Im 6 weeks pregnant and my Husband wants me to abort?
I would like to start by saying this is a very hard matter for me to talk about. I AM NOT and WILL NOT have an abortion. Its against what I believe in. I am seeking words of advice, wisdom and motivation.
My husband and I have been married for 6 years now. We always planned on having kids but when the time was right. My husband always dreamed of becoming a self made million air which this year he is just thousands away from. I just found out last week that I am 6 weeks weeks pregnant. My Husband wigged out and says it will mess up his dreams and his goal of reaching the millions. I couldn’t believe how selfish he is. With all the money he has saved he can be so evil as to ask me to have an abortion. That this isn’t the right time in our lives. He just wrote a check for a beautiful home on the beach in Southen Cali (where we are form) and says that he is moving forward with or with out me. With me meaning I get the abortion, with out me meaning I keep the baby. This is soooooooo out of my husbands character. NEVER had he spoke this way and always had a low opinion of dead beat fathers. But now he has become the evil monster him self. He says if I dint abort asap he wants me out.
Now I personal do well for myself without him and can easily afford to be a single mom but what breaks me is losing my husband, my marriage and having to raise my child with no father. I feel like just packing up and taking off to some far far away from him and starting a new Life with my baby but its all easier said than done. I need words of wisdom please. And does anyone know why he has this split personality. Going from telling me he wants me to have his babies to now that I am wanting nothing to do with it?!!!!!
Long story but thanks for reading.
THANKYOU ALL FOR ANSWERING MY QUESTION AND FOR YOUR SUPPORT! MEANS A LOT TO ME. YOU ALL ARE WONDERFUL. THANKS AGAIN.
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I can’t believe I read what I just read. Clearly he has indicated what is important to him… and what is not. It’s hard, to walk away from a marriage as we all take it as a personal failure, but clearly you both have entirely different definitions of success and happiness, and I think that yours and your husbands are mutually exclusive. Only one of you will find happiness at the expense of the other. You should give serious consideration to leaving him.
As smart and as capable as your husband may be, I think the jokes on him, as the simple truth has escaped him. Money can not buy one happiness, but only distraction, to take ones mind off the fact that they’re not happy. If not now, then when. Life is a funny, unpredictable thing. Unusually cruel at times, and others, amazingly wonderful. No matter how careful a plan and its execution….. things always go wrong. and when things seem so bad, that’s when life will surprise us.
Your husband wants to control something he cannot control, and this will end in disaster for him, and you as well if you stay with him.
What if you get an abortion out of fear of losing your husband and your marriage and a few weeks later he dies. None of us knows what the future holds, we only know what is and what was.
I’m kind of religious, but I don’t like it when people tout religion like a bludgeoning tool. I just wanted to tell you I think you should read the 23rd psalm. My interpretation is it says we should go through life without fear, no matter how hard and seemingly hopeless things seem, as long as we keep our head up and do the right thing, things will always work out for us in the end.
My advice to you is to let him forward with his life, on his own. I wouldn’t want to be in that car, because soon, its going to hit a wall.
divorice him, raise your baby and he can pay child support and you also get half of everything he has so you should be set if he is so close to being a millionaire.
Sounds like you need to go. You can’t change him. Get an adoption if he means that much to you. Also, unlike what Lush said, you don’t necessarily get half of his money. Depends on what state you’re in. You likely won’t get any of his future earnings unless you show you really need it. Child support laws suck and many women don’t get it b/c men weasel out of it. Sad but true.
drop him like a bag of hot rocks and run. Most likely the 180 is because he is scared stiff. But, get out while you can, get to a women’s shelter, and do not let him know where you are.
WOW thats incredibly horrible. I coudnt imagine how horrible you must feel right now. Its hard hun it truley is, but i believe that is completely selfish of him and if he wants to act that way then its better off without him. If hes acting this way now it sounds like he would of never made a great father to any child in the future. I know its hard to let go, but think about yourself and the well being of your unborn child. Maybe the thought of having one always seemed great to him but when it came down to it actually happening his nerves kicked in full force and reality hit him. I know i was all excited with trying to concieve my first child until i actually got pregnant i was scared and nervous. Maybe thats whats happening with him. Why not seperate for a few weeks maybe he will change his mind??
I hope i helped and good luck hun im so sorry
WOW you poor thing! What a jerk he is being.
It sounds as though his mind is made up. If you leave him though you will be entitled to half of what he has and he will be screwed, and you will be able to support your baby more than easily enough!
Remind him of that, Im sure he will come around, but then it will be up to you to decide if YOU want to be with HIM they way he has been treating you
I am so sorry you are dealing with this. It’s heartbreaking, and I can not even pretend to imagine what it feels like. I would talk to him and tell him there is no chance of you having an abortion. If he tells you that you have to if you want to be with him, then you have a decision to make. I am very happy that you aren’t willing to abort. I would then "call his bluff" and pack up some things and go stay somewhere else. Wait a week or so, then try talking to him again. If he truly feels that you must get an abortion, then I think your only choice is to leave. Unfortunately, it seems he has fallen into the root of all evil – money. One day, when it will probably be too late, he will realize what he lost. Just remember that every single thing happens for a reason. There is a reason for this. I will keep you in my prayers.
wow he sounds extremely selfish! maybe once you are farther along then he will accept the idea a little more. maybe he just needs time! at least hopefully and if not then i am sorry to say that maybe you guys just need to divorce. collect some child support and move on and raise your baby on your own. it might not be wat you want to hear but maybe it is for the best. good luck with everything mama
I am so sorry about this. I can’t believe what an as*hole he is. He doesn’t deserve you or your baby hun, I would just leave. He’ll later on realize that money, fame, and success not always mean happiness. You’re a lucky woman and I wish the best for you and your baby.
Please, try to be happy… if not for you, for your precious baby.
Good luck, and best wishes to you.
You said you were absolutely opposed to abortion, but I found this chain because I know women in exactly your position. The first answer is, of course, leave the jerk. But whether or not to continue the pregnancy may have a different answer for different women. There is a website that deals with these facts very honestly.
http://www.jennyjerrome.com/pg_i_anti.html