Why can't my wife get her act together and lose weight?
After eight years of marriage and three kids, she is 37 pounds heavier than the day I married her. It doesn’t seem like she cares about me at all, the way she has let herself go. I’ve asked her time and time again whatever happened to the sleek model wife I carried home on our wedding day, and when did this clunker show up to stay, but she doesn’t seem to make much of an effort. I can’t believe that she is so selfish and inconsiderate of my feelings to just balloon out like she has. She whines about how hard it is to lose weight after pregnancy, how I should love her no matter what, all the usual excuses women give, but what it comes down to is that she is thinking only of herself. Not once does she stop to think about what I have to wake up to every morning.
Our sex life has gone downhill, too. I’ll still do it with her, but I just get done quick and am through; she complains about how she is left unsatisfied, but of course she never thinks about how any of this is for me. What can I do about her selfishness?
Ah, la femme beaux!!! 
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Get pics of her when shes hot, and her on a terrible day, and leave them RIGHT next to each other, everywhere she goes. Does she make dinner? move them from the coffee table to the kitchen, does she watch tv? back to the coffee table.. OR CALL HER A FATASS AND RUN, lol. How do have s*x with a fat person? ;\
Notice how all the haters are women? LOL. HEY EVERYBODY, READ THIS: He isn’t cheating, and he does love his wife as he likes her, its just shes fat. He WANTS his wife, thats why he’s asking the question. I don’t love to hate you.
Haha tres amusant!
OMG Are you serious! why dont you go spit out 3 kids to a selfish ungrateful man like yourself and see how depressed and run down you get!!!
She is wingeing because your crap in bed, dont worry she will find someone else who she will enjoy more soon!
Wow…
How much do you weigh? She could subtract that weight from her life.
Obviously you insulting her and making her feel bad about herself isn’t working.
You COULD buy gym memberships for both of you and go together. Or take long walks, or jog, or go for bike rides, or hiking. And cook healthy food together (dump out the junk food when she isn’t looking).
When she starts to drop a few pounds, praise her to the heavens.
Heh!
::::kicking back to see how many people take the bait::::
wow…..you sound like a great husband! wtf-you do realize your wife gave you THREE children & only gained 37lbs! It is VERY hard for a women to lose weight when she has children & so much else to worry about. Maybe you should think about trying to help out with the kids more?? And I don’t blame her-I wouldn’t want to have sex with you either if you talked to me that way!
HER SELFISHNESS? Are you for real? If you tell her she is fat, she will just start getting fatter. I hope she does lose weight, but I bet when she gets her confidence back, she will leave your sorry ass.
You have 3 children by this woman and you talk about her this way? You at least got your profile name right.
you’re an asshole.
You need to go out there and try to impress a young woman with your perfect physique, you amazing catch you.
What a knuckle dragging cretin you are!!!
You carry and birth the next 3 children and let’s see you handle the pregnancy weight and all that goes with it.
Wow! I would stay fat on purpose so I wouldn’t have to have sex you!
I gained a lot of weight during my pregnancy. Much more then 37lbs. I kept trying diets after diets and nothing worked. One day my husband told me to stop the madness and to just love myself the way I was because he did!…….guess what happened? I was so touched by the dept of his love that I lost all the weight in 3 months.
Why don’t you tell your wife you love her instead of telling her each day she’s not good enough for you!
My ex never treated me like it mattered what I looked like. He was indifferent to me regardless of how hard I tried to look nice. Perhaps if you gave her more of an incentive, she might be more motivated to lose. Treat her like it matters instead of like a piece of furniture. I think self esteem could be part of her/your problem.
There is also the issue that it is extremely difficult, if not impossible for some people to lose weight. Maybe you could encourage her by joining a gym TOGETHER and offering to pay (in a nice way) for her to go to a weight loss center.
Maybe she is stressed out. You not accepting the fact she is who she is, could be causing her stress then resulting into weight gain. I would not push her too hard, because that will never ever work, you have to give her, her own space and time to do what she feels she has to do. I’m sure it is hard to loose weight after being pregnant, you’re not a woman, you honestly can’t speak for her when it comes to that kind of thing. Honestly, if u keep pushing and pushing that will ultimately ruin your guys marriage, so if I were you, I’d give her some time to work it out.
well i wouldn’t feel attractive with a cheating husband who treats her like crap … maybe you should treat her better , i am sure your a prize to wake up to too .. if your that unhappy geta divorce
your coming on to her to aggressively. no one over weight wants to hear "your fat! i don’t like you!" she probably doesn’t want to lose the weight not out of selfishness but because you make it seem like you don’t love her for who she is. how do you look? do you still look the same after all these years? she wont lose weight only because YOU want her too, that wont work, she will have to do it because SHE wants to. be kinder and tell her that you should both workout together, because im sure it is hard to lose weight after birth, with your support and help she will be more motivated. be patient too, you don’t lose 37 lbs overnight!
and who are you to say shes selfish? you too are being selfish! to me it sounds like you are only worried about your feelings and obviously not hers!
First of all you need to stop being selfish yourself…..second i have had four kids and it is a little harder to lose that extra baby fat for some people. third it might help if you approched her differently, "what happened to the sleek model wife I carried home on our wedding day, and when did this clunker show up to stay?" if that was said to me it would not incourage me to get active either, I would think that you ONLY loved me for what i looked like. Get active with her, support her and help her, don’t put her down and say she is selfish, all I am reading is how YOU think she needs to lose the weight, YOU get to finish during sex, YOU want her back the way she used to be, and YOU don’t seem to care for her…only what she looks like on YOUR arm…..grow the hell up…..be there for her in GOOD ways, not negative ways
Why the hell don’t you tell her to go find someone who will appreciate what she does. And leave your bum a$$. You are so messed up. I have one kid and work out just about everyday and still haven’t been able to get back down to where I was before I got prego. It is alot harder than you think. Stop being such a jerk to her and love her for who she is and not what she is. This is so messed up in so many ways. That poor woman is more than likely extremely depressed which adds weight. You know why she is so depressed because you talk to her like you do. So maybe if you would stop being such an a$$ she could loss 10 lbs just from not being depressed that her husband don’t want her no more. Or maybe you could offer to work out with her you know give her some motivation. Im sure you aren’t the same as you were when you got married. You don’t look all that great now Im sure. Stop being such an a$$ and be more supportive and act with her and maybe she might make some progress.
I don’t understand how your wife can take all that weight, she really needs to leave you so she can loose all the EMOTIONAL weigh you are putting on her right now.
My wife wont put the fork down either. This destroyed our sex life.