How do I make myself love my girlfriend again?
My girlfriend broke up with me about 3 months ago and it really broke my heart. I loved her so much and she moved on but we stayed good mates. About 2 months later she said to me that she missed me and she still loved me and she wanted to get back together. I said yes because i do still love her, but in the time that we broke up I was trying to get over her and I nearly got there. Now i think she loves me a lot more, but i dont seem to love her as much as I did. When i sit here and think about it I always think I should tell her because she deserves better, but i know I will regret it. Can anyone help me asap because im stuck in 2 minds on weather to tell her how i feel (but i know i will miss her after that) or shall i give it time and see if my feelings change for her and go back to the way they did? Thanks
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Oh yeah that’s gonna work out great for you. It does sound like she deserves better. Anyone willing to take someone back after they crapped all over them, got dumped and tried for the rebound, without having the self respect to kick her to the curb is a gutless wimp. Try standing up for yourself and not letting her use you for a little while until she finds some other reason to dump you again. Hell its not love you are short on its trust. If you can actually come up with a good reason to trust her again then you might have a shot. At being the most gullible man alive. You really want to be "that guy"? The sniveling down trodden crybaby that didn’t think he could do better than a gal that dumped him, went and had a fling for 2 months and then came back? You’d be better off never dating again, holding nothing but contempt in your soul for the balance of humanity. Or you could just tell her that you don’t think you’d really have as good a relationship as you had before. Tell her you care about her but don’t want to be in a relationship with her again. Within a week she will be dating someone else. Don’t be a fool, there isn’t anything wrong with you. Stop acting like there is.
You won’t miss her she isn’t going anywhere. You have to know when to say when.
Hey. Sorry – there’s no way to ‘make’ yourself feel anything. I think you still care about this girl, so you don’t want to hurt her, but that’s caring; it’s not passionate ‘got to be with her right now’ sort of love. I think this is where you’re confused.
Of course you’ll miss her – nobody can expect you to turn your feelings off like a tap – but missing her doesn’t mean you should BE with her. It does take time to get over someone, even if you’ve already known for a while that you want to leave them. If you’re having doubts, then that means there’s something amiss, unfortunately… if you’re spending this much time and energy thinking about it, then I think your instincts are trying to tell you something. Sorry, but hope this helps…