Ex-Wife Left My Boyfriend Now Wants Him Back?
He is legally separated from his wife of over 10 years. They together have children, but she left him and moved to the other side of the country while he was serving in Iraq.
I have known this guy for almost 20 years since we went to HS together. It was only until he was divorced, that we actually met in person again after all of that time.
His ex-wife is extremely jealous of me now that things aren’t working out with the man that she ran away with.
I have never met her, but she has this opinion that the only reason my boyfriend won’t return to her is because of me.
That is not the case, however, he feels extremely betrayed that he left him like she did and was cheating while he was fighting in Iraq.
She is constantly on his case with him that he must leave our relationship and enter back into theirs (which was apparently miserable), because they are still technically “married” and they have children.
By the way, she ran away with this guy 18 months ago, and my boyfriend was in Iraq for around 15 months. He isn’t sure when the affair happened,.
Even though she wants me out of his life, I do have compassion for her. I know how she must feel, but yet she hates me.
I love my boyfriend and would do anything for him. We have been together shortly after this thing happened between them two. I moved across state to “help” him cope after his loss.
He doesn’t want to get back with her and will never, yet, she is still tugging on him constantly.
Anyone have any ideas of what he should tell her… I don’t want to get involved “talking” to her, because it would just make matter worse.
I feel bad for my boyfriend (and even her too)… there are times though, that he doesn’t want to answer the phone calls from her… she is constantly begging to be rescued from the situation she put herself in and vents her problems to him.
She has basically hung herself (caused herself all of her problems) and wants him to cut the rope…
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OK one word to sum this one up..DRAMA..first of all why is he still married to her? Why has he not divorced her..somewhere in there he likes this attachment.and why hasn’t he made you wifey..I noticed that you sd YOU MOVED across state to help him in his time of need BAD MOVE!!! He should have resolved that on his own and closed some doors you basically fell into place as a rebound and now you are caught in between a marital triangle..you need to fall back and let him resolve all of that with his wife and if he wants to leave then let him divorce and you all move forward…but this is too much drama to deal with and it is no positive outcome as long as they are still married..you ar still the other and I would feel I deserved better that the title of a GIRLFRIEND and you are dealing with all the crap!!
He can handle his wife and their issues..why spent so much time on her..and he is dating you..and still married..it’s his problem
First there are kids involved here. So if you REALLY love this man, then you need to go to him and let him know that you do love him and want to be with him, BUT! if he wants to be with her and his kids, that you will not stand in his way…..
If he then decides that he does infact want to be with you and NOT her, then he needs to file for a divorce RIGHT AWAY, and bluntly tell her that the ONLY contact he wants to have with her is for the kids and kids ONLY. Other wise he will get a no contact order against her.
He has to make his own decisions about his wife and kids. You need to let him be free to make those decisions. Based on your post, if I were in his shoes, I would finalize the divorce with her and be with you, but he has to make those decisions on his own.
Hope he’s not playing you both…..tell him you need him to resolve it so you all can move forward.
You both need to not talk to her. If he isn’t accessable to her then she can’t badger him. If they need to talk about the kids then she can relay msgs. on the answering machine or through you. There is no need for her to even talk to him at all.