Comments on: Is My Marriage Dead? My Husband Ignores Me All The Time? http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/790/help-is-my-marriage-dead-my-husband-ignores-me-all-the-time-not-because-i-dont-try-to-talk-to-him/ Sat, 11 Feb 2012 14:09:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Annie http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/790/help-is-my-marriage-dead-my-husband-ignores-me-all-the-time-not-because-i-dont-try-to-talk-to-him/comment-page-1/#comment-105245 Annie Thu, 22 Dec 2011 05:11:38 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/790/help-is-my-marriage-dead-my-husband-ignores-me-all-the-time-not-because-i-dont-try-to-talk-to-him/#comment-105245 Husband and I been married 40 plus years. The first 10 years of marriage were OK not great! We only had sex maybe 2 dozen time in those 10 years. Then the next 30 years I have been totally ignored, no sex, intimacy no nothing. My husband has known all along I've been lonely and that I need touching and loving. But all that fell on deaf ears. He has had no desire for me,I'am just a friend to him. I thought all men needed sex but not him he was bound and determined that wasn't going to happen. He moved down stairs so he didn't have to be with me, we rarely speak to each other. He did tell me that sex with me was dull and a chore. So here we are in our 60s hes as happy as can be and I'am just forgotten. I just want to feel someone with strong arms to hold me so I can cry. Husband and I been married 40 plus years.
The first 10 years of marriage were OK not great! We only had sex maybe 2 dozen time in those 10 years. Then the next 30 years I have been totally ignored, no sex, intimacy no nothing. My husband has known all along I’ve been lonely and that I need touching and loving. But all that fell on deaf ears. He has had no desire for me,I’am just a friend to him. I thought all men needed sex but not him he was bound and determined that wasn’t going to happen. He moved down stairs so he didn’t have to be with me, we rarely speak to each other. He did tell me that sex with me was dull and a chore. So here we are in our 60s hes as happy as can be and I’am just forgotten. I just want to feel someone with strong arms to hold me so I can cry.

]]> By: ThereNBackTwice http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/790/help-is-my-marriage-dead-my-husband-ignores-me-all-the-time-not-because-i-dont-try-to-talk-to-him/comment-page-1/#comment-188 ThereNBackTwice Thu, 02 Jul 2009 21:38:52 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/790/help-is-my-marriage-dead-my-husband-ignores-me-all-the-time-not-because-i-dont-try-to-talk-to-him/#comment-188 Wow, that sounds pretty dreadful. You do have choices, though: 1. You can continue to vascilate between being ignored and being screamed at. 2. You can be a doormat, cut yourself off from your own emotions so that you don't drive yourself crazy, give your husband all the space he wants, stay home, initiate sex so that he can feel satisfied in that area, and pretend that nothing is wrong for the next 50 years. 3. You can calmly explain to him that you love him, and your family, and that you believe that this is worth saving, but that you need help, and would appreciate an opportunity to work with a counselor before calling a lawyer. 4. You can run for your life, and for your children's lives, too. What are you teaching them about marriage, anyway? That it's okay for daddy to ignore and yell at mommy? If you give it a good, honest try, but can't work things out, then you and your children will all be better off without all of the drama anyway. And then your husband can find someone else to ignore and yell at. You deserve so much better. Wow, that sounds pretty dreadful. You do have choices, though:
1. You can continue to vascilate between being ignored and being screamed at.

2. You can be a doormat, cut yourself off from your own emotions so that you don’t drive yourself crazy, give your husband all the space he wants, stay home, initiate sex so that he can feel satisfied in that area, and pretend that nothing is wrong for the next 50 years.

3. You can calmly explain to him that you love him, and your family, and that you believe that this is worth saving, but that you need help, and would appreciate an opportunity to work with a counselor before calling a lawyer.

4. You can run for your life, and for your children’s lives, too. What are you teaching them about marriage, anyway? That it’s okay for daddy to ignore and yell at mommy? If you give it a good, honest try, but can’t work things out, then you and your children will all be better off without all of the drama anyway. And then your husband can find someone else to ignore and yell at. You deserve so much better.

]]> By: Jane Marple http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/790/help-is-my-marriage-dead-my-husband-ignores-me-all-the-time-not-because-i-dont-try-to-talk-to-him/comment-page-1/#comment-189 Jane Marple Thu, 02 Jul 2009 21:38:52 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/790/help-is-my-marriage-dead-my-husband-ignores-me-all-the-time-not-because-i-dont-try-to-talk-to-him/#comment-189 How long has this been going on? Is it some kind of new phase or it's been like that for years? I was in the same boat as you. I left him and he came begging me to come back. Once I was gone I felt like a ton had been lifted off my shoulders and I never went back. Truth is `you are not happy` so call that lawyer. How long has this been going on? Is it some kind of new phase or it’s been like that for years?

I was in the same boat as you. I left him and he came begging me to come back. Once I was gone I felt like a ton had been lifted off my shoulders and I never went back.

Truth is `you are not happy` so call that lawyer.

]]> By: serenity113001 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/790/help-is-my-marriage-dead-my-husband-ignores-me-all-the-time-not-because-i-dont-try-to-talk-to-him/comment-page-1/#comment-190 serenity113001 Thu, 02 Jul 2009 21:38:52 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/790/help-is-my-marriage-dead-my-husband-ignores-me-all-the-time-not-because-i-dont-try-to-talk-to-him/#comment-190 I'm sorry that I don't know what to tell you because I guess it could be a number of things but when I was married, my ex-husband became like that and I found out why. He was cheating on me and I guess was giving the single life a test-run. He did it when we lived in Germany with all of his buddies and although we had separated (I went back to the states), he did it again after promising that he would change and that he cared, blah, blah, blah...I don't know but the whole fact that he gets so defensive was something that my ex did and now I know why. I hope that it's not the same situation for you as I would not wish what happened to me on my worst enemy. However my experience is the only advice or just words I can offer you. Good luck and take care... I’m sorry that I don’t know what to tell you because I guess it could be a number of things but when I was married, my ex-husband became like that and I found out why. He was cheating on me and I guess was giving the single life a test-run. He did it when we lived in Germany with all of his buddies and although we had separated (I went back to the states), he did it again after promising that he would change and that he cared, blah, blah, blah…I don’t know but the whole fact that he gets so defensive was something that my ex did and now I know why. I hope that it’s not the same situation for you as I would not wish what happened to me on my worst enemy. However my experience is the only advice or just words I can offer you. Good luck and take care…

]]> By: Cher http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/790/help-is-my-marriage-dead-my-husband-ignores-me-all-the-time-not-because-i-dont-try-to-talk-to-him/comment-page-1/#comment-191 Cher Thu, 02 Jul 2009 21:38:52 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/790/help-is-my-marriage-dead-my-husband-ignores-me-all-the-time-not-because-i-dont-try-to-talk-to-him/#comment-191 save your sanity~ kick his butt out though you and the kids need the roof over your heads more than he does kids know that parents are unhappy, don't stay together "for the kids sake" they will be better off being w/one happy parent then 2 miserable ones save your sanity~ kick his butt out though you and the kids
need the roof over your heads more than he does

kids know that parents are unhappy, don’t stay together
"for the kids sake"
they will be better off being w/one happy parent then 2 miserable ones

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