I think my husband is falling out of love with me…?
I have a wonderful husband whom I love with every inch of my heart. Together we have a beautiful baby boy who is almost 3 months old. My husband is the best father that I could have ever asked for my son. He loves his baby boy so much. And I know he loves me too, but I’m questioning whether or not he is IN LOVE with me anymore…
Like I said, I know he loves me. I have been going through alot with family and he is always there for me with a shoulder to cry on. Anytime I am sad or upset he is always there to make me feel better. He goes to work 7 days a week to provide for me and our child. He comes home every day after work and takes care of us. I know there is no other woman in the picture…
I just don’t know if I make him happy anymore. We seem to always argue over the smallest things. He is not as loving towards me in terms of affection and whatnot. He used to help me cook and clean and things of that nature but now he is acting like most other men in the world in thinking that I have to do all that myself, on top of working a full time job. I just don’t know what to do. I love him so much. And I am still very much in love with him.
Does it sound to you like he is falling out of love with me?
And any advice on things I can do to make him feel happy again?
I guess I should have mentioned that I have been very sad and upset lately about work and family stuff so do you think maybe he is just tired of dealing with my sadness??
Advice…
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i really don’t think that he is falling out of love with you. the problem
is you and him need time alone. i know work is important with the
economy the way it is. but love and affection is all so very important
you need to forget all about other family problems. and take care
of your man make him fell king of the hill for one day. pamper him.
go some where and give him a massage. open a bottle of wine. and
just talk about the good things in your life. tell him how you love him and how he is a good father. just don’t bring up any thing about any
problems. let the problems go and let them take care of there self.
good luck now go and kindle the flame of your marriage.
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I think his behavior is typical of a new dad. It’s hard raising a baby plus working seven days a week. I’m sure he is still in love with you but exhaustion has gotten the better of him. I wouldn’t change anything you are doing.
Maybe is just stressed out or warn out too. He seems like a good man doing all this, communicate with him, give him some "him" time and relax a little. A new baby too that can add pressure that surfaces
This is serious – I am not joking.
I am also being direct.
You sound really needy. He has a lot on his plate. Stop crying on his shoulder. Do what you need to do, he will do what he needs to do. Write down expectations – they should be pretty equal.
This is going to be hard for the next 5 years until the kids starts going to school.
Have sex 3 times a week. No matter how tired you are. Make a schedule for it.
i would ask him to go on a date find someone to baby sit and go out for a walk or just a movie.beening married is not cake walk its allot of hard work and marriage never run smooth is not easy. we use to make a movie on fridays or saturdays is are to take the kids out.
I think you need to make time for him looks like your quite busy with everyday life but he is not prioity he needs to come first in your life then your sweet baby then you. Try putting him first in everything he will come around.
It sounds like you both are depressed, maybe you should talk to him.
I am sure he would like to know how you are feeling.
Thats what I am going through with my boyfriend, but I know its a lot different because you two are married and have a son together. I think communication is all you two need. Maybe hire a babysitter and take a day off and just have alone time together. You never know, he may feel the same way you do.
~Lola
It sounds like you and him need some alone time. This alone time could be a simple few hours at home together or a date night out. Either way, you both need to communicate about your feelings and try to spice things up a bit again. I most definitely think that having a new little one around, both of you have long full-time jobs, and emotions on-top of house work is a big job to take care of. Maybe he is just tired from work all of the time and needs a break….he probably doesn’t want to hurt your feelings at all so he just comes off as edgy. Anyway…be romantic and compliment him often…and hopefully he’ll return the favor, but you have to communicate to him!
just talk to him and try to find common ground. he’s probably just a little bored, so you might want to spice things up a little in the bedroom.
i know this sounds cheesy, but this problem is very common in most couples.
after some time, one of you gets tired of the "same s**t different day" and wants to spice things up thru arguments, sex or different activities. it’s not about falling out of love, you said so yourself he still loves you.
this is probably the reason for the arguments. boredom.
i know this is hard and you don’t have a lot of time on your hands but try to make some changes in your life, just to keep it a little more interesting.
hope this helps
best of luck to ya babe
Based on your comments, it is a distinct possibility that he is falling out of love with you. The best way to know for sure is to ask him. It is best to face these situations head on.
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A not quite three month old baby? omg I am surprised you are even still talking at all. Babies are HARD WORK.
Are you actually working or are you calling a baby a full time job?
I expect he is tired and fed up. I don’t doubt you are tired too.
I think you should talk to your doctor about postpartum depression, sounds like you might need a little help right now and not depend on him so much for your well being. He’s working seven days a week. I would expect, if my husband was working that much, to be taking care of the house and the baby pretty much on my own while he looked after the money. I would expect him to come home and have some fun time with his child, but when it came to feeding and bathing and that, I would offer to do it if he was tired.
I think the new situation changes things and creates a new way of thinking about things. It’s not puppy love anymore its adult love.
I don’t differentiate between loving my husband and being IN love. Either I love him or I don’t.