Why dont women think yall should ask and pay on second date if he ask and paid for the first date?
Why not ? And doesn’t this make women cheapos I mean its not like it’s the 50′s, men paid cause we made SUBSTANTIAL more money than women now women caught up ALOT. Why cant women pay the second date and pay dates on alternate basis’s in relationships ?
I mean I have no problem taking my girl out and treating her good ( definitly not a cheepo) but if im doing that on a 70 to 30 bais meaning im doing more generosity than my women and she has a job, Im going to drop her like a bad habit.
Ladies dont think for second men do this to be gentlemen or at least most men. They do it because society tells then they HAVE TO. In most of there minds they are thinking " this is BS I have to pay all the time she has a job too, I would like to be treated to also but I have to or chances Im going to get la#$ed will sink like the stock market". Thats what they think and THAT IS SAD GUYS……SAD THAT MOST GUYS GO ALONG WITH IT.
GROW A PAIR, TELL HER YOU LIKE TO BE TREATED TO/ ROMANCED TOO. SHE MIGHT LISTEN AND CHANGE IF NOT DUMP HER…TRUST ME YOU WILL THANK ME. If she actually loves you she might change.
Wheew. What do yall think ? And oh yeah ladies dont be CHEEPOS and men stop being UNITS. Be fair, I see most women as my equal, yall say you want to be equal…… so act equal its not the 50′s anymore. Guys dont take that "BUT GENTLEMAN DOES THIS" excuse please it is pure BS pure manipulation and they are just trying to save money/ being cheepos. Take your girl out but dont be only one doing it
What do yall think ?
And if any of you disagree with my opionion. Bad relationships or future divorces are in your future. Money is a issue most the time in divorce
By the way women rarely ask men out. So the rule "whoever aks pays" is kinda of bs and unfair to men dont you think?
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well most females think that it is a guys job to take her out. for some reasons because the female takes care of the house or the kids or maybe both. but i personally agree with you if i were in a relationship i would pay most of the time and i would probably argue if he had a problem with me paying. But you have to remember some men are head strong so when woman date head strong men they just get used to men paying and don’t think twice about it.
but that’s something you want to find out before you start dating someone.
I say thers a lot of steps before dating
-meet the person
-become friends with the person(see how they are under stress, their views)
-stay freinds for a reasonable time dont just jump in because if you do you’ll be jumping out
-then date — not the boyfriend/girlfriend thing but hang out in places you both like (by doing this you can get a idea if she thinks that you have to pay all the time)
-if everything works out then step up the notch and become boyfriend and girlfriend.
hope that helps
A: What the hell is ‘yall’?
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Not all of us think alike.
It’s not an issue of he should vs. she should. It’s an issue of who invited who out. If you ask me on a date, I expect you to pay. Similarly, if I asked you on a date, I would expect to cover the tab personally.
Truth be told, men still earn significantly more than women…In fact, the recent studies say that a woman only earns 70% of the salary a man would earn, given the exact same education, experience and qualifications. With that in mind, I’m thinking the 70-30 split is about right.
And no, real men don’t do it because society tells them they have to. Immature boys do it for that reason…real men do it because they want to treat their women well, and this is one of the ways they can. How sad for your woman…she should drop you like a bad habit!
I think you meant to say that men should stop being eunuchs…but a eunuch wouldn’t be very much fun on a date.
The reason I can comfortably disagree with your opinions is because I am happily married to a man who WANTS to do these things for me, despite the fact that I’m the bread winner in the family. And I do treat him – all the time – because similarly, I want to.
When you find actual love, with mutual respect and admiration, who pays for what becomes a moot point.
Edit:
Actually, when I was still dating, I asked out as many guys as asked me. I think it all washes in the end.
And ‘whoever asks pays’ is the "official" rule of etiquette for dating, or hanging out with friends, or enjoying a meal with another couple. You pretty much can’t go wrong if you follow this simple concept.
I do. Unfortunately I’m not in control of the other 3 billion women in the world. Sorry about that.
Harriet
I think most women would feel that if they asked the guy out that it is reasonable to expect that she pays. A lot of guys would probably still insist on paying or splitting the bill, but thats not her problem.
However, if you find dating women so miserable, then save your money and dont ask them out. If women arent asking you out then maybe they dont find you desirable enough to go out of their way like that.
The fact that you are complaining about it shows that you desire female company. If you need this in your life then dont complain that you have to pay for it.
If you are not prepared to pay, don’t go. If your date wants to help pay accept graciously, and don’t make a big deal out of it. Also consider ability to pay. If i’m dating a young single mom, with a minimum wage job, I don’t expect her to pay. I also volunteer to pay the baby sitter. Most women in management and executive positions want to pay to prove they are self sufficient. Don’t make a big deal out of it.
In my opinion, I think that who ever asks, pays. Do I think its BS and unfair to men? No. I used to be the one that would initiate a date or what ever, meaning generally, I would pay for the date. I’m also a fan of splitting the bill.
"And if any of you disagree with my opionion. Bad relationships or future divorces are in your future. Money is a issue most the time in divorce"
Happily married, thanks.
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