Your husband wont let you confront his ex/mother of other children?
My husbans shows no signs of wanting or still loving his ex. However , whenever she tries to get him back through his family family, he won’t let me hit or confront her!Even when the kids arn’t present. I asked him why once. He said "because she is the mother of my kids" But one time she hit me while I was in the car for no reason and he drove off quickly without letting me retaliate claiming it was because he didnt want me getting in trouble. I also have his child and he’s cried to me t elling me he loves me not her. After all he never even married HER, but did marry me. Why is he so protective of her?
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I had the same problem, except for the last six years she would just say crude things to me or about and tell the children not to listen to me. She also had my husband bending over backwards for her. He always claimed that he did it for the children. If everything was smooth with her and him then he got the kids more. Yeah right-it was still when she wanted. Until a month ago she came to my house and started yelling and screaming at me over a pair of her sons shoes that we couldn’t find, to make a long story short we had a physical fight. She got a black eye and an assault charge. Works for me. Now my husband get the children the same amount of visitation as before except without the mouth. Worked out better all the way around.
maybe he thinks you can’t take her and she’s tougher than you, and he doesn’t want to see you get your butt kicked.
and he’s right and apparently much more sophisticated than you. if he’s not cheating who gives a f***??
I don’t think that it is strange that he doesn’t want you to hurt her. I think you should, however, have pressesd charges when she hit you.
There may be more to it than meets the eye. Is there any chance they are still involved?
perhaps he wants you to show more class by ignoring her. fighting as adults is for losers and you’ll end up in jail. ignore the wench!
He is just being a good father to his kids. It would really mess up his kids, and yours if they saw their mom fighting someone. She is resorting to childish measure by hitting you, prove to him that you’re better than her by not doing the same thing. And, if she ever hits you again, just call the cops, or get a restraining order against her, she is obviously unfit to care for kids, what if she hits them?
I’d be more upset that she did hit me and all he did was drive off. That he didn’t confront her himself about her hurting you. I would of filed a report.
because hitting is against the law. and maybe he does not want you to go to jail. and besides that is childish behavior to go hitting people. if you are an adult you just do not go and do stuff like that. see you need to respect the fact that that is their mother and they love her too. i am giving you my honest opinion and it is not intended for you to feel on the defense. see i know u say she hit you, but 2 wrongs dont make a right so dont hit back , you dont want to go to jail. it is not worth it.
Grow up.
It is too bad any of you even have children…when you act like a spoiled ignorant brat yourself.
Sounds like you are one great role model for children.
You should have Human Services called on you for teaching "abusive patterns"
Go to counseling and learn what is really right.
I am sooo there I am in relationship where he also has a problem ex-wife. I can only assume that he doesn’t want any drama and for things to get ugly
He doesn’t want you to sink to her level. I don’t think it’s that he’s protective of her, I just think he’s the bigger person. Causing problems with her, could result in damage to his relationship with his children somehow. Is it fair? No. And you have every right to feel hurt and angry. But trust him in this case, I don’t think he means any harm to you. Be supportive, even though you guys are going through a lot. Stick together.
It sounds like you need to put your foot down. She may be the mother of his children, but that’s NOT an excuse to put up with her treating you like dirt. How old are the kids? Are they old enough to be aware of the animosity yet? If they are, I’d talk to them first, make it clear you love them and care about them a great deal, and that anything that happens with their mother doesn’t change how you feel about them. And confront her – but DO NOT get physical. Her slapping you is /so over the line/ of acceptability, and she clearly is not over him and doesn’t like him being remarried, but to go down to her level about that is a big no no. Tell her that you’re not asking her to like her, but she needs to show you respect and behave like a rational human being instead of a spoiled brat. Put your foot down with her, and if your husband tells you he has a problem with him, ask him why it is that he’s alright with her degrading you. And like the other posters said: the second she lays a hand on you, you need to threaten her with legal action.
It’s none of your business. Shut your mouth and don’t worry about it.
Hitting is unacceptable behavior, no matter who does what…you are supposed to be an adult. He’s the one who needs to grow a pair, he’s letting this happen, at your expense. Get some counseling for yourself, if he wants to go with you, so be it, if not, you need to figure out what you can do to teach your child good behavior. Good luck dear
i kinda of agree with the frist answer, KIND OF..but babe take a stand and protect your property, show her whose boss! you go girl! lol but yeah i guess it has to do because even though they are not together, or even if he don’t love her, that is still his childrens mother whom he doesn’t want to engage in conflict with the love of his life [you]
he’s not protective of her, he’s protective of his family. If you all show that you don’t give two nuts about her behavior she will be less likely to try anything.
Another idea would be to get a restraining order. That way she cannot legally contact or be within a certain distance of you.
Also, be sure that he tells his family that she is intruding on your private life and that he does not appreciate their involvement. If they do not stop, cut off contact until they learn better.
If he didn’t stand up to her then and there for hitting you then there’s got to be something going on there…