Should I be mean to my ex?
An ex who had previously broken my heart completely (basically ditched me for he ex) has been recently trying to contact me. I saw on Facebook that she recently changed her status to single.
I am in a really good place in my life, in a relationship with somebody i really like, good career and friend-wise, that I initially entertained her contacting me and we basically just talked about our lives. Recently she texted me that she "really needed to talk to me" (we had a purely online/text convos before this, she lives far enough away that I wouldn’t accidentally run into her). I told her she could call me if she really needed to talk and she said "good I really need to hear your voice". I am 90% sure that she will want to get back together or something along those lines, maybe just ‘meet up’. I absolutely do not want this, I still harbor bad feelings towards her, and I haven’t even been telling my gf that I have been talking to her, which makes me feel pretty bad (but I knew my gf would overreact and I thought we would just stop talking after a few weeks of catching up).
Anyway, a part of me wants to be really mean to her. Like sort of rub my happiness in her face and really let her feel how her letting me go was a big mistake and all that and finish it by telling her not to talk to me anymore because I am really happy with my gf and it’s kind of pathetic that she is reaching out to me.
The non-vengeful part of me just wants to tell her that I am really happy right now and it’s disrespectful to my gf to keep talking to her.
Or maybe some middle ground where I rub it in her face a little, but then politely tell her I am with my gf now and don’t want to be unfair to her.
This girl really f*cked me over, and I know revenge isn’t going to solve anything but I can guarantee it will make my pride feel better
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Revenge will only make you feel better for a really short period of time and then you’ll feel bad.
Treat others as you want to be treated, not as they have treated you
Ignore her. being mean to her is only going to make her feel more powerful.
don’t be mean to her. that’s just going to make things worst. just see what will happen. and if she does what a relationship with you just tell her straight up that you have a wonderful girl in your life that you love.
no you should not be mean, what is done is done and there is no changing that. just ask yourself what did you learn from this and use it to prevent it in other relationships. revenge does not solve anything…………..it is childish if you ask me.
now even though you want to rub it in her face, don’t. it won’t solve any problems. hear what she has to say when she calls. depending on what she says, let her know that you have a great relationship that you don’t want to jeopardize. tell her that you should both move on and live your lives and that you feel that you shouldn’t stay in contact.
be mean to his girlfriend and half-way to him if he notices
Cutting contact wouldn’t even be classified as "being mean" it is actually the right thing to do. And if it makes you feel better about yourself, EVEN BETTER
Just don’t do anything else like try to rub your happiness in if you can help it, that just seems a bit juvenile. I’m sure she’ll be hurt enough anyway by the fact that you’re cutting contact. And yes, I think you should tell her its for respect of your current gf and that you have no reason to talk to her anymore, the past is over and life is better for you now.
Good for you getting rid of her
don’t sink as low. be the better person. really no matter how mean she was that’s just not right. it’s the holiday season. be charitable.
my answer would be don’t be mean
just be nice and pay more attention to your gf- she had her chance with you and she blew it-so tough luck on your ex
just say to your ex-i really like my gf cos she likes me alot- i moved on im afraid then let her say her piece (more than likely she’ll say "why are u doing this" etc…)
then be honest with her-tell her how she broken your heart and say things have changed
Don’t be mean to her, that would be grossly immature. Just completely ignore her and don’t make any attempt to help.
Apathy is far worse than burning time on somebody.
1. Making her feel like crap would make it seem like you were bitter which would leave the ex to believe you are still in love and just angry.
2. Being nasty to an ex is usually a good source for drama, which it sounds like (seeing that you already have another interest) you’d probably like to avoid.
3. Why would you care if the ex is trying to get in touch with you in the first place? Why would you allow that line of contact to open? Wouldn’t a cold shoulder have worked a LOT better?
Point of advice- the more attention you give her, the more she’ll think she’s worth. You want her gone? Cut her off.
I actually think it will hurt her more if you are nice about it and just tell her that you can’t talk to her anymore because it’s not fair to your gf. If you go out of your way to insult her it might make her try to talk to u more, and this could get annoying. I know if my bf had been talking to his ex I wouldn’t want him to be rude about saying bye to her. I’ve been in the same spot as your ex-gf (yep, the bitch) and I know it hurt me way more when my exbf said "I found someone I really like and I don’t want to mess up anything with her by talking to you. I think we should just forget about it and go out separate ways". I was really hurt by the realization that he was truly happy and just did not want me in his life anymore. Just my opinion….good luck
Revenge always sound like the best idea but, in the end they just make you sound like an incesitive jerk, and a dumb a$$. I would just tell her straight up that you have a girlfriend you’re really into, and that you don’t want to risk your relationship over her. Let her know she hurt you and that you still haven’t completley gotten over that. And tell her that maybe someday you can be friends….just not now.
Treat her like you treat you mates. A little laugh and chatter than goodbye. And if you want to be vengeful, the best way to do it is by taking your new GF with you to meet (but tell your GF where your going first). And introduce them and add a little pride in your voice when you introduce your new girl.
I know she messed you up, but forgive, forget and move on.
Hope it helps
ignore her, don’t be mean to her she might think you still feel for her.
what eva you do don’t lie to your gf. tell your ex that you don’t want to get back into a relationship with her. tell you gf that you have been talking to your ex. she will probably be mad but nat as mad as she would be if she found out by someone else. plus she will probably forgive you and forget about the whole thing just don’t lie. the truth will make an even better impact on your life
ok i was in that spot were my ex was a b to me and broke my heart and i was mean to her and i haven’t herd from her in a long time and i was happy and the i ran in to her at the mall i talk to her and i told my girl that i saw her and that wasn’t a good thing but you shouldn’t be mean that just make you a bad guy and you would feel guilty about it later you should tell here what’s going on in your life but didnt be mean about it.
Look, why? should you take the childish road on this matter,you stated that you are Happy,but yet you fail to confide in your girlfriend,Please be truthful about this.Also your ex broke your heart? (remember these are your words)What will revenge do? Honey all trash go to the curb,to be haul off,Why in the world you wanna go to the dump to dig for a diamond?(when you know the ex put her self to the curb has already been haul off)When to have the real diamond with you now. Pay attention to the ole saying :Fool me once shame on you,Fool me twice shame on me.Please ponder on the saying to answer your own question.
This ex who dumped you for her ex. She know what she lost and she wants you back. When you seek revenge you are digging two graves. The best thing is to tell her you are very happy with your new girlfriend that you never been so happy with anybody else. Don’t bring the past into this present now, it’s not worthy. She already know what she lost, we can just dump people and pretend that nothing happened. Do the best not to get in contact with her, change your phone number if you can. Don’t let her ruin your happiness. If she keep calling you get her address and write her a letter and tell everything, how you feel, if she write you back, return the letter as unknown address. Keep a copy of that letter in case she got mad and try to blackmail you with your girlfriend. I don’t think you should talk to or have any contact with her. I was in the same situation about this guy who dumped me and went and got married, he though I didn’t know and he call me like nothing happened, to his surprise I told him congratulation you are a married man, he tryed to deny, but every time he called I told him I was busy, finally I had to tell him the truth that I already had a boyfriend. I hope I helped you. This is say it do unto you as you to other. Have a nice Christmas with your girlfriend.