Nervous for my 20th bday party! Help! Many reasons!?
Im having my 20th bday party at a hotel this saturday night. I got a suite for me and some friends. Well some ppl are bringing alcohol and I’m scared something crazy’s gonna happen, and I don’t want a mugshot to remember my 20th bday from lol. ALSO, theres this guy I met when I was 16. I met him once and always thought he was cute…well he barely moved back and I haven’t seen him in years but he is coming to my party and I am nervous because we’ve been talking online alot and he is WAY flirty with me but I don’t want him to be dissapointed when he see’s me. In all my FB pics its really just my face and I’ll admit I do look better than I did back then but I am heavy. I am still struggling with my weight, it’s so embarassing. I dont wanna feel stupid…and I would love to maybe make a move on him and kiss him but…..Im scared. I know I sound immature but whats wrong with wanting to get a little somethin somethin on my bday, I’ve been goin through a dry spell since my horrible breakup with my ex back in March. This guy is definitely into smaller girls…..but his ex fiancee who left him was chubbier and hate to say it but not that cute in the face..how can I have more confidence even though im a bigger girl? how do i show him im into him without looking stupid or coming on too strong??? any tips. thanks…
wow. thank you so much!!!! that’s so nice of you to take the time to write all that. i feel TONS better now 
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I relate to how you feel, I am a panic-er and worry about big or important events.
You say its for you and some friends, I’m guessing there isn’t going to be a lot of you there? If this is the case and everyone knows each other and gets on, they will have a good time together and especially if they care about you they will create a good time for you. What you have planned sounds fun and sweet, a hotel suite, some drinks, close friends and someone you like! Sounds like the perfect way to spend a 20th. Relax and have fun with it. If you are still worried about trouble breaking out, the best possible way to avoid this is to make sure everyone doesn’t overindulge on alcohol. This can be avoided by drinking casuaully and enjoying it, without shots or over-strong cocktails. Also avoid drinking games. Just chill and laugh with your friends.
The bonus about relaxing and laughing with your friends is that it is a great way to attract a man’s attention, especially if he already likes you. Laughing gives off the vibe you are enjoying yourself and are confident, this always attracts a man’s attention.
The best advise I can give you about this guy is for you to dress sexy- but not provocative- something which shows off your curves and is a relaxed yet sexy and stylish look. Avoid all black, perhaps wear flared jeans with nice heels and a top which shows off your chest. Flared jeans look best on bigger women and makes them look smaller, always dress to flaunt your best assets and not to hide yourself. If you wear nice underwear too, you are bound to feel instantly sexy and will act it (by this I do not mean you should jump into bed with him!) more like in a sublte way. Also maybe have your hair styled at a hairdressers so you feel extra special, get it styled in a way which suits you. As for make up, guys always say they don’t like too much of it- and its true! I’m getting the vibe that you are a pretty girl, so choose if you want to bring out your eyes or lips (I always say eyes) and dress up one or the other and do the other subtle- like if you choose eyes- use eyeshadow, eyeliner and a good mascara and use plain gloss or shimmer for the lips. Try avoid lipstick so its not all over his face if you kiss him. Besides, guys seem to be attracted to looking at eyes and wanting to kiss irresistable shiny lips!
Plus, I always say let men go to you, avoid playing games to get his attention like spin the bottle or having your friends wind him up about it. If he likes you, then you will soon know it! Guys like a bit of a chase and love the feeling of getting what they want at the end of it.
Good luck, have fun and have a happy birthday! x