What are the causes of a person being gay and what effects does it have on the parents and them?
Hi I am 20 and I am a gay male and I have known I was gay since I was a little boy growing up with so many feelings inside of me,anyway
I didn’t choose to be who I am,no one recruited me,I didn’t wake up one day and decide to turn my life around-as my mom says,no one put a magic curse on me that made me gay,this is who I am and who so many other people are,I have to work hard to keep negative homophobic thoughts out of my head,there may or may not be something in me that is making me for no reason develop very very intense,romantic,s*****,uncontrollable feelings for other men, my dad doesn’t want me to bring it up to him,so I don’t but he has no idea all the times I tried to end my life because of negative thoughts and stress and depression and thoughts of suicide,that was a while ago,today I am feeling better,anyway does anyone have any idea what is causing me to automatically to develop what I feel for other men??????
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well some say its genetics some say its from the enviroment but for me i rather just accept it and stick with that fact that im lucky that im here.. some people may stereotype us as something different but what the heck!!! i mean its our life we run not them running our lives… i used to think that way too.. but looking at the bright side i just showed people what i can do.. im not doin anything wrong or bad.. then people will eventually learn and respect me.. i guess u can do the same look at ur life positively and dont think of being gay hinders u from achieving what u want.. rememeber we are created uniquely per individual.
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First of all, do NOT end your life. It will get better, I promise.
Being gay is not a choice, but you do have the choice to accept who you are and learn to like yourself, or repress it and be miserable. Yes, society is harsh sometimes, but the LGBT community has never been more accepted. Just a few hundred years ago, you could have been burnt at the stake.
Surround yourself with people who will accept you for who you are. Anyone who won’t isn’t worth hanging around anyways. Before you know it, you won’t have a single negative thought in your head about your sexuality. If you’re not out yet to you community, join an online forum. http://www.postsecretcommunity.com/chat/ is an excellent community, and they have an awesome LGBT board full of people who will support you 110% (you can’t see the LGBT boards till you sign up, there are a few board restricted to member-only access.)
Parents can be a bit tricky, but it sounds like your mom is already fine with it, which is awesome. Sometimes, parents don’t like thinking their kids are gay, even if they’re actually OK about other people being gay. I suspect your father might be really accepting, if/when you get a boyfriend. Just stay away from too many PDA’s, you’re father’s probably straight, and straight guys generally don’t enjoy watching two men make out (if you had a lesbian daughter, would you want her to bring home a girlfriend and watch her have a make-out session? Doubt it. Would you be alright if she brought home a girlfriend, and respected that you don’t want to watch them get it on? Probably. If your dad doesn’t want the details, don’t assume he’s homophobic, men just probably aren’t his forte).
If you want to talk to a parent, it sounds like your mom would be a good choice. She’s already trying to make you feel good about yourself, let her.
theres no causes to being gay, its not something that just happens, it starts from being a child, and you just know your different. And with parents, its hard sometimes, but you just have to explain to them, that your sexual orentation, has nothing to do with you being a son. Just like if you were staright it would have nothing to do with you being a bad or good son. And if you parents can’t understand that, then i’m sorry but even though that is your family you don’t need anyone in your life who is toxic, and doesn’t support you. All you can do is explain to them, is that you can’t change being gay anymore then you can change your natural hair color, or eye color. And hopefully there’ll come around.
good luck.