Need Help What To Do!?
A friend of mine began dating my ex a few years back, they lasted nearly three years and have now broken up. I couldn’t help but notice that the week prior to their breakup we were all partying, she was bringing up old times between me and her, deep ones of romance and the important things that happened between us. She also kept looking my way, but looking at me the same way she used to.
Then, a week later and they’re over.
Now I’ve noticed she’s always flirting with me and talking to me whenever she sees the chance. She’s wanting me to hang around with her, party with her, stuff like this.
The thing of it all is that I havn’t lost the same feelings I’ve had for her at all. I still have very strong feelings for her.
However she just ended it with a guy who’s literally like a brother to me. Yet he had no problem dating her when we split, so if I acted on the flirting, the feelings, everything, are my actions justified? Or would it be considered “wrong” of me to do that?
I’ve never stopped loving her, and have always secretly wished for a second chance. But he’s a best friend of mine.
OPINIONS?!
An additional note is te original reason we split is pretty much my problems with alcohol a few years back. I was drunk everyday and was never around her sober or without a bottle in my hand.
I could of had her back but made the stupid mistake of rejecting her to go after an … “Easier” girl who would get drunk all the time for me.
Changed now, see my mistakes.
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you’re probably going to have to choose between the two of them… 3 years is a long time… if you go for the girl, don’t expect your friend to ever talk to you again… but i don’t know if you could say it’s "right or wrong" either way.. ya know? it’s just a big decision you’re going to have to make…
but maybe you should talk to her first and make sure you’re not misunderstanding anything…
this is a tough one… good luck
Screw ur friend. He got with her after u broke up and he prob didnt like her as much as u like her now. This girl wants u, u want her. u kiss and make up and bam! happily ever after.
If you want to be with this girl and keep your friend ship you have to do it wisely. Because, you could end up in the end with none of them by your side! I would at least wait a while until they’re officially broken up! Then you talk to your best friend about how he’d feel if you went out with her. If he says badly then you just say, huh funny that’s how i felt "/ or if he says .. i could get used to it you say, i think i still have feelings for her. AND MAKE SURE SHE LIKES YOU!
Don’t just go rush into it and sleep with the girl because your best mate might find out .. your friend ship would be over and the girl might go running back to your best mate.
Well my advice to you would be that your best friend had no problem dating her when you broke up, so I think that it should work the same way for you and if you still have strong feelings for this girl then theres no reason for you to hold back, if getting back with her makes you happy then your best friend should be happy for you too and the past shouldn’t really come into it.
Hope this helps and Good Luck
If your friend didnt care and he dated her after you broke up, why should you care what he thinks???lol
Look its like this girl may be playing some games here. she shouldnt even be dating two close friends like that one after the other. I say go for it, and enjoy yourself, but maybe not focus on long term with her
You’re basically balancing two options here.
It’s either your best friend,
or your ex.
What I would recommend you do is consult your friend about this.
Tell him that you still have feelings for this girl,
and that you want to go out with her.
Keep in mind that it is your life, and you shouldn’t have to ask for permission to go out with her.
But I would wait a few weeks so it doesn’t seem like you are taking her the moment after they break up.
Wait awhile and then talk to him about it
Be straight up with him and hopefully he’ll understand and still want to maintain this friendship that you guys have.
If you start flirting with her and seeing her without his knowledge chances are you are going to lose your friendship with him,
and if you want to risk it it’s up to you.
I know it would seem like, because what he did to you by getting with her the moment you guys broke up, you should be able to do the same,
but the right thing to do would at least tell him before you get together with her, so you aren’t keeping anything from him.
Good luck!
Forget about her and think about a better and more loyal GF, she is not actually worthwhile however nowadays probably you don’t accept my idea but she is not. so forget her simply and be with someone else
I dun know how to start answer this, but u could start see all that happen to u, and ur friend who date ur ex, if u think that she is worthed why not? u could try get her back.
But is it to risky? or is there guarantee that she will not gonna leave u for another guy again specially ur friend?
Love is so wonderful, dont you think wonderful thing should given to someone that could appreciate it?
Maybe u could ask her, what is her feeling toward u all this time?