Should I Give Him Another Chance?
I went out with this guy in Aug. 2009, and we had two very nice dates. On the second date he took me to his best friend’s house where I also met his brother and sister. After the date, he alluded to staying over, and I declined. He emailed me once and called me once after with excuses why he couldn’t further pursue the relationship…lack of funds and the 2 hour drive could be too much. I told him I was willing to come up also, but I still didn’t hear from him. There’s nearly a 20 year age difference, but I’m attracted to his intelligence and how he thinks.
So, today (5 months later), he emails me the following:
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Hi ___! You probably didn’t expect to hear from me, but this is _____ in New York. Sorry for not keeping in touch. I was so swamped with various projects (conference presentations, teaching, job applications) dramas (death of my father in November) and travel (Korea in late November) that I have had really no time for socializing or romance. Now I am less stressed and more alive again. Possible to meet again?
I hope you are well.
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Should I even consider seeing him again?
PS – I’ve noticed on the dating website that we met on that he logs on.
Thanks,
WannaKnow
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If you like him? yes, why not?, just try to talk to him first and see how it goes
Nah… Find someone else.
He only wants you when it is good for him. He is trying to control you. I would move on to someone a little more stable.
No!
I was just cheated on by my boyfriend of 13 months and we lived 1 hr apart. If there is anything i learned, when people do things only when it is convenient for them they are not worth it to be a part of your life. You live only once, and you should be with someone that even after an extremely hard day would travel just to see you, that will stay up on the phone just to hear your voice and thoughts. Those are all things that he could’ve done, while in New York and while traveling.
Also, the things that deterred him from you in the first place – you have self respect and not staying the night – also speak of his lifestyle and mentality. Those are things that you cannot change in a person, especially someone older and set in their ways.
Good luck and let us know what you decide.