How to cope with a break up?
Does anyone have any advise on how to cope with a breakup after 4 years? we had a child together but he was very mentally abusive to my seven year old so I made him leave but now I have so many different emotions I don’t know what to feel exactly…
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I’m sorry for your heartbreak. My best advice is to keep your family and friends close, keep yourself busy, and/or do something nice for yourself.
Keeping your loved ones close is always first, because they will be there for you if you ever need help….having people to lean on. Keeping yourself busy will keep you from thinking of him, the relationship and everything about it. Next, pamper yourself. Treat yourself to shopping, day spa, massage…anything that will make you feel beautiful is also a must. Last, but not least, also focus on your children….this can be the most important of all. A mother’s love for her children is unlike anything. It can pull you out of any rut in my opinion.
I hope I helped. Good luck.
i could not even begin to try to understand what you’re going through, but all i can do is let you know what helped me through my most recent break up.
after i got dumped (for lack of a better word) i was wallowing in self pity because every single thing reminded me of her, but today, i was just watching tv and my favorite music in the world came on.
i realized that this music didn’t remind me of her, in a sense, it was still pure.
so, find something that you can do without thinking of him and hopefully it will help.
like i said, mine is nothing in comparison, but this is all i can give, im sorry
First of all congratulations on recognising what he was doing to yr 7 yr old. Secondly, of course your emotions are going to be all over the place. Can you go & visit a close friend that is not gossipy? Or can you go & talk to a counselor. How is yr child since you got rid of the guy? Is he/she behaving & feeling better? You have to concentrate on 1 small thing @ a time. Make sure yr child is going to school, might even be worth mentioning to the teacher that you have just broken up with some-one & could they keep any eye on yr child? If you work focus on yr job, then after work focus on your child & re-building yr relationship. I imagine it would of been damaged to a degree with what they were dealing with from yr Ex.
Write yourself a list of all the things you wish to pursue & keep it within reach, do a few copies, 1 next to the bed, 1 on the bathroom wall, 1 in the kitchen, even carry a copy around in yr bag. Anything & everything you do must carry the affirmation that you & yr child deserve a better & happier life. Take care.
Just remember what he was doing to your seven-year-old. That should stir up enough emotions to put the jerk behind you. Kids are more important than significant others. If he was mentally abusive to your kid, I’ll bet at times he was with your as well, even if you don’t realize it.
So, keep telling youself why you kicked him out. Love your child first, and yourself second.