My friend says he is in love with me and I don't love him back but don't want to lose our friendship! Help!
This guy has been a really good friend to me for the past year or so and I can tell him anything. But for the past six months he’s been in college over 6 hours away and all he wants is a relationship with me… I think he’s a great guy but I won’t be in a long-distance relationship… plus I just don’t feel that way towards him. But he doesn’t seem to take no for an answer and I hate hurting him especially after all he’s done for me. But he continues to tell me how he is in love with me and I don’t know what to do. … Any ideas?
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That’s not a fun situation to be stuck in. I usually joke with my guy friend who is that way and I say I’m going to become a nun….but, one thing that does stop the flood of emotions that he lets out is…when I have boyfriend. So…find yourself a man that you DO feel that way about (easier said than done, I know)…..and maybe it will hush your friend-boy up for a while.
Tell him that you don’t feel the same way for him and that your more like a friend instead of a boyfriend.
Tell him again if he doesn’t understand then end your friendship because if he truly love u than he would respect your wishes.
You need to tell him and make sure he understands your feelings are entirely different from his. But at the same time, tell him you don’t want to lose his friendship. Be sure not to give him mixed signals.
YOU JUST NEED TO TELL HIM THAT YOU DONT FEEL AS
HE DOES AND THAT YOU DONT WANT TO BE WITH HIM
THAT WAY. HE WILL BE HURT REGARDLESS OF WHAT
YOU SAY. BUT YOU NEED TO SAY IT, THE LONGER YOU
ALLOW THIS TO GO THE HARDER IT WILL GET, AND HE
WILL BE HURT SO MUCH MORE. IF HE WAS REALLY A
\FRIEND HE WILL UNDERSTAND IN THE LONG RUN.
BUT IF HE NOT THEN YOU KNOW.BUT TIME WILL TELL.
Eek. Well, you know, give it some time, you never know how you’ll feel. But if you still can’t seem to make it work, just tell him. It hurts more if you get with him and break up, so be confident. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!
just tell him that you can’t get into a relationship with him because you don’t wont to mess up your friendship with him and that you don’t wont a long distance relationship. let him know you are glad he think that much of you that he want a relationship but you don’t feel the same way about him
Sorry to tell you this honey but the friendship will never be the same again. One because you aren’t going to be able to tell him certain things because you are going to be worried about his feelings and how he is going to react . And remember the saying that sometimes friends make the best lovers. It is a girls dream to have a good man that want break her heart. But when they get just that they don’t treat the person right. So my advise is since the relationship is not going to be the same you might as well try to see if it can work out unless he is ugly or something. You might have found your prince. But if it is completely out the question hook him up with someone that has similar taste and interest.Good luck missy
He is being WAY to forward and you need to tell him the truth. Don’t just date him and get into all of that "love" stuff just because you guys were friends tell him no. Do what you want to do!
Be still, be at peace knowing that your friendship with him has been real, and that all he has done for you was out of true love, and not because he expected to be rewarded.
Let him know that you truly honor the precious gift of his presence in your life, and that you would truly have a huge void in your life, without his friendship, his persona, there is no one like him that can ever fill your life.
Because of your respect for him, and his dignity you would never miss lead him to believe that there is hope of your feeling to ever change, other than that of a true life time friend.
Let him know that you are becoming concern over his overwhelming feelings for you.
Ask him to please step back for a few weeks to truly consider your feelings, as well.
Let him know you will always want to be in his life as a true everlasting friend, provided, he accepts you only as a friend.
Let me know how it goes…
*QueenEsther*1*NightWithTheKing*
tell him that you’re not into it.. and you dont want to hurt him.
you can be friends but not lovers.
if he said no.. keep your distance from him. it is better to hurt him now.
I’ve been on the other end of this kind of thing. I’ve loved women who didn’t love me back. The only thing that helped me was to walk away from the relationship altogether.
It sounds harsh, and cold. But it’s true that when a guy loves a girl who doesn’t love him back, the relationship is really over. There isn’t going to be a friendship. You can say "We can be friends" all you wish to. But that isn’t going to happen.
You don’t love him that way. It’s that simple.
It’s going to hurt him real bad. He isn’t going to want to be
your friend.
You don’t have a choice but to reject his love, and not accept it.
He needs to understand that possession is nine-tenths of the law. He is trying to be involved in your life, which is your property. Yours, and not his. He doesn’t own you.
I loved a woman recently who does not love me back. I tried to get over her by tearing myself away from her. It was too painful for me even to see her. I had to accept that I wasn’t going to be a part of her life.
If you don’t love him that way, being his friend will only get his hopes up. You don’t want that.
One day it may happen that he might find love again with someone else. That’s the only remedy for that.
If he says he’s willing to be just friends, don’t believe it.
Not until he finds love again with some one else.
You should only be with someone that you really love.