your son even if your wife does not allow you to visit him. What you need to do is take her to court and fight for visitation rights. Good luck to you!
If you allow your child to be adopted by another man, then you no longer have to pay child support payments. However, you also give up all rights to see your son and be involved in his life.
If you want to continue being your child’s legal father, then you must keep making child support payments. You can get court-ordered visitations as long as you can prove to the courts that you’re living a healthy, stable lifestyle and the child is not in any danger when he visits you.
Good luck!
first why must one pay child support?
It is money needed to help support the child.
so even if you send extra, the money still goes toward providing a better lifestyle for your son.
Women can be bitter, and spiteful, but this is who you chose to have a child with.
if she doesn’t want to be civil, all you can do is go to a lawyer, fight her IN COURT and you will win. Case closed.
p.s. you are doing the right thing by your son and that is very commendable. don’t let her negativity make you a negative person. bring her up to your level don’t go down to hers. hope this helps.
good luck!
you cant get your money back. but from where i’m from you can take your divorce papers to the police station and show them and they can escort the child to your house. that way it will be on file that she isnt letting him see you.
First off, you are wrong for equating time with your son with child support. Child support is for your son – not for your ex or to pay your ex for spending time with your son. You cannot get your money back, and even the fact that this crossed your mind is selfish and foolish.
What you should do is get in touch with a lawyer. If there is a court order that says that you have to be given visitation on certain days with your son, then she is in contempt of court by not allowing you that. If you file a Motion for Contempt with the court, then the judge will make her smarten up and you can ask for sanctions – whether it be more time with your son, a monetary fine, or jail time. The judge can also at that time decide to make the order more specific to prevent future problems, as well.
Your best bet is to stop equating time with child support and go consult a lawyer.
Child support and visitation are two totally different things in the eyes of the court system.
Just because she is denying you visitation, you can’t stop paying your child support. You can be held in contempt of a court order if you do.
However, she can’t deny you visitation under any circumstance.