What do you say to people that think you are not getting over your divorce fast enough?
My ex has borderline personality disorder (with pathological lying)…we were married 12 years and have 2 kids together. I don’t want my ex back, but I do tend to rant when he has one of his spells (which makes some people wonder why I still talk about him). I just have to talk through things sometimes. I’m just learning (I guess too slowly for some people’s liking) that I can’t "fix" him or make him stop…and am learning ways to not let him pull me into his drama. Some people, most who have never been divorced just act like…get over it…this is so frustrating. I tend to get defensive and depressed when these people make comments about my life, etc. Borderline personality disorder is very difficult to live with and I’m doing the best I can to recover as quickly as I can…my ex attempted suicide…tried to convince me I was the one that was crazy….I’ve got a lot I’m trying to bounce back from. Just when I feel like life is good and I’m making progress…certain people make cruel comments and I just don’t know how to handle them. Ideas?
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tell these people that there is really no set time that u have to get over it, find some friends who are supportive, join a divorce recovery group where u can talk about it to others.it will take time to get past divorce, divorce hurts, its not easy to stop talking about the hurts.
Just say, I’m dealing with a lot right now, and you’re not making it much easier with those silly little uneducated comments of yours. Live your life, and I’ll live mine, because I am doing just fine, thank you. (And by the way, you do sound like you’re doing just fine! good luck, you can do it!)
It is none of their business and you have to also learn, among all the other things you have going on, to IGNORE STUPID PEOPLE. It is hard to do; however, you are a Strong person, thank God, and you may even have to walk away from them, tell them to mind their own business and just be rude back to them. It is not rude to be rude back to these people, if you are not up for the verbal challenge, simply walk away and pretend they never said a wrong word to you. My mom, a wise woman, use to say, "People cannot argue alone." So, if you give them no audience, they will go away. Good luck, you are definitely on the right track at the right speed. Yours.
tell them to go chase a squirrel up a tree !
you are you and need to worry only about you, tell the rest of the world to lump it !
Tell them that you’re doing the best you can and you didn’t ask for their advice.
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