Comments on: I think I may have borderline personality disorder. My marriage is a mess. Is there any hope of saving it?

By: Jonathan Aston@School Badges

Jonathan Aston@School Badges — Sun, 27 Jun 2010 05:35:14 +0000

It’s good that you have understood that you were wrong with your husband. I think that’s enough. You said that you are counseling. Continue it. My best suggestion is – Talk to your husband freely and tell him everything you did and now what you think. I think it would be OK. Best of luck.

By: U2fanforever

U2fanforever — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 00:32:14 +0000

I have been a counselor for some years now and I say that you and your husband need your own individual counseling before you can get back together. He has wounds to heal as well as you and it is more difficult to sort that out when you are together. It’s best to get your own individual counseling now for your sake and so that he can have his time to heal and not feel pressured to make everything work out. Don’t pressure him for a reunification. Take time for yourself to heal and get better and in time he may be able to do the same for you.

By: golf4everdude

golf4everdude — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 00:32:14 +0000

i dont know the answer. i was married to someone like you. never heard such foul language in my life, things thrown at me, hitting me and telling me after something stupid that i didn’t love her even though if you looked at my past behavior it was clear i loved her to death. she left me actually but there is no way I’d take her back now that I realize how much i was abused. it’s probably best to move on and get help because after therapy you may not be the same person and your current husband might not even like what you’ve become or you even like him after you heal.

By: rufusredcoat

rufusredcoat — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 00:32:14 +0000

A marriage is always worth saving. You said you love him to death, tell him that. Tell him your concerns honestly and openly. I am sure he still loves you and would appreciate it if you talked to him and let him into your head.

By: gofish

gofish — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 00:32:14 +0000

oyou got a problem all right. It seems to be of your own doing .See a professional and dont diagnose yourself .Why do you treat your husband like this ?