Ladies… Would you be willing to stay with a guy and "wait" patiently until you're married…??
I have a young friend who is saving himself for marriage.
I’m NOT talking about sex of course, that would just be silly!
I’m talking about spending any of his money on a woman.
He thinks that before he dishes out any of his money on a woman, that he needs to be sure she’s willing to "commit".
He’d like to spend time with and really get to know a woman before he spreads open his pocket book.
Of course they’d go out, but they’d just always go "Dutch" (he’d pay for himself and she’d pay for herself).
He thinks that spending his hard earned money on a woman is something special that he’d like to save for the woman he’s going to marry. That way the act of him spending money on her is "special" when they finally do get married.
I’ve just got to say that I think it’s commendable that he doesn’t want to just give in to peer pressure and empty his bank account to just ANY woman who comes along.
Ladies, what are your thoughts?
Would you get with and/or stay with a guy like this?
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EDIT in response to 結縁 Himei’s Answer:
Well, OF COURSE they’d be having SEX! Why wouldn’t they be if they’re in a committed and loving relationship?
Are you saying that it is only o.k. to have sex with a guy if he’s spending a bunch of money on you?
If so, wouldn’t that sort of be the same as prostitution?
Please tell me that women aren’t so shallow that they’re only having sex (or making love) with a guy because he’s paying for everything!!
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I think that’s a little extreme. I can see his point, but splurging on a romantic dinner shouldn’t exactly break the bank. I don’t see how he is going to woo any descent women while being such a tight wad. Buying her dinner or a gift for no reason isn’t exactly the same thing as buying a girlfriend a brand new car. He should lighten up. I wouldn’t date a guy who treated me like I wasn’t worthy of his money!
EDIT, I just got it lol
I still dont think it’s nice to tease virgins.
Well it sounds like he has a very modern way of thinking however, would he really be willing to share things when he is married if he is so withdrawn about it now???
I sure would. And I’d drain his wallet.
I guess as a platonic friend, no sex involved, or I’ll think he’s a cheap person. If he does it on the first date, it makes us wonder how much cheaper can he be?
Trust me, to pay for a girl’s dinner is not as bad prostitution.
The guy showed no sincerity and has no faith in the relationship to start with. Why would we trust him enough to give our bodies to him
i would never, ever date a cheap@$$ like him. never.
it depends. i think it’s a sweet thing to do for his future wife, but i’d still like to be wined and dined occasionaly too. every so often women need a little pick me up and it shouldn’t be just an excuse to be extra good in bed tonight. if i’ve had a hard day it’d be nice for a change to come home with just a small present laying on my bed waiting for me or to be taken out to a dinner and a movie. it’s a sweet thought to save your money for your wife but if you can’t even save the sex for her than what’s the point in saving anything for her?
well whats he’s doing makes some sense, and if that is what he desires, then that is what he should. however he might have some trouble convincing the women he dates that he means well, or that he will even pay for her later on in the future. most women, whether all traditional or not like to be payed for when eating, at least once or twice, it makes us feel SPECIAL that way. by the time he’s willing to pay she might not even care as much or might be so used to paying herself, she will just continue to do the same. he needs to really think about this because it can be a turnoff to many women, and cause him to never even get married. im not saying the right woman isnt out there, or that not any woman will be ok with this, im just saying he has to realize it will be a lot harder to keep a relationship goign with this circumstance. i think as long as he times it well and is smart enough to know that if he has a great thing, he should just sacrifice a bit and pay….at least for one meal???
What a line!!! What a cheap man. NO; I would never consider marrying someone who was selfish and self-centered.
i think his strategy is very reasonable and avoids golddiggers. it’s his choice. i don’t need for a man to spend money on me – i have my own money so it’s no problem.
No, if he didn’t spend money on me then I would be gone. Sounds like he is cheap and a greedy person. He probably just wants in her pants and thinks he will get that for free too. I would dump him.
sounds like this guy is going to be a very lonely guy the rest of his life
I think that’s fine because women have fought for equallity and now they’ve got it in the form of your friend!
But seriously – me and my man were like this when we first met. We were both working, so why should he pay for everything?
If we went out we split the cost unless it was a birthday or something and then the other usually paid. If we just went to the pub with friends then we’d all take it in turns to buy a round of drinks.
There’s no law that says that a man should pay, it’s just an old fashioned custom.
i would say he has some serious issues. aside from thinking of women as a commodity. i would not find it "special" to be the one that this "man" found good(?) enough to merit sharing his money on.
he sounds stingy and weird. not somebody i would even want to hang out with or find interesting. his priorities are messed up!
when with friends or even dating, i think it depends on how well one is doing financially, there are plenty of inexpensive or free things to share in life..but that doesn’t mean one isn’t generous!
you can’t take it with you, my friend.
Ehhh…When my fiance and I started dating we would both go dutch just because neither of us felt like throwing money at a new relationship. It was my way of making sure he wouldn’t have anything to hold over my head if for some reason our relationship failed. However I think once your in a committed relationship (say, six months) then its okay to loosen the grip on the wallet. On our 6 month anniversary I took him out to an expensive steak dinner and after that we just go back and forth on treating eachother. Now If a guy wouldnt spend any money on me I woudl question whether or not he was interested in a relationship. All he would be doing is making me curious as to why he’s such a tightwad and ultimatley I woudl move on to someone who appreciates me a little more and didn’t hinge our relationship on money.
It’s my son’s bday soon and I believe that this article has made my mind up about what exactly I’ll get him.